IS THIS CHASTITY? Really?

Great pictures. You are way bigger than me. My CB6000 s is twice as big as I am flaccid. I need a small cage I see you do not.

 

Some might lock it away in a tiny device for the effect of emasculating themselves. I find any device that prevents erection, orgasms, or any self pleasure does that already.

I think th size of your cage is the one that fits best. Mine is small, cause you guessed it, I'm small. I've tried the super small ones cause I was told they are more comfortable...they are to a point, then I get a sore or rash from it being squished in there and I have to go cage free.

So whatever fits you best. I can't imagine anyone wearing something uncomfortable for extended periods of time.

 

The original post seems rather narrow minded. There is no one right way of doing Chastity.

Those who like small cages might get off on the humilation or feminization side of things, or just have small dicks.
There are people who use the honor method of chastity, who wonder why anyone would want to make teasing harder by locking it away.
And of course, the majority of the population probably think we are all weird.

 

The Majority of the population " Is Weird" and who really cares what they think. That is my Opinion

 

Good for you. You found what works for you. But everyone is different so their ideas on Chastity are also different. Just like no to tattoos are the same

 

Different strokes for different folks, I guess. We're not into trying to make my cock shrink (which chastity can't really do in any permanent sense anyway). My wife just likes knowing that I can't use it in the ways that I would like. I think for most couples, especially the women who enjoy having their man locked up, the fun factor comes primarily from the power exchange.

 

Well it's GOOD thing @lockankeyed has figured out this chastity things for all of us. To think this WHOLE time none us knew we were doing wrong.
THANKS lockankeyed.

 

@lockankeyed well you has got a great big one and that's nice for you. Some folks on here aint got a big one and so they has small cages. i am small and so my cage is as well but i'm not all scrunch up in it. its just that i'm small so please don't go on bout it. i like your piccys.

 

There are advantages in going small like very little profile even if you wear tighter pants, with bulkiy ones you almost always have to wear baggy pants/shorts unless you want to attract attention. They also tend to be more comfortable as very little or no erection can occur in it. Finally if you enjoy crossdressing/feminization aspect, a much smaller cage looks way better in panties than something that is bulky.

btw theres also some ladies/kh that like small penis in tiny cages so its not just the men.
A good example
https://youralphagirl.tumblr.com/

 

Personally I cannot read a post when someone refers to their penis as their clitty. It honestly upsets me. I find it disrespectful to women, the ones who have an actual clitoris. I also find those posts much more frantic and more usually heavily influenced by fetish and fantasy. But the last thing I would do is tell them that they are doing something wrong. I just move on and find something more to my taste to read.

As for stuffing my penis into the smallest cage possible, no, don't do that. But I would look ridiculous if I tried to wear a cage the size of yours, it just wouldn't work. It would fall off.

 

Having worn a larger cage and now confined to one much smaller, I have found that erections just never really get started in the tighter cage and therefore, it is much more comfortable in the long run than always straining and having my cock pulling away from the ball ring. Say what you wish, but I am convinced that smaller is better for me!

 

well its only possible if you have a small penis and is a grower as the penis flaccid lenght tend to vary alot like 50% or more. Thus your actual flaccid lenght might be much shorter than you think (unless you are shower).

 

I meant that my penis is far too small to fit into a cage like the one shown in the pictures and that it would fall off as there wouldn't be enough flesh for it to grip into. I am very much a grower as erect I'm almost exactly average for my part of the world.

 

Do I detect just a tiny bit of sarcasm in your text. You did say about a month ago that you wanted the Mansion to be more interesting. When your dealing with people youre going to get many many different opinions. Not everyone is like us from Canada that try and get along with everyone, some just like like to stir the Pot. For the last 7 years I've been wearing my cage the wrong way what will I do know.?

 

More words of Wisdom from someone with experience. Impressive

 

First off I think that many of us into chastity have small cocks. If I did not, I would not be locked up. I could ask if a device that exposes the head of your penis, which can be simulated easily to produce an orgasm, is really chastity. Many think an enclosed cage is the way to go and yet they do not preach about it. There is no rule book to chastity so chastity is whatever you want it to be. I started off with no cage since our interest is T&D. I am unlocked and teased once a week and that works for us given that we are in our mid sixties and my wife has a very small libido and leans more towards women for sexual pleasure. You did not mention if you are locked up 24/7 which some would consider proper chastity. To others, it is not having anything touch your cock that constitutes chastity and your device, which I always thought was one that you put on just when you have sex, us not chastity but what I used to do during BDSM with my wife and our girlfriend. After sex, I did not wear a device.

