In My Wife's Service

Thank you, everyone, for your comments. The information about piercings is very interesting. I apologize for taking so long to respond.

Poohbear, you and I lead quite different lives, and our wives’ motivations for keeping us in chastity are also very different. One thing we have in common is our longstanding faithfulness to our wives. Your mention of creating a urethral plug that allows your urine to clear the bars of your Queen’s Keep is intriguing. Perhaps you could share some details about that with us or Mature Metal.

My dream device would be one that has a short urethral tube that would direct my urine out of the device and a locking screw that would go through the piercing and affix to the tube from below. That way, I could urinate safely while standing up and would be securely locked up.

I wear a Mature Metal Pet Trap essentially full-time, and that relegates me to sitting down while urinating. I work in an office building, and I sometimes visit two or three toilets before finding a seat I am willing to sit on. I have a lot of empathy for women who must routinely use public toilet seats, as I must now.

The point about having a permanent hole from a piercing is well taken. A couple of years ago, I had an e-mail exchange with Mistress Lori of Lori’s Chastity Tubes, and she recommended the 2D when I asked about a device that would allow me to stand while urinating. She said that the urine would follow the piercing pin out of the device. Of course, I don’t want to have a leaky penis when my wife finally releases me from chastity and I am sitting in my wheelchair in the nursing home! I might consider another type of piercing that doesn’t go through the urethra, but that doesn’t solve the problem about urinating while standing.

While I am online, I will offer a brief update. A week ago tonight, my wife unlocked me while we were making out in bed with the lights off. She then climbed onto my penis and rode me to an orgasm, my first in about four months. It wasn’t that great. I sometimes wish she would let me have intercourse with her more often but take steps to deny me an orgasm (another topic). We have continued our weekly Saturday night routine of cunnilingus in front of the fireplace as a way to end the week. She said that her last two orgasms were very good ones, so I think I am starting to perfect my technique. When we first started going together, I was good at giving head, but she quit letting me eat her out because she didn’t like me having that much control over her. Over the years, I lost the touch.

Sesla

 

4. Our (Obsolete) Agreement

I have finally gotten around to posting the chastity agreement my wife and I used during the last six months of 2012. It ran from July 1 through December 31, 2012, and was preceded by an identical agreement that ran from January 1 through June 30, 2012. When the second agreement terminated on December 31, my wife was in no hurry to replace it with another six-month agreement, but she told me that it would be in my best interests to continue wearing my chastity device. Finally, several weeks into the new year, she told me that she no longer thought a chastity agreement was necessary. I would continue to wear the chastity device on a continuous basis if I ever hoped to have any sort of sex with her, and she would be totally in charge.

Although we no longer have an agreement, I wanted to share this one because I think it has some novel features. In particular, section B, "Acknowledgments," provides the justifications for my wife assuming control of my penis. For her, the most important justification is item 5, that, "Phallocentric sex is selfish, and Husband's penis distracts him from giving Wife's body proper attention, thus diminishing the overall quality of sex between the two parties."

So far, our current relationship is fairly consistent with the old agreement. The major exception is section F, "Additional Provisions." She shaves me when she wants, usually once a month, but sometimes she will go without shaving me for several weeks. She knows I enjoy the shavings, and she will cancel or postpone a shaving if she doesn't think I deserve it. She never milks me, and I do not have an emergency key. The second key, which was initially intended to serve as an emergency key, is somewhere in her studio in a small plastic box secured by a combination lock. I used to carry the box in my brief case, but I gave it back to her when she told me she could no longer remember the combination.

Since we began our experiment with male chastity almost three years, I have never been allowed to masturbate. My wife will play with (and/or torture) my testicles several nights a week, but she will only touch my penis when she shaves my genitals once every month or so. If I have been good, she may masturbate me for a few minutes afterwards. Only rarely will she masturbate me to an orgasm. Less often, while we are in bed, she will unlock my chastity device and ride me to an orgasm. Meanwhile, I am expected to provide her regular cunnilingus, analingus, foot worship, and body massages.

Let me know if you have any comments about the agreement. If you find some provisions useful, feel free to appropriate them. The agreement is no longer of use to me.

Sesla

 

Male Chastity Agreement​

2012-2​

A. Nature and Duration

1. This agreement (henceforth “Agreement”) between ++++++++++++ (henceforth “Wife”) and ++++++++++++ (henceforth “Husband”) establishes the conditions under which Wife shall control Husband’s penis through the practice commonly known as “Enforced Male Chastity.”

2. The sole purpose of this Agreement is to provide for Wife’s pleasure.

3. This Agreement shall replace any previous contracts or agreements to the same effect and shall render such documents meaningless and irrelevant.

