Introducing myself

Afternoon all. Though I'd introduce myself. I found the forum and have been reading several of the threads and all have given me some good info.

My wife and I have been in the swinger lifestyle for some time and only had several full swap experiences and dated a few couples exclusively for awhile. We recently started to talk more about the HotWife lifestyle. I'm not into the humiliation thing nor is she. We both like the Stag side of the lifestyle. She is going to buy her anklet on her day off next week and to keep my key on it. I'm a little nervous about who may see it and understand what it means. Meaning our friends not potential Bulls. Every bit of our lifestyle is a complete secret to everyone we know. But other than that she has my complete ok to do what ever she wants with who ever she wants. The only rule is she has to tell me. She'll be signing up for a dating site soon on her own to start finding partners.

I like most of the people told my wife I wanted her to put me in chastity. She was completely ok with the idea but just wanted to make sure it's not something that would cause damage to me. I assured her that if I felt any type of real pain I'd let her know. Trust me I don't really want to explain this to a DR. LOL

I asked to be put in chastity because I felt I was masturbating to much and not having sex with her enough. goes to bed very early so I tend to stay up later and more times than not watching porn and getting myself off. I also though she would like it and enjoying controlling when and if I I got off. I'm a night owl and my wife

When we talked about this with my wife. We'll call her Sam. Sam knew I masturbated but not how much. She liked the idea of having complete control. She has now said that I'm not allowed out of my "toy" as she likes to call it for a few months. She researching denial, edging and failed orgasms and is looking into getting me a strap on for me to use on her. I'm certainly surprised how much she is enjoying this.

I've read that its not the best idea to go all in right off the bat. But I'm doing just fine so far. She's let me out twice since locking me away on Valentines day. Once that night to edge and deny me. Which she did very well. And yesterday so I could take a shower and clean myself. I also did this as i found out that I could slip out the top. I didn't like that I had this option. So I came up with a way to prevent this.

I have the Rikers tinted cage and I also have a PA that I've had for about 12 years now. I took one of her cloth hair ties and looped it through my ring. Then pull the end through the hole in the front. I then had her lock it into padlock. Sam's rule is she is the one who locks it as she likes the sound and the look on my face. Now there is no way for me to get out of my toy. Yes i could cut the hair tie. But she would know and I would have to pay.

Sam very much liked that I told her about this and that I found a way to resolve the issue on my own. She then found that it makes a great pull point and pulls both on my balls and my piercing causing some pain.

I like when she pulls on my PA and she often attaches a leash to it and pull me around. We often go out to bars and I wear a wallet chain with the other end on my PA and she pulls on me all night. Most times making me so soar that I can barely touch myself. But that's not an issue now as I can't touch it any more.

We are going to a Swingers Masquerade party this weekend that she said she will let me out for as there are a few couples going that we hope to hook up with. But I won't be surprised that she doesn't let me. She has told me that after the party my top is going back on and not coming off for a few months. She said I've had enough orgasms.

I do have to say that even just these few short days had changed me. I'm looking forward to being in my toy for a long time and am hoping she learns to edge me and fail my orgasms with it on.

Well let me know what you think and I'll post some pictures up soon.

 

I'm curious if she is going to or not. There will be no single guys at the party all couples. So she may not want to keep me out of commission. I have told her that after the party I want to be caged for a long time and only ruined and denied. She's not 100% sure of that yet.