This question is asked by many of you involved in male chastity. The answer most likely is that your partner/mistress/keyholder is not sure herself. For most females their place in society is proscribed by societal pressure and media expectations. We are the carers, the nurturers and the pleasers. We keep the peace and keep everyone happy. Very seldom are we given the chance to dominate anything, we follow a defined path for females. More questions on google ask is my son a genius than is my daughter and more ask is my daughter fat than is my son. There are roles and we are put into them from an early age. Most of the D/s literature and media shows the female in the submissive role. This is probably because historically the female would very seldom be anything else, in many cases the law exacerbated this. Over the last few years as females have become more self sufficient and less reliant on their father/husband allowing them to do something the world is changing albeit very slowly. Using myself as an example, it took me until I was in my late 40s to realise that I was dominant and that you don’t have to be a caricature dominatrix to be so. Granted I love that image so I embrace it. Females who have only ever seen their role as a facilitator will have great difficulty in changing their mindset. Is your Keyholder naturally dominant? Who knows, keep an eye and watch for the tell tale signs of her not saying what she thinks, stepping back when you know she is more than capable. If you see those signs there is a chance she is more dominant than she seems, she just doesn’t know what to do with it. This is where you can help and together you can bring the beautiful powerful dominant to the fore. Good luck gentlemen.