Is PA the best solution?

I'm thinking of getting a PA as well for the same reasons. My Wife prefers me to be locked but I can't go but a day or 2 without issues and have to take a break. If I could lock up for a week or two at a time we'd both be a lot happier.

 

If it’s something you are considering, thinking about doing it and building up to the day you have it done is probably more stressful for some than the actual event. I am needle phobic so I certainly didn’t look; at the point that he pushed the needle through i thought he was still preparing to do it.

 

I’m sure a lot of people will back you up with this, I don’t have one, but there have been a lot of posts that it solved things for them. But before you do, have you tried a smaller ring?

 

if you’ve always wanted a Prince Albert piercing, you should tell your keyholder. I did in early 2014. She helped me research. We found a professional shop. She accompanied me and watched me get pierced. It was a great experience doing it with her.

I also am 2” flaccid and have stretchy balls. I really loved the fit I obtained in my MaleChastityNow Contender with the PA security option. It’s incredibly comfortable and keeps me aligned. I can’t pull back. I have zero issues with turtling up and sneaking out.

I love my PA independent of chastity. You’ll enjoy it.

I’m not nearly as long, a mere 6”, but my wife can put me back in my cage after teasing, and force the cage over my erection, and we meet in the middle to press me back in. She can slip the PA hook in without hurting me. She’s happy she doesn’t have to worry about pinching or damaging her toy.

 

I realised that If I truly wanted to be unable to touch myself and be controlled this was the only route. I have one more stretch to 5 mm then I can get the device, which is scary!

 

A PA is great at providing absolute security, as in the penis cannot be removed from the cage when the PA lock is in place. It is still important that the device fits correctly in all other ways.

It is best to experiment with cheap devices to find the right dimensions, then have a custom device made which fits the dimensions, and which incorporates a PA lock.

Remember that absolute security is impossible (locks can be picked, etc.). Trust is still important, but try to come up with a way where it can be backed up so that tampering cannot occur without it being evident. Security tags can be a good way to do this. Note that if someone really wants it removed for good, it can be removed, albeit with difficulty. It should be difficult enough to accomplish that it cannot be done at the spur of the moment.

 

I am planning on getting a Contender with a 5mm pin for my piercing with numbered tags so my kh would know if I tried to get out. The idea of giving up my freedom is a double edged sword

 

Do you mean Steelwerks in Canada? It is easy to get them mixed up with the outfit in Germany. I think that the S-lock is relatively secure, because the size of the keyway on the screw is really very small. You would need to cut another slot in it to be able to use a screw driver or something. And then you would need a replacement screw.

Of course, there is the problem that all of the S-lock keys in the world open all of the devices. That comes down to trust. Could you get a spare key from somebody else? Probably. Could you get a spare key from the maker? I don't know, I have never tried. He would charge you, and it would take time. He might require you to send back the original screws to receive a new key.

Again, it comes down to inconvenience in the moment. If you don't have a key, you aren't getting out right away without destroying the screw, and your keyholder should be checking up on that from time to time.

 

We have the same cage then, and I he to agree, it is a really good and comfortable fit.

 

Yes, security tags can make things difficult to cheat. Everything is a compromise in some ways.

 

I think knowing you are really quite trapped in a situation without your kh finding out makes chastity and control very real, it should not be something you pretend knowing you could actually get out; you need that helpless trapped feeling in the pit of your stomach!

 

I'm in a Behind Barz belt 24/7 and it is wonderful. Low hangers are perfect and a PA complete the security 100%. Since you are a grower I suggest a 2" tube for a nice, safe and compressed feeling. I ordered a 3" and it is simply too big. The right size is the size when you are 100% flacid, believe me it is the most comfortable when you can't get erect at all. Night time erections is in the past and you will sleep like a baby. For forty years I have been disturbed in my sleep and now I sleep like a 4year old.
Best of luck, sincerely

 

Great!

 

You can find my experience getting pierced here: https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/pa-pierced-an-hour-ago.34227/

I am 2 weeks into the healing process. I highly recommend getting it done. I am excited for December when I can be fitted for a custom cage. I am going with a cage that does not have to sit behind my balls. No rubbing when I work out or tugging on my balls if the device pulls away from my body.

 

Um. That seems surely premature (ha, had it make that joke). But you should get buy in from your partner. Not just “meh”

“I brought it up to my KH today and I do not think she is super interested. She kind of thought chastity was getting ‘too serious too fast’ which I can understand.”

While I love mine and wish I had done it much earlier, you sound like an over eager puppy tearing the leash handle out from your partner’s hand.

1. You didn’t “think” she was super interested. And so you’re doing it anyway?

It sounds like you haven’t had a real conversation. I’m sensing that you’re not listening. For this to be meaningful, I do suggest you talk.

2. Have you done any research on PA piercings? Do you know how to judge a professional shop? Have you looked at SafePiercing.org and PiercingBible.com ?

3. Are you getting approval or just “ok whatever” from her?

You don’t want to do things that pull you and your keyholder apart.

I made mine part of the entire experience and as a partnership, it worked great. It wasn’t a wedge. It became a bond.

I’m sorry to throw cold water but you’re projecting the same head space I was in when I was in my 20s and was steeling myself up to go sneak out to get a piercing without telling my wife. That would have been bad news.

This is less about the wisdom in how to get a PA, or chastity or anything.

Just let her be a partner in this.

She doesn’t have to witness it like my wife did. We did it to mark me as her independent of chastity.

Take care of your partner.