Hi, I've been away for quite a while do to life craziness but starting to get back to normal now and Ive started a new relationship (going on 2.5 months) I am wanting to discuss male chastity with her however I am not sure how we should / could address one thing and I know this would be the question she would ask me - what about PIV sex? She has told me that she loves / prefers PIV, and loves the feeling of a man in her. I feel this will likely make her feel less inclined to ever want to try Male chastity. Anyone out there dealt with and or found a workable solution to this? Thanks!
I’ve put it to my wife that it’s her key to do with as she wishes... if she want me out for her pleasure, that’s for her to decide.
My wife definitely enjoys vaginal stimulation. I don't know if it's her preference, since I do believe she uses her vibrator on her clit more often, but that could also be a matter of convenience and practicality, since we have a busy household with kids and jobs, etc. I also don't know just how often she vibrates on her own because it is not my business to know unless she tells me. But in our case PIV is never with my penis. That is reserved for her favorite, realistic and very large dildo and maybe someday for other men. Thus, you can see that my being in chastity has absolutely no bearing on her sexual activities, whether they involve her vibrator, her dildo, my tongue, my fingers, or any combination thereof. I can say that if she wanted my penis for sex chastity could be either good or bad. When I'm not in chastity I masturbate very very frequently, and as a result it was sometimes the case that when she deigned to have sex with me I could not get it up or keep it up. However, I also have a long history of premature ejaculation, and in the event I could get it up I usually came quite quickly. Being in chastity for a short time could curb the masturbation and might help with the former problem, but being in chastity too long would certainly not help with the latter problem, as I am frequently teased by her and constantly in a state of arousal in chastity. I cannot say what would be best for you. But, again, for my wife and me the only solution is a substitute penis/dildo.
Agreed. Chasity is about letting her be in control. Fortunately my wife loves PIV sex, so I don't have to go with out except when it's her period. My cage keeps me from masturbating to porn and so I have more to satisfy her.
Sounds like you just offer to be there for her whenever she wants PIV and she know's where you'll be, in your cage, when she doesn't.
It's her choice. The chastity doesn't have to be 24/7. It just has to be on her terms. And if that includes being unlocked for PIV when SHE wants (not you) then that's fine. good luck to you both
I agree with what most everyone else said - my wife also frequently would like PIV. So she lets me out only when she wants it, and keeps me locked the rest of the time. This doesn't preclude other stimulation - if she wants it. Totally her choice.
Me too! Just starting off here, but my offer to her is that she can unlock the cage whenever she wants to. Currently the key sits out in the open. (Still getting used to the idea of me wearing a cage. She still thinks it is weird and doesn’t want to think about the key. Probably because she doesn’t understand it.) However, the truth is that most devices can be defeated. Therefore, a cage is really a reminder of a promise to stay true and keep my desire building for her. Then, when she is ready for it, she can have it by unlocking me herself or just by giving me permission to do so for PIV sex.
Just to add to all the above: you can have PIV and you don't have to cum. You can wear a penis sheaf so you are inside her . . . you just won't feel it. You can wear a cage and still fuck her with a strap-on, very sexy and very frustrating. I recently mentioned this before but there's a 5 inch, latex, chin-strap, dildo that allows you to 'fuck' her whilst giving oral at the same time - also very sexy - as well are various dildo gags. So there really are lots of options
Agreed. We never tried numbing cream, but condoms alone were not enough to fix my PE. If I got hard enough to put a condom on and keep it on I was already aroused enough to cum. And really the biggest problems were that my penis is so short it would fall out often, especially if I was only semi-hard, and even when completely hard and fully inside her she could barely feel it.
If you're so inclined, there's some information on this thread: https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...rapon-harness-to-use-on-kh.32805/#post-328457
That sounds awkward and a potential source of neck pain. But maybe my mental image of how that would work is different from the reality of it.
The fact is imo good PIV is tough while in chastity. Your erections are not as good for a few days if you've been locked for awhile, and your stamina after being up so long is nil. If your kh can have fun with that and is into it OR you two can work around it then that's fine.
My KH also likes PIV quite a bit. We do a few different things. Normal PIV, but I'm not allowed to come. Requires some self control and a bit of coordination sometimes. She enjoys it, but having to pay attention to avoid having me come is occasionally a downside since it distracts from her own pleasure. PIV, but we use numbing cream. We use condoms for contraception anyway, so accidentally numbing her isn't much of a concern, though she did once get a slightly numb mouth from sucking my cock (with a condom on) due to having a bit around the base. Let me tell you, it's quite the mindfuck seeing my cock disappear into her mouth and not be able to feel it. I'm caged, and I fuck her with a strap-on. I highly recommend the SpareParts Deuce for that - easy to adjust, and the extra pouch at the bottom keeps things out of the way. We've also played a bit with sleeves and just haven't found them to reduce stimulation enough. Maybe we haven't used the right one, or I'm not used to them. One really nice thing about option 1 has been that I've had a few non-ejaculatory orgasms that way. Once I had a series of, mm, about 5 of them? They were *much* better than normal ones. Took about an hour of her riding me to get there, after I'd fucked her in other positions before. So, time consuming, but amazing. I also found that the non-ejaculatory orgasms didn't decrease my desire afterward, so it didn't interrupt our denial play. Hope you two find something that works for you!
All post are spot on she is in charge and make the decision on when and where her cock gets used. I say her cock because i dont own it anymore she holds the key. If she doesnt want me to cum or feel pleasure then she double wraps thick condoms and uses me for her pleasure if i do a good job she will use the magoc wand on me after im locked back up and make me cum.
Agree here, it is her cock to do with what she wants. She can keep it locked until she wants to use it!
Great advice but my kh doesn't like condoms. Haven't had a good experience with numbing creams but, I dont think I waited long enough. Might be worth another try.