My wife has always indulged my BDSM submissive fantasies for the last 15 years but generally doesn't have the kink like me. So getting her to behave exactly like a Dom really has never happened but that is OK. She goes as far as she is willing and that’s way awesome to me that she participates at all. So it took a little courage for me to bring up the idea of a chastity device. It has been a long-held fantasy for me but to a Vanilla person, the idea of keeping somebody’s genitalia locked up for an extended period of time is pretty abnormal even for a couple that practices bondage in the bedroom only. She was open to the idea so I purchased a Holy Trainer v3. I thought that I would need to beg her to allow me to put it on. She would forget about it. It would be limited to foreplay, etc. In other words, the typical behaviors we have played out in our many happy years together where I am “Topping from the Bottom”. Fortunately/Unfortunately, she has taken to this keyholder idea. After a little initial break-in, she has locked me in the device with a sentence of 4 full days. I am currently on day 2 with ZERO sexual activity and building frustration. After getting a glimpse of this new reality, I am beginning to realize that there is little actual sex to be had in this scenario <no duh moment>. There are waves of euphoria in the beginning and that is great but as you settle in to a stretch, those feelings become less and an orgasm will not be achieved until I am let out. So my struggle right now is “Is it worth it?” Do I really want to settle into a life where I have great orgasms but spend the rest of the time with something locked around my dick and balls? Am I sure that I want this in my life? I asked my wife about it and her first response is “You wanted this and No I will not give you the key”. But then I asked “Does it please you that I am locked in this? Are you getting something out of this, because right now I am not”. She said back to me, “I like to see how frustrated you get. And it turns me on.” That was enough for me to want to keep it on for now. I feel that more time will give us some revelations, but this experience is not what I thought it was going to be. I know this is rambling but any wisdom here would be appreciated.