Is Denial Addictive ?

For me there certainly is. I get aroused just thinking about it. Ive gotten to where the short lockups just seam weird, this year goddess has ssid im only hoing to have six. Cant wait to see how thos goes.

 

I agree today when I made an off handed comment about being locked up more often She said of course you will be. I am certainly addicted, I expect She is coming around as well.

 

It is very addictive to me. I missed my last milking and was told I could go another week without. My brain was like NO NO NO... okay. It feels so good to be so naughty <3

 

Absolutely! It's ironic-I actually prefer to be locked in my cage now. I had to take it off recently for a minor surgical procedure, and it ended up being about 8 hours total. I became anxious to the point of nearly having a panic attack because I was not safely locked in my cage. It was as if I felt vulnerable, or something.

 

Addiction is not good or healthy from a Domme's perspective (if she has her sub's best interests at heart, that is).

Firstly, when her sub is addicted to something she has lost control/power over him. The addiction becomes his Mistress.

Secondly, if a sub develops an addiction because of his Domme's dominion, her practice is destructive. Being a Domme means you accept responsibility for your sub's wellbeing - physical, mental and spiritual. If a Domme uses someone else's addiction to control them, she is being abusive.

Thirdly, an addiction can make consent questionable, and if consent is questionable, it is not consent. (Another topic I'd like to see on here.)

And lastly, addiction takes the joy out of play. The reason why caging is so effective is because subs are not addicted to it, it is not a normal state for them, it's taboo – so it becomes a very powerful tool. As soon as a sub starts to need the cage, that it is normal for him, comfortable, preferred, it has lost it's effectiveness. Humans are born to adapt to their environment, and when they adapt they get lazy. A smart Domme would ensure that a sub never gets used to his cage to maintain its effectiveness and to keep the thrill alive.

The addiction of a sub is the natural enemy to a Domme.

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I think You highlight the differences in the sexes in D/s relationships. males are by nature addictive creatures and add something sexual/kinky, it just accelerates. It's his driving force, often flying under the cloak of love and devotion. Not that love and devotion doesn't exist, it does. But the darker bit is there, stoking the engine. The longer it progresses, often the more extreme the response. i have a theory that Females sense this and if their horse senses feel that a redline is approaching, they switch off the kink. Just a theory of course.

 

Very intelligent and informative reply. Thanks.
I have been challenged by my Queen not to smoke weed for a year. All I can do is obey, while knowing she want me to be the best version of me.

 

Thanks. Actually, a lot of what I mentioned is standard SSC/RACK. You never want to have a dominant, key holder or partner who doesn't have these as a foundation.

 

lol... yes. I've also heard of Dommes helping their subs lose weight and get fit. ;D

 

Yes. In my case I feel very secure when I'm in my cage. It feels like my Queen is holding my (her) dick, knowing what it is allowed to do. I know she has the power, so I don't have to worry about masturbating, orgasms, porn etc. It's a very nice and in some ways addictive feeling. My question would be: Is it an addiction if it only has positive effect on your life?

I always looked at addictions as things that hurt you and your surroundings and have a negative effect on our lives...

 

Addiction generally implies that a behaviour has got to the point where it is destructive. ;9

 

I had never considered this... But it makes perfect sense! Thank for enlightening me Miss!

 

For me it is addictive. I can,t get enough of it. I only get ruined orgasms. I don't want them, but she does. I think she likes it when I do my clean up job. That's the best part for me also.

 

Addictive? Perhaps for some, but that implies a destructive compulsion. I view it more as the natural desire that goes along with willingly surrendering one's self to another. When one's orgasms, penis, ass, mouth, body, entire sexuality, entire being are willingly, enthusiastically surrendered to another, why would you want to be released for any reason other than if that is their desire?

There's is certainly a charge from being kept aching to please, to pleasure. I view it as a symbiotic relationship. Your keyholder / mistress / lover keeps the property you joyfully surrendered to them contained, controlled, aching as they see fit which naturally frees, intensifies, deepens your already natural desire to give yourself for their pleasure. You get pleasure from giving pleasure...in an endless circle. The more giving the act is, the better it is for both of you.

I think the above perhaps only makes sense when one gives up the idea of personal ownership, trying to receive something and releases one's self to complete surrender, ends the notion that it's *your* body to be unlocked and embrace that it's *her* property (body, soul, etc.) that is *always* contained as she desires unless she decides otherwise. The reason you're unlocked might be to edged to greater depths of aching or to be given time to "cool down" and just "be".

I don't feel like I've explained my thoughts very well, but this is a stab at it.

 

Yes it is addictive and a real honour to be under someone's total control.

Also, you get in tune with your feminine side which is only a positive way for us to grow amd make this world a better place.

 

A Sub should always try to be fit for their Domme.