is wearing a chastity cage make social anxiety and depression?

Just the opposite for me. I’m reminded that I’m loved and protected while caged. Also the steady hormonal state achieved when denied keeps my emotional swings to a minimum. 24/7 chastity under the care of a loving Wife is absolutely a great way to not be anxious and avoid depression.

However, IF you aren’t submissive or don’t want to be caged by a dominant I’d expect the outcome to be different.

 

same here! Keeps me focused on serving and stops my mind from wandering.

 

LIkewise. I like feeling owned, and being locked 24/7 means I am my whole self.

 

Everyone is different. If you’re feeling bad when in chastity, you should stop doing it.

 

I have felt those things when unlocked for a period of time.

 

Whether you are locked or just practice orgasm denial and control, you will avoid the mood swings and emotional drop that comes after orgasm. At least you can limit how often you orgasm and recognize your emotional change after you orgasm, or only have ruined or prostate release that should result in lesser emotional lows.
If you are self locking and single, try to also do some exercise or other activities that combined with the orgasm denial can be a tool for self improvement.

 

Same here

 

Everyone is different of course.

The nofap peeps, who don't watch porn or masturbate or orgasm for long periods, suggest that the there are periods of "flatline" that can resemble minor depression:
* https://andreian.com/nofap-flatline/
* https://mywealthshop.com/nofap-flatline/
* https://mrmindblowing.com/nofap-flatline-12-signs-and-how-to-come-out-of-it/

It's normal to feel some negative feelings when first being locked and denied for long periods. We are, after all, messing with a load of hormones and neurotransmitters and it's madness to think it has zero impact on metal health and wellness.

I feel a bit depressed around a month in, and it lasts a few days. I haven't gone past 38 days between unlocks so I cannot say what long term is like but my KH wants to try a long time (4 months) without even a second unlocked.

From what she has read she thinks that around 2-4 months is where the magic happens and us sex starved men can find bliss haha.

I have a feeling (based on nothing more than my own reading and observations) that after around a month the eurphoria of being caged begins to wear off and that results in a dopamine crash, and that causes minor despressive symptoms. Maybe bliss is after that, once dopamine receptors settle back to normal. Maybe!

 

That all sounds about right. My "permanent chastity" kicked off during lockdown, so it's hard to disentangle the feelings I've experienced.

 

I experienced domination on such a high level...I was type a in control man...I know what happened...my body released endorphins...they altered my personality and sexuality. I no longer fit where I was. I am submissive and I have orgasms that are so intense. I am submissive now...I live for sex...and making people cum...I don't see any purpose beyond that. I became transgender.

 

Some great answers already.

I want to add that the first few (1-2) days after release are fine, and later, after getting "over the hump" (i.e. into sub space), I'm fine.

But: In between can be tough. That's where I really need help from her (and don't typically get any). Seriously, if she paddled me or teased me or whatever, it would drive me right into the zone where I'm good to go (where I am putty in her hands). Instead, I have to deal with my frustration for a few days until the hormones overwhelm me and drown me back into place. And since she hates my frustration etc., I have to find ways to get through it silently and without complaining. (Yeah, yeah ... first world problems. )

So yeah, during that time, I get a bit anxious and down.

 

Dude, are you really in this on your own? If so, that's rough. Does you wife do anything to take part in your chastity adventure?

 

Hi Naveen, are you asking because you've read somewhere that this might happen, or are you starting to experience feelings of depression yourself? I see that you're a young single guy so you're doing this all on your own, so there's nobody to "tease and deny" you while you are locked up, and you've also mentioned that you're using a CB600 style cage. I think the general consensus on those is that they were trail blazers once upon a time, but have since been surpassed by many other cages. So using one of them is a bit like using a Blackberry when everybody else is using all sorts of different smart phones.

My personal recommendation would be to switch to a HT style cage, you can get cheap knock-off versions on ebay for under $20. You will have to file and sand off some of the edges but you can make them work.

But back to your original question, if you are feeling bouts of depression, maybe you should stop and take a break to get your head together. This is supposed to be fun. Sure, it's also supposed to be frustrating, but frustration is not depression.