4. The provisions of this Agreement shall be limited to the sexual relationship between Wife and Husband as described herein and shall not apply to other aspects of their marriage except as specifically noted.

5. Given this Agreement has been agreed upon and entered into freely by both Wife and Husband, it shall be binding on both parties.

6. This Agreement shall become effective immediately upon signing and shall remain in effect until midnight, December 31, 2012.

7. It is expected that this Agreement will be replaced by a similar agreement immediately upon termination.


B. Acknowledgments

Husband acknowledges that the following statements are true:

1. Wife has been a superlative partner and mother and therefore deserves Husband’s unconditional respect and adoration.

2. Wife has always considered the needs of Husband and their children before her own, and she now deserves to have her needs placed first.

3. Sex between Wife and Husband has always been on Husband’s terms, and fairness dictates that it should now be on Wife’s terms.

4. Any woman has the right to restrict or deny access to her body, and Wife is under no obligation whatsoever to provide Husband access to any part of her body or to participate in sexual intercourse with Husband.

5. Phallocentric sex is selfish, and Husband’s penis distracts him from giving Wife’s body proper attention, thus diminishing the overall quality of sex between the two parties.

6. Because Husband’s penis no longer serves a reproductive purpose and is incapable of providing Wife adequate pleasure, it can safely be locked up except when it provides for Wife’s amusement.

7. Because Husband’s orgasms diminish his eagerness to serve Wife, they should be strictly rationed or denied.

8. Enforced Male Chastity provides for greater overall harmony in a relationship.


C. Transfer of Control

In order to increase Wife’s pleasure, to which she is unconditionally entitled, and improve the overall harmony of their relationship, Husband freely grants Wife complete control of his penis, consistent with his acknowledgment of the statements contained in the previous section.

Specifically, Husband agrees that:

1. Wife shall lock Husband’s penis into a chastity device of her choosing for up to twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, for the duration of this Agreement.

2. Wife shall have complete control over any release of Husband’s penis from the chastity device. She alone shall determine when Husband’s penis shall be released and the conditions of such a release without input from Husband.

3. Wife shall have complete control over Husband’s orgasms. She alone shall determine the number and timing of Husband’s orgasms, if any, and the manner in which such orgasms shall occur.

4. Wife shall have complete authority to determine and administer whatever punishments she may deem necessary or appropriate for violations of this Agreement by Husband.

Additional provisions related to Wife’s control of Husband’s penis, releases, and orgasms are contained in the following sections.

 

D. Husband’s Role and Responsibilities

Husband’s only purpose under this Agreement is to provide for Wife’s pleasure. Having freely entered into this Agreement, he shall claim no rights or entitlements under it. At all times, he shall focus entirely on Wife’s pleasure without regards to his own, and he shall expect no favors in return.

Husband acknowledges that he understands and accepts that Wife must exercise complete control over his sexual urges in order to best motivate him to serve her needs. He also understands and accepts that Wife must take certain steps to train him so that his ability to serve her will improve over time.

Therefore, Husband accepts that his behavior shall be governed by the following rules, which are not exhaustive. Husband shall be held responsible for any violations of these rules, or the spirit of this Agreement in general, and he shall be subject to whatever punishments Wife may deem necessary or appropriate.

Rule 1: Husband shall always perform his duties under this Agreement cheerfully and without complaint.

Rule 2: Husband shall immediately comply with any order, request, or instruction directed to him by Wife.

Rule 3: Husband shall never attempt to influence Wife with regards to her treatment of him, particularly concerning sexual favors and punishments.

Rule 4: Husband shall never make inquiries with regards to the timing or nature of future releases, orgasms, or punishments.

Rule 5: Husband shall never remove or attempt to remove his chastity device unless he is instructed to do so by Wife and under her direct supervision.

Rule 6: Husband shall never refuse to be locked into his chastity device; nor shall he resist or delay any attempt by Wife to lock him into the device.

Rule 7: Husband shall never orgasm, either accidentally or on purpose, unless permitted by Wife and under her direct supervision.

Rule 8: Husband shall never masturbate or attempt to masturbate, whether or not locked in his chastity device, unless instructed to do so by Wife and under her direct supervision.

Rule 9: Husband shall never attempt to pleasure himself by touching his genitals or perineum or by applying any device, such as a shower head or vibrator, to his chastity device, genitals, or perineum. Such acts shall be considered masturbation and subject to the same punishments.

Rule 10: Husband shall exercise regularly, eat sensibly, and groom himself appropriately so that he is always attractive and pleasing to Wife.

