For crying out loud, everybody stop worrying about "topping from the bottom." How the heck can anyone ever communicate if they get told to stop "topping from the bottom" whenever they say what they think? Tell her she's in charge but don't hesitate to let her know what you want. She agreed to this because she wants to make you happy, don't make her guess what that will be. Let her know what will do that, and as she gets more comfortable, she'll need fewer ideas. Just be sensible about it and let it progress at her pace.