 

As mentioned many times,long term chastity changes the body chemistry and induces you into a state of calm submissiveness.
Anxiety is only felt perhaps while edged and teased,but in a positive way because it is like putting wood into the fire to enhance the whole process.
But everyone is different!

 

It's a mix. Sometimes, she's quite involved; other times not. Her batteries seem to recharge pretty slowly after sex, so for 4-5 days, the idea of sex doesn't even seem to exist in her world. And of course, days 2-5 are probably the toughest for me.

I didn't want it to sound like I'm complaining; I really wasn't. It's the hand that I am dealt, and I love her and so I choose to deal with some frustration on my own (so that she doesn't have to).

Look, it's an awful lot of work being married to a horny guy. It really is. Before we started down this path, we were having sex 350+ times a year, and I was probably jacking off another 300 times a year

But now, I'd rather she be happy and content, and not feel constantly pressured (which is how I always made her feel before). So I've made it my job to learn to deal with the frustration. If only I could figure out how to compress days 2-5 into a few minutes

 

@true42 yeah, you just do what you can. Best I can suggest is that you treat chastity as the end-goal rather than a means to an end. By that I mean, you must have already figured out that once you are a few days past your last orgasm, you get that happy buzz in your head and that tingling in your groin, well, just enjoy that instead of the endless orgasms that you used to get. That way, you shouldn't need to pester your wife for something that she's not in the mood for. Then, when she's good and ready, you'll get whatever reward that she decides to give you, but that will be a reward rather than an expectation.

As I sit here typing this, I'm totally enjoying the feeling down there of being in my cage, this is so much better than life pre-chastity. I find that I'm in a good mood most of the time, whereas I could be quite moody before. And the intensity of the love between my wife and myself is off the charts. Who needs sex when you have all that? Now, having said that, I do get to give her oral fairly frequently, which is my new sex, but even what isn't happening, I am so much happier now. So just enjoy the ride and don't worry about the destination.

 

Yup, that's a pretty good description.

Once I'm over the frustration hump (once the hormones take over my brain), things are awesome, and life is bliss. I just wish I didn't have to wait days for that to happen

 

So it's the post-orgasm blues that you don't like, I get it. So, either try to get less of them or go for ruined's whenever possible. Of course, the decision will often not be yours to make, lol.

 

My Wife loves denial, which can make me feel lonely, which of course CAN lead to depression. So what I do is TELL her. I say I’m sorry I love you but I need some intimacy. For us this isn’t a demand or even a request for sex, it’s a request to share private time and be reassured she deeply loves me and my sacrifices make her happy. Be sure to do this, in a gentle and non pressure way, if you need support.

 

That is so true. In our pre-chastity lives, at bedtime she'd be on her tablet playing a game and I'd be watching TV. With chastity, if I'm not giving her oral, we're at least cuddling and talking to each other. Then one night, after maybe 5 nights of no oral, when I got into bed, she was on her tablet and she didn't put it down. After waiting 5 minutes or so, I just put on the TV and carried on as normal, but this upset me as it felt like a return to the old days. The next day, she could tell I was down, so she asked me about it and we talked. Basically, I told her that it doesn't take much, just a hug here or a touch there, just some gentle reminder that she's still in it, you have to water the flowers to let them grow. From her point of view, the "cost to benefit ratio" is totally there, just sprinkle a few loving moments and you get a happy husband who's eager to take household chores off of your plate, etc, etc.

 

Its true in the beginning.. its a self-imposed regiment to stop masturbation after a confession to my wife.. and right after a visit to the fertility clinic.. its a defeatist strategy.. its owning up some form of weakness.. i was self locking on and off before.. but living up the male chastity is real life with a partner exposes my male ego that has been chastised, causing me to have mood swings that certain things which were once my forte became vulnerable for scrutiny.. so i was to play with myself less, i was to have ejaculation less, i was to workout more, i was to eat healthier.. there needs to be buildup of libido/testosterone before having sex.. hello.. i was playing with my dick everyday before that.. denial, blame, anxiety, acceptance.. ? U bet. The power exchange was real. Ok, i have moved on.. and the chastity on me gladly remains..