Rule 11: Husband shall always treat Wife with courtesy and respect in the other aspects of their marriage.

Rule 12: Husband shall confess any violations of these rules to Wife promptly and in a completely truthful manner.

Rule 13: Husband shall answer Wife immediately and with complete honesty whenever she asks him about his conduct with regards to these rules.

Rule 14: Wife may punish Husband for lethargic or unenthusiastic performance, especially if she suspects it is the result of an unauthorized orgasm.

Rule 15: Wife may punish Husband for an accidental orgasm, particularly if she suspects it is the result of masturbation, self-stimulation, or pornography.

Rule 16: Wife may punish Husband for any action or conduct that is contrary to the spirit of these rules or this Agreement even if not explicitly prohibited.

Rule 17: Husband shall under no circumstances attempt to force his penis into Wife’s body unless granted prior authorization; nor shall he touch any part of Wife’s body if forbidden to do so.

 

E. Wife’s Role and Responsibilities

Because the sole purpose of this Agreement is to provide for Wife’s pleasure, she is subject to no rules. On the contrary, this Agreement provides her complete control of Husband’s penis and absolute flexibility in training him to serve her. Although she may occasionally grant Husband sexual favors as a means of rewarding, motivating, or training him, she is under no obligation to do so.

Nonetheless, Wife recognizes that her pleasure will be best ensured if Husband is happy, healthy, and motivated. Accordingly, Wife freely agrees to the following:

1. Wife shall not take any action or require Husband to take any action that could be detrimental to his health or cause severe or permanent injury.

2. Wife shall not take any action or require Husband to take any action that could cause him public embarrassment or humiliation or adversely affect his relationships with family, friends, or employers.

3. Wife shall duly take illnesses, injuries, and employment responsibilities into account in determining the demands she places on Husband.


F. Additional Provisions

The following provisions are included in this Agreement because they are considered instrumental to making the practice of Enforced Male Chastity safe and practical:

1. Shavings: Wife shall release Husband from his chastity device once a month for the purpose of shaving, washing, and inspecting his genitals.

2. Milkings. Wife may administer prostate milkings as often as she deems necessary, particularly when Husband has been denied an orgasm for a considerable period of time and is unlikely to be granted one anytime soon. The objectives of these milkings are to ensure Husband’s prostate health and reduce the risk of accidental orgasms. Because milkings are not intended as rewards, Husband will normally be left in his chastity device, and Wife may take measures to deny him any pleasurable effects.

3. Authorized releases. Wife may temporarily release Husband from his chastity device for various purposes, including certain types of exercise and physical labor, medical examinations, and travel. During these releases, Husband shall behave as if he is wearing the device, i.e., he shall refrain from touching his penis, masturbating, or attempting an orgasm. Wife may punish Husband for any such release, although authorized, as a means of discouraging unnecessary requests.

4. Emergency key. Wife shall provide Husband an emergency key in either a sealed envelope or small container secured by a combination lock. Wife may punish Husband for breaking the seal or requesting the combination, especially if she considers such actions as unnecessary or illegitimate.


G. Husband’s Suggestions

By entering into this Agreement, Husband cedes to Wife all rights with regards to its interpretation and application. However, on a strictly limited basis, Husband may occasionally submit constructive suggestions to Wife in written form. Wife shall duly consider such suggestions, but adoption of any suggestion is solely at Wife’s discretion. Once Husband has submitted a suggestion, he shall refrain from mentioning or discussing it unless in response to a question or discussion initiated by Wife.


H. Termination, Replacement, and Extension

Both Wife and Husband understand this Agreement to be one of a series of agreements, each with a duration of approximately six months. Both parties fully expect this Agreement to be replaced with a new agreement immediately upon termination. However, under certain circumstances, Wife may decline to offer a new agreement or Husband may decline to accept it. Notwithstanding this, both parties expect that any new agreement will be essentially identical to this Agreement with regards to its purpose and effect.

The period of punishment Wife sets for any violations of this Agreement may extend beyond termination of the agreement. In such cases, Wife may continue to administer punishment while subsequent agreements are in effect. If Husband declines to accept a subsequent agreement offered by Wife in an effort to avoid punishment, Wife may extend this Agreement for up to six months in order to complete the punishment.


I. Revisions

The termination of this Agreement and the initiation of a new agreement provide Wife an opportunity to incorporate whatever revisions she may deem necessary or appropriate. Husband may submit suggested changes to Wife in written form several days before the termination date. However, any revisions are solely at Wife’s discretion and nonnegotiable. Husband shall have only the right to accept or reject whatever agreement Wife presents him, and not specific provisions or revisions. Moreover, once Husband has submitted any suggested changes, his actions with regards to those suggestions shall be restricted in the manner described earlier.

