Is it just me?? Dont wanna start a firestorm but....

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    Hi folk i have been arounf here for only a few months but here is something i dont understand. I read numderous posts about security of devices and people saying they were able to masterbate with such and such a device on. Why do people try??? I have a cb6000s and am currently locked. Could i reach orgasm with it on???? Heck i dont know i would never try. Goddess locked me up for a reason and that was so i wont cum without here and it makes me more focused on making her happy.

    I REALLY dont wanna start a fight or upset anyone but if your locked up why would u even attempt to relieve yourself? I guess i am more curious than anything. If i tried and was able to and goddess found out she would be SO SO disapointed, and that would be WORSE than her being mad at me. Anyway just a question i had.
     
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    what might put you question in context is letting us know how long you are usually kept between orgasms? A few days or a week is no problem,...but the urges get much stronger as you move into weeks and months.

    Personally I have never tried to masturbate with the device on, but there is a mental element to knowing that you cannot escape even if you tried. I feel disappointed knowing that I could escape if I wanted to, even though I don't. It takes the element of consent away which is a driver to some people, including myself.
     
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    Right with you.

    i'm brand new here but will go to bat in support anyway. i'm only on my 3rd day, and have " toyed" with the idea of attempting satifaction a couple of times. 3 observations: First of all, the pain i went through the past couple mornings was so unbearable , i just don't even want to go down that road again. Secondly, i find that if i don't think and just do what Mistress Asks i'm waaayyyy better off in the long run. Lastly, we do this to hold ourselves to a higher standard, right? So non-compliance or circumvention of rules is essentially just shooting ourselves in the foot.
     
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    Luckily there are several ways to view the chastity game. I personally don't see the point of "perfect" security, but I fully understand those who do. On those rare occasions when I cum in the device, it is humiliating in an erotic way.

    Bottom line, it's what any of us think it is. Go to town, enjoy!

    David
     
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    We didn't start the fireee
     
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    It's unlikely you'll start a fire here at the Mansion, we have the Mods well drilled in fire safety.

    It's a good question and I'm sure it's been discussed before, so don't worry.

    I think there are those that MUST have ABSOLUTE security and they like to test every device they own to their limits. They need to know there is no way out to be able to feel completely and utterly denied. Usually this can be achieved by a full belt.

    To be perfectly honest I can cum in my sleep without being touched. Doesn't happen often, but the fact that it does happen makes me realise that it could quite easily happen to pet after long term denial, regardelss of what I have him locked up in.

    Knowing him inside out I know he would tell me if he cheated, or I would find out and all hell would break loose.

    This is about trust and communication as well as "penis bondage", and if he broke that trust *again* (porn-gate, and the masturbating before I locked him in the new CB6K last year) I'm sorry but 3 strikes you're out...
     
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    As one of the potential instigators of this thread, I have to say, there are many reasons people come to this idea of chastity and many ways to approach it in practice. I for one, come from a camp of men who love being denied orgasm, who enjoy the intensity of sexuality after a long period of that, but whose wives could care less about how many months or years it has been (and yes, I have gone over a year before). She likes it, but 1 week vs. 1 year makes no difference to her - only to me.

    For me, the point of a chastity device is not to be symbolic. A symbolic device means nothing to my wife, makes my life and hers more complicated. There is no upside - only making it more difficult to "cheat" at something my wife doesn't even regard as "cheating".

    The only possible upside to a chastity device for me would be if it prevented orgasm. I have yet to find such a device. My anatomy and proclivities appear to suggest that such a device is not possible, at least, not without significantly interfering with my life, comfort and well-being.

    So I have tested several different styles of devices that would be practical for my life, and unfortunately, found out I am able to orgasm in all of them.

    I do have this question to ask, which is the reverse of your original thread:

    If you are wearing a device which you can orgasm in, what is the point of wearing the device?

    In the end, I am left going back to the honor system. I tried. Chastity simply didn't work for me. I wanted it to. However, considering I did 18+ months on the honor system, I think that can work for us.
     
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    I like to try, to see how secure i am. Not that i have ever been able to cum whilst locked.
    If i found out i could, i would report to my wife straight away so that she could take the appropriate action
     
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    If you are wearing a device which you can orgasm in, what is the point of wearing the device?

    you right and thats a good point. I know we are all on different levels and use this for our own personal tastes and that is 100% fine. i guess i was just looking for some insight. I wasnt being critical about my question i guess im just nosey LOL I like to know and understand things that i personally dont get. And that i dont get it means in NO WAY i think they are less important or silly. On the contrary i find it very interesting and look for ways to improve goddess and I life.
     
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    my reward

    i agree completely with you. What is the point. i try to stive to behave the way She wants so that She will reward me with an orgasm. Then i get that wonderful feeling of ejeculation KNOWING it is because i have pleased Her and she is rewarding the correct behaviour. So i get two highs in one, the orgasm and feeling pleased that She is happy with me. Masturbation whilst locked... seems daft to me.:Locker:

    regards to all
     
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    Because you like the feeling of cock bondage?

