Is the cage common for sexually submissive men?

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    I know there have been threads about the popularity of male chastity that tend to end in little illumination. I am wondering just how common wearing a cage is for a sexually submissive man in a relationship.

    I would guess that there are not that many men who are the sexual submissive to their sexually dominant wife. We all know there seem to be many more men looking for sexual domination than there seem to be women looking for a sexually submissive partner. That said, it would SEEM that caging a sexually submissive man would be a common thing by the sexually dominant partner if for no other reason than it just plays right into the dynamic.

    I have no idea about this type of thing in the gay male community, but I would GUESS it would be more common if for no other reason than my assumption that there are more dominant gay men looking for a submissive gay lover.

    It would seem if caging the sexually submissive male was a common act in these relationships, then caging would have some reasonable level of popularity...but I do not know if it is common for sexually submissive men in a relationship to be caged.

    If it became a known/assumed thing for sexually submissive men to be caged by their partner (gay or straight), then it would reach a level of popularity that it may grow as more would know about it. I do wonder if it became a known thing that sexually submissive men do (known by people generally I mean), if we might see more women demonstrate interest in being the dominant lover.

    I can almost see it becoming a mentioned thing at that point...like if a guy sees his buddy's wife bossing him around casually saying "careful dude, she's gonna have your dick locked before you know it" without necessarily being serious.

    Does anyone know about the commonality of locking sexually submissive men who are in a relationship? There are self lockers too...but likely not enough to be a significant factor.
     
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    I can't really speak to straight males, but it's a staple in the trans and sissy type community. Even in the porn, it doesn't look right if the tranny isn't caged. I worked as an escort for awhile and also insisted on wearing one then. Most of us are heterosexual, and in most cases upon revealing our trans self to our partners in the beginning, one of the first things we explain is lock and key control from someone else to emulate the female experience deeper.

    Several companies exist that manufacture devices and belts, and you would have to assume they wouldn't be in business without a degree of popular demand.
     
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    A staple in the trans and sissy communities; interesting. If it is/becomes a staple in the submissive gay male community, it may really become a known entity. Thank you for your reply.
     
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    I found this interesting to lean too. Would you say more about motivations?

    I've always assumed that sexual submission and chastity were related but never necessarily went together. Further, wearing a cage continually is difficult and there needs to be some specific interest.

    It has been common for people here to speculate about how wide chastity device use is. I'm sure curious in some actual numbers. I think we are a ways from getting that. I also think we are a ways from being common. But, taking the number and variety of devices available for purchase, we are on an upward trajectory.
     
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    I'd wager it's both more common and less common than we think, depending on how you judge it. It feels like the idea of it as a thing is growing in popularity, slowly working its way to the mainstream. But to most people it's just something they do for a short time, not the same way that the hardcore enthusiasts who would come to places like this typically want. I've talked to plenty of people who had some interest in trying it out and have asked for advice because they knew I try to wear a cage most of the time.

    It's probably pretty uncommon for people who wear it regularly. But more common than we think for people who just wear it for one night occasionally
     
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    I can only speak to the people I know, and quite often, if not on hormones (I am not) a belt type is great for appearing flat across the front in dresses and things like that. A lot of my friends have no KH, but still wear it as an accessory. You do sort of to imagine that it's part of the female experience in us though, moreso than to limit orgasms, etc. In my case, it gives my Goddess control in that process.


    My Goddess and I batted this around a little, and I think I can. Prior to being with her, I really never had partners that knew anything about my trans side. So, I used chastity to feel like I didn't have a cock, and to discourage the idea of being touched in that way. (when with males)

    In being with her, I have learned a ton about being more female, but also to relent to my own urges toact and dress as I do, but also to sexually engage life as a female. (Most females control their sexuality quite well) Our relationship with it is in more of a forced feminization situation, and helps me go further down that rabbit hole, with her as the guide. It makes me want to be more female as a part of my life, and stay consistent in that effort, rather than impulsively. She is really great at this part. People don't realize it, But Kris K was secretly feminizing Bruce Jenner, to help condition him to be that degree of a female. The lock and key control is our two party buy in.

    I should clarify, real trans women, meaning on hormones, getting the surgery types, do not really identify in this way. My fantasy is to be a tranny porn star like Natalie Mars, and I prefer a highly sexualized look in public. I'm trans, but I am not as brave as this type of female. I really can't comment too heavily, because I am never going that far into the journey.
     
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    I am very submissive to my dominant wife, but I am not locked in a cage, but I am denied orgasms.
     
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    I guess I'm the odd man out here...I am not really a submissive..we got into cage play as a bedroom kink...i am now to the point where I am pretty much in the cage all the time...I get released quite often when we are in the mood but her preference is just to have me in it when its not being used i am like a regular person except the cage is on in my daily life
     
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    Chastity is a small subset of submissiveness. There are lots of ways submissiveness can manifest itself and individuals/couples can pick and choose which kinks they wish to pursue. For me, chastity yes, cages not really.
     
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    The type of submission and level matter a lot.

    Type of submission:
    If one is for example mostly a pain-bottom a man will bottom for that purpose but is not automatically into chastity. If one is more into power exchange chastity seems more likely.

    Level of submission:
    People who play casually may not have gotten to that point of trust and control yet. In our marriage our roles are that of Wife-Owner and husband-slave so chastity is part of that arrangement. I'm sure that if one attends Femdom and some FLR oriented events or is affiliated with organizations like ClubFEM (where the point is to 'enslave' men) chastity will be close to universal.
     
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    On watching your pics one can easily say how much efforts u might have put to achieve that feminine look
     
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    Why thank you. I have been at this for quite awhile on my own, but my Goddess has helped me take a quantum leap forward into the journey.
     
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