Jealousy

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  1. L-u-c-y
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    If your Mistress has other male subs/slaves, do you ever get jealous?

    Or are you glad she has more people to serve her and make her happy?
     
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    Yes sometimes Mistress
     
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    Don't have a Mistress but one would assume that the goal is for her life to be better in all aspects and if there are ways to achieve that with different subs who can accomplish that then there is no need for jealously. If her world is better, then your world by default will be to. A submissive should be in a supportive role no matter what that is.
     
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    I think I’d be jealous
     
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    My Mistress has other subs/slaves. I'm not jealous of what she does with them, I know very little of what she does with them. I know I'm not doing the same as them.
     
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    I have no experience but I know I would not like it.
     
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    It only reminds me how inferior my service is and how grateful I need to be that there are others who can attend to her needs and wishes.
     
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    Jealousy is self-destructive. i learned a long time ago that you need to find a way to be happy with your relationship, and do not concern yourself with any other slave relationships that She may have. They are none of your business anyway.

    I'd say focus on being the best slave you can be, and don't worry about anyone else,
     
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    I feel happy for Goddess and for myself. The more people serve my Mistress, the better my Mistress's life would be. The more people my Mistress control, the more powerful she is to me.
     
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    I think it would be odd if they didn’t have other people
     
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    I jettisoned jealousy a long time ago. It is extremely counter-productive.
     
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    I only have two subs, but I tell any prospective sub that I have no time for jealousy. Having multiple subs is about me, never a reflection on the quality of each sub.

    On the other hand, I don't share details of what I do with each sub. I don't allow them to complain, but I also don't rub it in their faces. No problems so far.
     
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    When I did have one, yes. But I never mentioned my feelings on the subject
     
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    My Mistress has many subs which brings her great pleasure. I am therefor please for her to have even more and grateful to be one of them. (My "wants" are irrelevant.)
     
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    As a slave owned by a wife, I never get jealous. I believe freedom is the greatest aphrodisiac. I find freedom in serving. Goddess finds freedom with other men. It enriches our relationship.
     
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    Wow talk about a great topic

    When I was new to BDSM many decades ago, I was very jealous. I was also very homophobic. So looking back it's so cool to see how far I've come.

    In my case, my first Domme cucked me with a sub she met after we'd been together about 6 months or so. I was still new and I believe she only had a few years experienced and none having multiple subs.

    So when she brought on the second guy I tried to be supportive. But frustration and jealousy eventually destroyed our relationship and I ended things because she was spending all of her time with him and not giving me any.

    What's so sad is that it things ended due to bad communication. The good is that I learned that I needed time and that if I was going to be involved with someone that we would discuss the major rules in the beginning and that as things came up we'd communicate and adjust.

    So over many years, I've had some great relationships, and a few horrible ones. My last was with someone I refer to as my ex. While we never married we did move in together and were together a decent amount of time (several years). I've mentioned this but the only reason we broke up was due to an issue that she had that she wouldn't get help for. Otherwise, it was amazing.

    The thing was that in the beginning we discussed things and we explored and tried things as she was ready. She began the relationship as a vanilla and when we broke up was a Domme to die for. She had a female lover who was a former Domme of mine, and the Domme's husband was our lover. We also had other men join us as she felt and we never had a jealousy issue.

    So I'm hoping that as I move forward in life that I use what I've learned and experienced to be the best submissive and cuckold that I can be. And while I'm those things I'm also human so I know I have needs and it's my responsibility to make sure that they're communicated and met. And I do that by being open and honest and having frank hard discussions.

    It's a LOT of work. But IMHO it's worth every bit as the things in life that are worth the most require work. Sadly too many thing that love is all you need. I say love is just the start. Hard work, respect and honesty are the beginning.

    As far as jealousy all of the above won't stop it, and as much as we think it's a bad thing the reality is we can't avoid it. But we can work to control it and use it to keep our relationship(s) healthy and wonderful.

    I hope that this helps others, and may everyone here have a happy and extra kinky New Year.
     
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    I'm sure it would be jealousy. But it might help check the male ego that I have
     
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    I would feel jealous but I would accept it.
     
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    Hello Lucy,
    I cannot lie...I DO feel jealous quite often! Of course Madame explains to me when I use that word that “you mean envious”. No matter what word is chosen I do feel envious of others being honored by her time and attention. Yet, I also wish the absolute best for her, every second of her day! If she finds happiness in her other slaves/pets/boys or bois I am happy for her.
    Being a true submissive I must understand that I am NOT the center of her world...SHE IS MINE!! I have learned by many teachings and QUITE a bit of Madame’s patience that she ALLOWS me her time and I will ONLY get what I am allowed. I have grown to appreciate that and CHERISH EVERY SECOND SHE ALLOWS ME!
     
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    My wife has not mentioned or hinted at getting another sub, online or real life. I will say that I would be mortified.

    I do not get jealous by physical acts, I can honestly say that if she told me she thought someone was hot and wanted to sleep with them, I would not be upset or jealous. If she said that someone was really smart, funny, submissive, and she wanted to spend time with him...I would be very upset. That’s my realm.

    The intimacy and trust between domme and sub is not something that you can just write off as casual. Sharing an emotional bond with someone else is a breach in trust that goes beyond my limits.

    Which one would make me jealous or hurt me more:
    She finds someone physically attractive, has meaningless sex with him, or
    She develops an emotional bond with another submissive.
    -her with another sub

    Her being with another sub would crush me. One of the big things about a D/s relationship is that it makes each person feel special. Unique. We hope to feel irreplaceable and needed. If my domme felt she could could just go to Walmart and pick up another anytime she wanted, I would feel unappreciated.

    Good question though, I have always wondered how anyone could have multiple subs (not the pros but amateurs). Speaking of professionals, if we are speaking about pro Dommes having multiple subs...no it would not make me jealous. It’s a business, and the only thing that would bother me in that situation is if she limited my normal amount of time to accommodate another. But that would be more of a business complaint than jealousy.
     
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    Between both my current Lady and myself as indeed with all previous partners exclusivity has always been a mutually agreed hard limit or condition.

    So no slaves for her and no sex with other people for either of us.

    Each to their own of course but any breach of that and for me the relationship terminates there and then. Without trust you have nothing and in those circumstances I'd prefer to have nothing.
     
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    I would love it and want to know everything about them.
     
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    Although we have never talked about my wife having another submissive, she has talked about sleepying with other women.

    She is bisexual and has stated I will be the last man she ever has a relationship with and she prefers women. The subject came up more often in our younger days, but I do have a jealously streak that I think has always been what’s kept it from happening (well and running a business has kept us both pretty busy and has made keeping our kinky lives more on the hush hush more important.

    We have talked, only very briefly, about finding someone whom we could both dominate, as I have a dominate personality in our daily life but I submit to my wife and whomever she asks me too.
     
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    Precisely!

    Well said.
     
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    Since she is my wife that is a no go. But I wont have other Mistresses either.
     
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