At any time during the duration of this Agreement, Wife may determine that an immediate revision is necessary. She may place such a revision into effect simply by indicating the change on her copy of this Agreement and notifying Husband of the change. In most cases, it is anticipated that the revision will be formally incorporated into the next agreement upon the termination of this Agreement.


J. Signatures

By signing this Agreement, both Wife and Husband indicate that they have entered into it freely, accept its terms, and recognize that it shall immediately become binding on them.



_________________________ _________________________ ______________
++++++++++++ (Wife) ++++++++++++ (Husband) Date

 

5. Saturday Morning Sex for a Chastity Slave

This morning, my wife and I slept in a bit after a relaxing evening at the end of a long week. I scooted up against her side and placed my hands on her, but she continued viewing her iPhone. So I crawled down under the covers so I was on my hands and knees with my head over her feet. She said she needed to go to the bathroom, so I followed her in so I could fetch a bottle of lotion. When she returned to the bed, she took off her pajamas, which was a signal that I could touch her breasts. I gently licked and sucked on one of her nipples for a couple minutes, but I know not to continue for too long because she doesn’t particularly enjoy my playing with her breasts, and it is intended only as a treat. Plus, she won’t play with me until I begin attending to her feet and legs.

I again position myself over her legs, and I begin massaging the lotion into her feet. She responds by gently stroking and massaging my testicles. By gently, I mean that she uses her fingertips instead of her fingernails and she only gently tugs on my testicles. As I work the lotion up her legs, she continues to play with my testicles and perineum, and at some point it is almost too much to bear. I would love for her to remove my chastity device so I can mount her, but I know this will never happen. If I want her to continue pleasuring me, we must play on her terms. Once I have finished applying lotion to her legs, I attempt to work my tongue onto her clitoris and vaginal opening, but she keeps her legs firmly closed. If I want to perform oral sex, it will have to wait until tonight. Instead, I place my hands on her buttocks and gently roll her onto her side. In the way she softly strokes my testicles, she lets me know she approves. I begin massaging her buttocks and the back of her legs before eventually applying my tongue to her anus. I alternate licking her anus and swirling my tongue over the goosebumps that have formed on the surrounding skin.

This continues for quite a while, and at times I can barely stand the pleasure she is providing me. Again, I imagine myself mounting her, free of the chastity device, but I know this isn’t a possibility. As I continue licking her anus and gently nibbling on her buttocks, she begins milking me. She won’t milk me for long. She has no intention of emptying my testicles. She only wants to leak off some of my semen and reduce the tension in my balls.

We continue playing like this until she is satisfied. She taps me on my side, a signal that she is through and I should pull myself out from under the covers. I place myself so I am on my side facing her. Her mouth is off limits given where mine has been, so I return to her breast while she lightly strokes my back. Once again, she taps my side to let me know that she no longer requires me and I am free to go the bathroom, where I rinse out my mouth and wipe off my chastity device and genitals with a wet washcloth. For the rest of the morning, I am turned on, and I would love to get her back into bed, but that won’t happen. The best I can hope for is that she will ask me to eat her out at the end of the evening once we’ve finished watching television.

 

Right now, I only want to offer my response to a couple of recent comments. First, any suggestions regarding our old chastity agreement are moot because my wife allowed the agreement to expire at the end of 2012 without an extension or replacement. She more or less requires me to wear a metal chastity device full-time, 365 days a year, and she maintains complete authority over our sex life without any rules or guarantees that might appear in a contract. Second, she is not into capitalization or forms of address that suggest female superiority or male inferiority. We are a fairly normal, happily married couple who consider each other partners and equals, and we do not engage in a lot of kink. She simply insists on having the upper hand in our sex life, and she considers male chastity to be the mechanism by which she can maintain that.

Sesla

 

6. Saturday Morning Sex for a Chastity Slave (Epilogue)

This post describes our sexual activities during the remainder of the March 21–22 weekend.

Saturday evening, after we finished watching television, my wife lay on the couch in front of the fireplace. As usual, I stripped off my clothes and kneeled naked on my hands and knees before her. I started massaging and licking her feet and toes, eventually working my way up her legs to her pussy. I spent the next twenty or thirty minutes performing cunnilingus on her. She eventually had a powerful orgasm, at which point she lifted her legs up and back so her knees were bent over her chest. Once she begins to orgasm, I know to quit touching her. I gave her a few moments to recover, after which I gently kissed and stroked her legs and buttocks. Then I silently picked up my clothes and walked up the steps to our bedroom. On this particular evening, she never once touched me, and after we climbed into bed, she simply kissed me goodnight and rolled over. If I were to receive any favors, I would need to wait at least until the morning.