My point is that most of us do not go around questioning other's view of chastity. I will admit that I get a small chuckle when I read that someone cannot go more than 2 days locked up before they have an orgasm, lock up just for sex or lock up in-between their normal time between sex. I chuckle because that is easy for me but I do not go on a rant about it because it is what my wife and I like. We have done every fetish on fetlife.com during a time when there was no internet so we made up our own methods of doing it. I did not even visit a sex related website until a few years ago where I learned that I lived in a Poly Triad, was a cuckold and bull during my adult years and what we did was chastity or tease and denial. We did not know there were rules and guess what, there are no rules, just those who think they are the ones doing it right and everyone else is wrong. So we were oblivious to what we were supposed to be doing and just had fun with what we were doing.

I do agree that those who say they are forced or cannot masturbate when locked up along with the instant transformation from alpha to sub merely by locking up their cock, is usually more fantasy than truth. Some posts sound like the stories you find on porn fiction websites and those who post them never return. All I care about is help those who ask for it and having a good time, locked or not and in any type of device that pleases me. We are all individuals with different preferences. I prefer if my wife ignores my cock since we have not had intercourse for longer than we can remember, I have ED and my penis appears smaller than it used to be due to weight gain and old age. Therefore my penis is not really desired by my wife since she has no use for it and I do not want to get stressed out when I cannot get erect. We both prefer to just make out for an hour with a little teasing of genitals, usually edging most but not all the time. That is our fun and more than our friends even do.

You obviously are proud of your cock as I was of mine in my younger days when I was underweight and sported an almost 7" one that looked even bigger on my small frame. I always had more than one girlfriend and every relationship I had was with bi women. My wife had heard of me years before we met and I had sex with all of her girlfriends and many in her senior year of high school. My wife shared me with another woman for 30 years and used to use me as bait to lure other women into our bed when my wife as repressing her bisexuality. As I got older and my diabetes gave me ED. Weight gain can hide a few inches of your cock inside of you and old age takes its toll too. That and leaving our long time girlfriend is why we even got into chastity. So my penis is not the center of attention in our chastity play. In fact it is so that my wife does not have to deal with it much as she is not a penis fan since having a female lover for so long. For us, this is chastity and hiding my penis is a big part of it as is preventing erections, even partial ones. We all make up our own rules and refrain from imposing our ideas of chastity on others since we all do it differently and there is no right or wrong way.

 

WHAT?

 

Spot on

 

Heck, if there was a cage that was comfortable, hygienic, had the security of my piercing, and got it out of the way so it was barely there .... I would be in line to buy one.

Living 24/7 with a cage although being part of our dynamic, does produce some not so fun results. Like pinching, constant readjustments moving it up down left right, the way it sits in clothes, the weight, etc etc it's not always about chastity, sometimes wearing a cage is literally a pain.

Since it's rarely used for anything more than a spout to pee out of, it would be wonderful to own a device that minimalized its footprint. That being said, I find the super small cage I tried was just too small for everyday wear. Although more comfortable in keeping erections from happening, too cramped to keep clean properly and I would get a puffy spot for awhile.

The desire for a small cage wasn't fantasy based, more utilitarian, but alas, the pros did not outweigh the cons and settled on a fit that was perfect, instead of the one that eliminated the dead weight.

 

@Vinny raises an interesting point that I have often thought about. There are guys with big penises who are kept chaste, but as Vinny said most of us in this lifestyle have smaller penises. How much is the size of our penis an influence on our overall attitude to life? Would I be as submissive as I am if I had gone through puberty knowing I had a bigger penis than my peers?

I had a friend who had a huge penis and wasn't afraid to show it off. He was ultra confident in everything he did, always had women and was definitely an alpha male. I am completely average when erect and very small when flaccid. I definitely have issues with the size of my penis despite years of my Wife assuring me that I am just fine thank you. I am not an alpha male. I'm not even beta, I'm way down the list. I'm the sort of guy who dodges his way through a crowd, moving out of everyone's way. My mate was more like a plow, confident that everyone else would get out of the way.

That said I have read accounts of alpha males trying to get their heads around chastity and giving over control to their partner and they have a much harder time of it than I have, (which isn't to say it has been easy) so for that I am thankful.

 

I was actually surprised at the poll I had about what's your size, a lot of 6 and 7 inchers. Nothing to sneeze at and technically above average. I thought there would be more small ones in chastity.

 

you jest, surely? if so you shouldnt take those 'clitty' comments too seriously as well.

 

I think we are having a miscommunication issue here as I have no idea what you are talking about. What am I jesting about? I don't get it...

 

Well mine is 7inches erect and I have to say I've never worried or thought about whether it was big or small relative to other males. I've never liked or been into male macho culture and have always loved women for their beauty and their nurturing qualities. I've had three metal cages which have got shorter each time as I realized that shorter was more comfortable. My last MM JB has a 2.5inch cage, and it is very comfortable. My wife likes it too because she appreciates that it is virtually undetectable/non-obvious to others, especially when I'm running. So she relaxes and is happy for me to be locked up 24/7, at work, home and play. When I get home from work she comes to talk to me as I'm changing clothes and showering etc and likes to see that the device is in place. She doesn't comment, but just "clocks it" with her eyes. So all pretty straightforward....