Introductory Reading for FLR

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    Its just a new concept for her - and the realisation that being dominant doesnt mean walking around in leather and stilletos was another preconception that was shattered.

    Say to anyone 'vanilla' that you like female domination and they just dont understand. Its breaking down those barries first before building up a healthy image of what we want.
     
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    It's always what "We want" Chastity is what you make it
     
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    Just wait till the switch gets fully flipped! It’s a beautiful and amazing thing to see your beautiful Wife truly take control and blossom, to allow herself to become more selfish and be ok with that, knowing it’s what we want and need.
    We got married at 18 and I’d say we were never “vanilla”, but my Wife still had those reservations about denying me orgasms or piv, we had sex daily for decades and all of a sudden I’m asking her do what?? Lol
    Now we’re closing in on our 4th year soon of using the cage, each month and year trying different things and evolving to what we want and more importantly, what she truly wants. I feel like I still had some form of influence on things in our sex life until about a year and a half ago, and then it became, she really was in charge. She will listen to my ideas or pleas and may consider them, but it’s all up to her when it comes to sexual interaction.
    I hope you all are enjoying the journey and keeping track somehow of how it’s going and changing.
    Good luck, I’m sure your Wife will keep seeing the benefits to her and changes in you, and want to keep pushing you!
     
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    "We" now always seem to want what she seems to want. Weird how that works out, eh? :rolleyes:
     
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    Progress my side - we're still only 1/3 into the book, buts shes started taking on a bit more assertiveness. Its so casual as to be almost subconcious, and she sometimes apologises for it.

    Im not complaining - she seems to be shifting her unconcious bias towards the dominance! #Winning
     
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    i sent my wife this link and asked her to read it. start to Finnish.
    https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/index.html

    but then we already had a FLR and i was just trying to take it to its next level. as for me.. i learned a lot about myself listing to The podcast Kink Friendly with Mistress Alisa season 1. season 2 is for the ladies. and season 3 is for couples. however the wife isn't really a fan. a lot of what she talks about isn't our dynamic. so she losses interest. i have also pointed her to the Evolving your man blog just so she can see/get a females not a males take on all of this.
     
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    My wife and I read this book together this weekend - she really enjoyed it, and it spurred some good conversations.

    Chastity: A Guide for Vanilla Wives https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0948GRVT5

    We've being doing chastity for a year and a half, but this book was helpful because it is written by a wife, for wives, and has lots of ideas and techniques that are approachable and not scary.
     
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    The approach you’re taking is good. My wife and I have been taking the same approach. We read from books and incorporate what we want.

    There are other ebooks on kindle that are good.

    I really like Key Barrett’s works. Both of them are good to read with your wife.

    I like the checklist in how to setup a FLR. It shows you how much you are inclined or want to be in the different roles and some good advice before it goes to femdom.

    Practical FLR and The wife led marriage are also good reads for different takes on different topics.

    this is a process. Take it low and slow and you’ll see the switch come on.

    the Command and conquer meeting is where we review how we did during the week against what we wanted to do and discuss what happened. It’s a good thing.
     
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    Same here, my wife did not enjoy Alisa (an Alisa even says she knows she doesn't appeal to women). But for me, she speaks it! And our dynamic isn't the same as 95% of what Alisa describes, either. But she certainly knows what drives men. :)

    Evolving Your man is a great site as well!
     
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    I just read this. I'm amazed at how much is out there even after searching and searching.
     
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    Hi, I am new to this site but not new to FLR. I've been submissive to my wife for over 15 years and have loved every day of it! One of my favorite resources is the Femdom Think Tank blog. Chastity is not the main focus but it has a lot of down to earth posts about FLR and the comments are pretty active. I've shared many articles from this blog with my wife and she actually followed a lot of the advice and suggestions.
     
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    So. I would start with Submit, Surrender, Serve Her by Key Barrett. I would also give her a copy of Uniquely Rika. Both of them start with the basics of how to establish a true FLR. You then ADD "kink" to that. You use kink to drive the dynamic, not the other way around.
     
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    Thank you for the contribution!
     
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