On Sunday morning, I again began working on her feet and toes with my fingers and tongue. Once again, I began working my way up her legs, but this time I knew she expected my tongue to end up on her anus. While my tongue was at work, she began sinking her nails into the base of my scrotum and pulling on my testicles. Knowing I will not be released from my chastity device, I have no choice but to enjoy whatever attention I am receiving. After a few minutes, she began massaging my testicles with her feet. She continued until I experienced a ruined orgasm. I would have thought the orgasm was an accident except that she quit stroking my testicles precisely at the moment semen began pumping out the end of my penis cage. The ruined orgasm left a lot to be desired, and in no way did it substitute for being free of my chastity device and ejaculating inside her vagina.

But my wife had more in store for me. When I entered our bedroom late in the afternoon to clean up before dinner, I was surprised to find her sitting on the edge of our bed next to a large towel and a bowl of water. She informed me that it was time for a shave. I used to receive shaves regularly every month when we still had a chastity agreement, but at this point, she hadn’t shaved me in over a year, and my pubic hair had been at full length for several months. I also hadn’t had sexual intercourse with her for over a year. During that period, I had only received two or three orgasms, all while locked in my chastity device. She had accidentally given them to me by playing with me too long, and she ruined them by stopping just as soon as I started to ejaculate.

She now removed my chastity device and soaked my genitals with a warm, wet washcloth for several minutes before covering them with shaving cream. After a couple of minutes, she began the shave. She always shaves my penis as well as my testicles. Although there is no hair on my penis except near the base, she enjoys pulling the razor blade over my shaft and along the contours of my glans. Plus, shaving my penis ensures it will be extra sensitive when she splashes aftershave on it. But before she does that, she again runs the razor over my genitals in search of any hairs she might have missed. Next she rinses off my genitals and roughly rubs them dry with a towel. By the time she applies the aftershave, my organs are beet red and the skin on my penis is seeping. My wife enjoys seeing me squirm as she slaps and massages the aftershave into me, and any additional attention she might now provide will produce a mix of pleasure and pain.

After the shave, I’m not sure what to expect. She might masturbate me by hand until I have a fantastic orgasm. Or she might masturbate me for several minutes before abruptly stopping and informing me that the session is over. Once in a while, she will climb on top of me and fuck me to an orgasm, or she may stop just short of giving me an orgasm. On this occasion, she climbs on top and begins fucking me. Now I understand that the morning’s ruined orgasm was indeed intentional. She earlier leaked my balls so I will last longer now. As always, I am instructed to lie still without thrusting. If I thrust, she stops. Although she has applied lubricant on me, her vagina seems tight and every stroke is agony for the raw skin on my penis. When I finally ejaculate, she quits humping me and I am relieved that the discomfort has ended. Any sexual relief is secondary in importance.

I am unsure whether my genital shavings and the associated torment are intended as rewards or punishments. I guess she intends them as rewards because she has told me that I no longer receive them regularly because my service hasn’t always been satisfactory. In any case, it is clear she has no intention of allowing me to experience an orgasm without some sort of restriction or discomfort.

Once she dismounts, I am allowed to shower before she reapplies my chastity device. After she finishes securing the device, I am relieved that my penis is once again safely enclosed in its cage where it will be protected from her for the next several weeks or months.

 

7. Our Current Chastity Lifestyle

Now that I am beginning to update my journal again, I thought it might be appropriate to describe the lifestyle my wife and I currently lead. Some information included in this post replicates material contained in earlier posts. I will try to limit this post to a summary and to avoid the detail of those earlier posts. I may expand on some of the comments made here in future posts.

I have been wearing a custom-built stainless steel chastity device for almost four years. Prior to obtaining the stainless steel device, we experimented with acrylic and silicone devices for about a year. For the first year and a half that I wore the stainless steel device, we followed a series of three six-month chastity agreements. At the end of 2012, my wife informed me that she planned on keeping my penis locked up but that our relationship would no longer be subject to an agreement. Since then, she has made all decisions regarding our sex life and my chastity.

I basically wear my chastity device full-time year round. There have only been a few exceptions. Because my wife is uncomfortable about packing my device in our luggage, we do not bring it with us when we travel by air. During those trips, we may engage in some light petting, but there is no sex, and she will not touch my genitals. She expects me to resume wearing the device as soon as we return home. On a couple occasions, we arrived home very late at night, and I was a bit timid about asking her to lock me up again. Exhausted from the trip, and enjoying having my penis free (I liked having erections!), I ended up postponing my surrender for several days. That was a mistake, and I was punished. Now when we return from a trip, I immediately ask her to lock me up, no matter how late it might be.