    Because you like the constant reminder that someone you love, loves you enough to indulge you in your fantasy? (Ahhh...)

    Because it takes more of an effort to defeat it rather than a mindless fiddle?

    As a piece of jewellery...

    Lots of reasons.
     
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    What I have found it that I can get myself to cum while in my CB3K with ease. The downside is the overwhelming desire to get out of the @#%&$! thing afterwards. Absolute frustration.

    I have found that I don't have any desire to be locked up for about a week after orgasm. And an orgasm in the cage is not half as good as one out (see ruined orgasm).

    We just switched up to a CB6Ks yesterday and "WOW", what a difference. It feels better, rides better, and so far I have not been able to get close to cumming. There simply is not enough wiggle room. I may be really stuck. At least until the end of April.

    More pics soon,
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    Exactly my point. There are many reasons, but the reason for wearing the device is not to stop orgasm - if you can orgasm in the device. Many can't. I unfortunately can, despite the fact that I don't want to be able to.

    Some might even wear the device AND reach orgasm in it on purpose because it allows them to have orgasm without direct stimulation of their male parts - simply because it feels different, or because the orgasm becomes more "feminine" in nature, as desired I am sure by many here.
     
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    Like others here I like the idea of being completely secure, even though I would never cheat. Being completely secure is mentally easier, and Mistress has one less concern (be it ever such a minor concern), making her life easier. And making her life better and easier is my mission.

    I have not yet cum in my device, although I fully expect that I will at some point. I am being trained to more completely enjoy receiving my Mistress's strapons, including the big ones. On several occasions I've very nearly cum while being pounded in this manner. At some point I will cross the line and cum just from anal play, my Mistress's goal, as she says my penis is completely useless as a sexual device.

    In my search for ultimate security and comfort I've tried a number of devices. Unfortunately a full metal belt is not an option for me, as I pass through metal detectors daily at work. So I've tried most plastic devices, with the Phoenix Sapphire being the most secure. But since my mini-birdlock is the most comfortable to wear while engaged in summer type activities, but nowhere near secure enough, I will be getting a PA piercing in 9 days. This will allow for complete security and comfort, making a chaste life easier for me, and easier and better for my Mistress.
     
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    inserting my 2 cents

    i liken the question to "why would you wear a wedding ring if you can still cheat?" it's true... almost E/everybody CAN cheat, but most don't. i'm pretty confident that everyone can cum in their cage some way, some how, but the fact of the matter remains that most of us don't (unless it is approved). the main reason for most guys (at least from what i hear and my own reason) is that we wear a chastity belt to give over control of our orgasms. for some people it gets deeper, such as 'to become a more focused individual', or 'to add spice to my relationship', or any number of things, but usually the root reason is still there. we CAN find a way to cum, but most of us don't because it negates the main purpose (and some of them, myself not included :(, would get a severe punishment if they were found out)

    okay, that was more like a dime's worth, but thats my story, and i'm stickin to it! :)
    ~k
     
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    Wow, never a more profound statement have I ever heard. I fall into that category as I offered chastity to my wife/KH as a way to ease her mind when I go to work (out of town) after I had an affair. The question is, could I come in my CD.......answer.....sure, I am a very resourceful guy and if I wanted to I am sure I COULD find a way to do that. The reason I don't is a question of trust, both for myself and my KH. Yes, the thought has run through my mind, especially in the last few days during several sessions of heavy edging, but I am trying to rebuild my wife/KH trust and would NEVER do anything to break that again. I have seen, first hand what that can do to the woman I love and adore and it's not a good place to go.
     
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    I'll approach this from the opposite angle. The longer you stay in chastity, the greater the behaviour modification and the closer you get to be the man she wants - and to be the man YOU want to be. You may not realise this but orgasm can mean that you revert to earlier behaviour patterns very quickly. If she's sensitive to this, she'll know EXACTLY when you cheat. If you love your woman and want to please her, I suggest you don't cheat. You will get caught out - and you wouldn't want to risk it all for the sake of a crap guilt ridden wank now, would you?!
     
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    It's a very complex issue. I feel like I'm in the midst of changing anyway. I used to need the device to be secure, partly due to a lack of self control and partly because I didn't have anyone to submit to. Now that I have someone to submit to, I find that I'm less interested in having an orgasm anyway and I'm not sure that I would feel the need to test the limits of the devices security.

    That said, I'm unlocked at the moment and haven't really been kept locked longer than a couple of weeks before.. so I guess it's all speculative and subject to change :/
     
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    Certainly is very complex... I'm almost exactly opposite. Not interested in having an orgasm anyway, but would like a device that actually enforces that. Unfortunately, do not believe such a device is to be found, therefore at least for me, wondering at the utility of having a device at all.
     
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