We are avid bicyclists, and she has been generous about allowing me out of my device before long rides or when I ride to work. She only insists that my penis be locked up before bed that night. Generally, I have asked her to lock me up after my evening shower. I wash the device with soap and water before presenting myself to her. I attach the scrotal ring around my testicles and penis, and she then pulls my penis into the cage using an old sock. I sometimes find this routine a little humiliating, and I occasionally have found myself turning my back on her as I attach the ring, despite the fact that she has seen and handled my genitals countless thousands of times. As my scrotum has stretched out and gotten a little tougher, bicycling has become less of an issue, and this year I typically have worn my device for several weeks at a time.

My wife doesn’t like to give me orders or instructions. Instead, she expects me to initiate all sexual contact, and I am rewarded by how well I please her. If I try something she doesn’t like, she lets me know, either with a “no” or by pushing me away. She also insists that I do not have to wear a chastity device. In theory, it is my choice, and I have to ask her to lock up my penis. However, she believes that she is not obligated to do anything she doesn’t want, and she makes it clear that I will never have sex with her again unless I continue to wear my device, and she refuses to touch me, or let me touch her, when I’m not wearing it. Recently, she told me that I will only rarely experience sexual intercourse in the future, and when we have intercourse, she will always be on top. I will never again be allowed to fuck her.

She has always enjoyed petting much more than I, and since I have been locked up, we regularly begin our bedtime with a few minutes of kissing and touching. Unless she is too tired, or she is annoyed with me for something I did earlier in the day, the petting usually leads to her playing with my testicles. If it doesn’t, I know she is in the mood for me to focus my attention on her feet or her anus. In the past, when she played with my balls, her touches were gentle and sensuous, but they have become quite a bit rougher over time. She usually digs her fingernails deep into the base of my scrotum and repeated tugs hard on my balls. When she begins using both hands on me, it can be difficult to take, but I have learned to enjoy and look forward to this torture.

My wife doesn’t like having her pussy eaten more than once a week, and that usually occurs on the basement couch on Saturday nights. I kneel naked on my hands and knees while she lies back against a pillow. These sessions have evolved to become more and more about worshipping her and focusing exclusively on her needs. She used to stroke my back and softly play with my testicles, but lately she seldom touches me. Once we’ve finished and gone to bed, she quickly kisses me goodnight and rolls over to sleep.

When we used to follow a chastity agreement, she would shave off my pubic hair once a month. Once she finished, she might masturbate me by hand for twenty or thirty minutes. Whether she gave me an orgasm or not would depend on how well she thought I had behaved over the past month. If she thought I deserved it, she might even climb onto my penis and ride me to an orgasm. However, once our last chastity agreement expired, she no longer felt obligated to perform this monthly ritual. She generally doesn’t think I deserve to be shaved, and she has only shaved me or given me an orgasm a couple times over the past year or so. When she has shaved me, she has roughed up the skin on my penis so the aftershave will burn, and any masturbation or intercourse has been pretty uncomfortable for me.

Most of my orgasms occur while she is playing with my testicles and my penis is locked up in its cage. Once she senses that I am about to ejaculate, she quits touching me, thus ensuring that the orgasm is ruined. Some of these orgasms are accidental. However, she has become quite skilled at avoiding unintentional orgasms, and she may give me a ruined orgasm just to drain the semen out of my balls. She is often able to give me a “dry orgasm”—my penis begins a series of involuntary spasms, as if it were ejaculating, but no semen emerges and I don’t experience the pleasure of a climax. Sometimes when we play, she will milk me for a few minutes by softly stroking my perineum, but we don’t have dedicated milking sessions.

My wife enjoys lying on her stomach in bed while I massage her all the way down from her shoulders to her feet. When I massage her feet, I lick them, and I lick and suck her toes. Over the course of a week, I spend a lot of time licking her anus with my tongue. Because she only allows me to eat her pussy once a week, ass worship often serves as a ritual substitute for worshipping her cunt.

Although chastity can keep me at a high level of excitement (and frustration) for days, it is difficult to always meet my wife’s expectations, especially when I am tired or busy at the office. Because I seem to be unable to work hard enough to earn additional orgasms, one could conclude that I receive as many orgasms as I deserve, or as many as I really desire. I miss fucking my wife, and simple things like experiencing erections or just touching my penis, but the overall pleasure I receive from having my penis locked up probably exceeds the pleasure I enjoyed when we engaged in conventional sex. My wife believes that male chastity is superior to ordinary sex. But it represents a different path, and the male cannot hope to experience its benefits fully without choosing to leave the ordinary behind.

 

8. April 2016 Update

It has been almost a year since my last post, so I thought it was about time for an update. At this point, I have worn my stainless steel chastity device for nearly five years. Given my wife and I experimented with two other devices before settling on the stainless steel one, I have worn some sort of chastity device pretty much full-time for about six years. At first, we negotiated a series of six-month chastity agreements, but when the last of those expired on December 31, 2012, my wife informed me that she intended to continue keeping me in a chastity device full-time but without the benefit of a contract. In effect, she would be in full control of my penis without conditions.

It has been over a year since we last had penetrative sex, and at this point, I don’t know if she will ever allow me inside her again. She has said that if we are ever to have intercourse, she will be on top and in full control—I will never again be allowed to fuck her. It also has been several months since she last released me from my device to shave and tease my genitals. Except for that one time, my penis has remained in its cage anytime we have engaged in sexual activity during the past year or so. The only time she touches my penis is when she pulls a sock over it to reinsert it into its cage after a long bicycle ride or travel, the only times it is allowed out.

Sex usually consists of us French kissing, me worshipping her body with my hands and tongue, or her teasing and playing with my testicles. Although she enjoys backrubs, I spend most of my time licking her asshole, feet, and pussy, in order of frequency. She likes playing with my balls, and over time that play has become rougher. She likes to pull on my balls and sink her fingernails deep into my scrotum and perineum. It sometimes is a challenge to keep from gasping out loud, but I know not to complain. I’m sure she would quit touching me if I were to complain, and I am usually desperate for whatever attention she gives me. When your penis is always in a cage, you are thankful for whatever you can get, rough or otherwise. I don’t know why she has gotten so rough because she doesn’t allow me to ask her questions about our sex life. I’m sure she enjoys the power she has over me when I’m involuntarily thrashing around, and I think she adjusts how she plays with me according to how my body responds.

She only allows me to eat her pussy about once a week. I spend a lot more time licking her asshole. I usually eat her pussy on Saturday or Sunday morning or on Sunday afternoon when she is feeling relaxed. While I kneel over her with my face in her pussy, she usually milks me by gently massaging my testicles and stroking my perineum. Once she receives her orgasm, she rolls over and I shift my focus to her asshole while she continues to milk me. She never gives me a full milking; she only wants to reduce the pressure in my balls so I am less likely to have an unintended orgasm later in the week.

Occasionally, I do experience an orgasm. At night, she enjoys teasing my balls until I am almost ready to ejaculate. Then she abruptly stops, kisses me goodnight, and rolls me over. She has become an expert on knowing just how far she can edge me, but once in a while she pushes me a little too far. There also are times when she seems intent on giving me an orgasm, either as a “reward” for good behavior or because she is getting tired of too much attention. But no matter what, it is ALWAYS a ruined orgasm. As soon as the first spasm begins, she pulls her hands away from me, and I am left to twitch helplessly in the air without any touching or stroking—two feet away from her warm pussy, which is protected from my penis by my tight metal cage. If a ruined orgasm is frustrating, a ruined orgasm inside a chastity cage is only worse! Whenever she brings me close to an orgasm—whether or not I end up having one—coming inside her is all I can think about even though I know it is never going to happen.

My wife justifies her treatment of me by reasoning that I am actually receiving more pleasure now that she is in control than when we were engaged in a conventional sexual relationship. That may be true, but I also have given up a lot! I no longer have an opportunity to experience powerful orgasms or to feel my penis inside a warm, moist pussy. Indeed, I’ve completely lost the ability to use my penis for anything but urinating. It’s never even touched. It’s locked away so that it plays absolutely no role in our sex life. My wife doesn’t taunt me about my penis being useless—it is useless!

I still find myself wondering why I let my wife keep me locked up. When I think of all the freedoms she has taken from me, I feel foolish for allowing it. I imagine rebelling against her and taking back my manhood, but I never seriously consider it, and I doubt I ever will after nearly six years of enforced chastity. Why haven’t I rebelled? I can think of at least three reasons.

First, I obviously must desire this sort of treatment on some level; otherwise I never would have been interested in experimenting with chastity in the first place. I don’t think a man ever feels more like he has captured the attention of a beautiful woman than when she has chosen to enslave him and keep him locked up solely for her pleasure. And, ironically, one never feels more like a man than when his manhood is seen as so powerful and dangerous that it must be locked up. Unfortunately, my wife has gradually chipped away at my freedoms as her power over me has grown.

Second, I’m afraid I already know what will happen if I ever rebel against her—I will lose, and I will pay a heavy price for losing. The pattern is set because we already have played this game on a smaller scale. Whenever I have been out of my device for a few days because of illness, injury, or travel, my wife has refused to touch me or to let me touch her until I’m safely locked back up. In two or three cases, I procrastinated about asking her to lock me back up, and I was punished by being placed on “probation” for up to a month. During the probationary period, I wore my device but she enforced a strict no-touch rule. By the end of the probation, I was willing to agree to almost anything just to feel her hands around my balls again. She is determined to maintain our current lifestyle, and I’m afraid of the punishment I would incur by challenging her. It wouldn’t surprise me if I faced a probationary period of a year and the permanent loss of additional freedoms.

Finally, I don’t think it would be possible for us to go backwards after nearly six years of chastity. I’m certain she would never agree to give me the same access to her body I once enjoyed, and she wouldn’t be happy relinquishing control after having exercised so much of it. If she wasn’t happy resuming her old role, I probably wouldn’t be happy either.

 

harddenial: I'm sorry I haven't been around to respond to your post until now. You mentioned that penetration is a thing of the past for you and your wife. Although that wasn't the situation for me back in June 2015, I suspect that it is true for me now, and that it will remain so. Although my wife hasn't said anything, it's certainly true from a practical perspective given we haven't had penetrative sex in more than a year. Maybe it is for the best as the last penetrative sex we had was very painful for me. She covered my erect penis with shaving creme and proceeded to use a razor to shave the entire shaft and head. Then she rinsed my penis and rubbed it very roughly over and over again with a towel under the pretense that she was drying it off. After that, she slapped on an alcohol-based aftershave, which made it sting like heck. At that point, my penis was beet red, swollen, and seeping. She reattached my scrotal ring, and then, after warning me not to make a move, she mounted me and fucked me to an orgasm. Between my stinging penis and the scrotal ring pinching into my balls, the sex really hurt, and I couldn't wait for it to end. It just now occurred to me that either she wanted me to remember my LAST penetrative sex as painful (perhaps as revenge for the times when my penis had made her sore) or she wanted to make sex so painful I wouldn't desire it again. I'm not sure I ever would desire it again--at least under those conditions. In that context, my penis seems pretty comfortable inside its protective metal cage.

Sesla

 

Tombow: Thank you for this comment. I really appreciate it. In fact, it made my day! Sesla

 

harddenial: I enjoyed your wife's comment, "Not to worry, oral does very nicely thanks." I think verbal teasing can add an interesting dimension to male chastity. Unfortunately my wife doesn't engage in much of that. In general, we don't talk much about what is going on between the two of us. I think that is to discourage me from topping from the bottom. Sesla

 

9. Rough Treatment

After wearing a custom-made metal chastity device almost full-time for the past five years, our sex life has evolved to where I clearly understand which activities are permissible and how my wife will respond to my attention. In fact, the permissible activities and rewards can be summarized quite neatly in the following table. As you can see, we participate in a fair variety of activities, all of which result in identical outcomes for me. Anything else is pretty rare.



My wife doesn’t like me sticking my tongue too deep into her mouth, and she has little tolerance for breast or nipple play. She usually responds by sinking her fingernails deep into my scrotum and pulling on my balls like she is trying to tear them off. The offending behavior quickly ceases.

 

Wannabe:

You may find that if you are patient, your wife’s play will become rougher over time. My wife is not particularly sadistic by nature, but her play has definitely become a lot rougher. She used to softly stroke and tease my balls. Now she is more into digging her nails into my scrotum and perineum, scratching and pinching, and pulling and squeezing my balls. She doesn’t like me talking to her about chastity or how she treats me, and I try not to top from the bottom. When she is working me over, I try to keep my mouth shut, but I cannot help but let out a little yelp once in a while. I suspect she sometimes pushes me to see how far she can go before I make a sound or try pulling away. Of course, as long as I keep quiet and continue to take it, she thinks she can keep torturing me. She also receives positive feedback from my body’s response and the improvement in my demeanor after one of our sessions.

After several years of chastity play, she has learned a lot about how my body responds to various techniques. I am sure she knows that I am more responsive and she can play with me longer when she treats me roughly. In fact, when she plays really rough by sinking her nails in deep and pulling hard on my balls for a couple minutes, it is like a switch is turned off, and she then can play with me indefinitely without having to worry about my penis getting too excited and ejaculating accidentally. But I also think she simply enjoys having control over me as I squirm and struggle to pull away from her grasp.

So you might try being patient. If your wife begins playing rough, you will enjoy your predicament much more if it is something she wants to do instead of something you asked her to do.

Sesla