I'm new. I'm nervous.

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    I'm new here. I don't know what info I'm supposed to give here. But here goes. I've been with my girlfriend for two years. It was great until about a month ago. I messed up big time. I got drunk at my company's Labor Day picnic. I didn't do anything stupid other than getting wasted which I get is very stupid. I mean I didn't do anything crazy or dangerous. But I was told I shouldn't drive back home, so I had to call her to pick me up. She was many pissed.

    Then last Saturday I was supposed to clean up the apartment but I went fishing instead. When I got back home she left a note saying she was going to be staying with her mom for a few days because she needed to think things through.

    She came back Monday with a list of rules like I have to get her permission to leave the apartment, and I can't go to bed until the apartment is clean.

    I agreed because I know I messed up. Once big time and once a little. I also don't want to lose her.

    Then yesterday a chastity cage came. She says I'm going to be locked in it for the entire month of October at least.

    I told her I wasn't okay with that. She says I have until Saturday to get okay with that or find a new place to stay.

    I'm very nervous. I found this place looking for info on this subject and what life in chastity is like and it popped up on Google.

    So I'm here to learn and find out how you go a month without sexual release.

    Oh and if it matters, she took my cherry 2 yrs ago and I've never been with anyone else. I'm also a bank teller and she's a nurse so she's making way more than I do.
     
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    Good luck finding some new place to reside! It's a difficult market out there. Since you're here, though, you might as well give the chastity thing a try, you might find you like it even if you aren't with her any more...
     
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    Sounds like it's going to be a challenge going straight into a month locked is going to make you or break you, hope you can pull it off
     
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    Well, I don't think you messed up, for her to come up with all this stuff, I have a feeling her need to control was there before and she was just looking for the right opportunity to launch into this. So, you do have a choice to make, either go with the flow and see if you like it, or run for the hills. My advice is run with it for a while, but yeah, going from zero to a full month in one go will be a challenge. The truth is, going without orgasms can be very rewarding once you're in the right mind set. I hope she found a good cage for you, do you know what it is, like make and model sort of thing? If now, can you take a photo of it? I hope it's not a nasty CB style cage. If she's a beginner, it might be.

    Feel free to use this forum for support and you start your month of lock up. October is known as Locktober and it's a way to get a lot of beginners started. I started too late for it last year, so I'm going to do it this year.

    Good luck.
     
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    If this turns into mother-in-law is leading everything type story I’m done!
     
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    It's called the Fyjennicc V5 Standard. It's black plastic.
     
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    Well he won't be able to pull it off, will he?
     
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    First, welcome to this site!
    Then, please keep in mind that chastity isn't a way to fix a broken relationship. I suggest you two get into talking first to sort things out.
     
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    Maybe we could have a game of "Let's guess the future".

    Will it be;
    * She wanst to fuck you in the ass
    * Always being naked except for the cage
    * Tidying her friends apartment
    * Sleeping at the bottom of the bed
    * Wearing women's clothes
    * Blowing the BBC of your boss
    * Going to work wearing panties and a bra
    * The mother-in-law taking over cock watching
    * Being forced into servicing the mother-in-law/friends orally
    * Being forced to go out dressed as a woman and having to blow some guys to get bus fair home haha
    * She wants you to watch her get fucked by your boss
    * She will make you drink her pee
    * She will make you eat your cum or the cum of her bull
    * Handing over 75% of your paycheck to her so she can go on holiday with her other BF

    Maybe I'm too cynical nowadays, or I've seen too many captions.
     
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    Literally speaking no lol
     
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    Maybe he’ll move out and sort his future out as he’s clearly not happy with this scenario… that would be a refreshing change.
    But I imagine they won’t be able to afford that so they’ll share the apartment and he’ll have to watch her fuck BBC every other night.


    We’re way too cynical !
     
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    There's a lot we don't know.. Maybe you don't know some of it either.

    This is why you need to have a long talk with your girlfriend.

    Is this going to be permanent or just a month and then you're done.

    Who else, if anyone, is going to know?

    What happened when you break a rule?

    Will she inflict pain on you and if so with what?

    Will she remain in an exclusive relationship?

    After the month, if you remain in chastity how often will you be released for sex?

    All cities couples with the out for themselves.

    I am a chastity slave. My only two limits are scat and ws.

    I've done things I never thought I would like asking a rando guy if I can give him a nonreciprocal blowjob, been spanked by her and her friends, and my cock and balls shocked with TENS until I was a sobbing mess.

    Others are very discrete and in a committed exclusive relationship.

    And there are couples all over the spectrum.

    If this is ongoing, think about the best case scenario from your perspective. You at locked up for a week a time, get to have PIV sex and everything continues as it has except for the chastity. Can you be happy? If not are but going to be happy. You can get used to things you don't like. You'll never get used to things you hate. I have never gotten used to sucking cock.
     
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    Welcome to our community.
     
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    If this is all true (sounds a bit like a phantasy) you are very luck to be introduced to this way of life so early in life!Don't be nervous, follow her led and be happy!
     
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    Sounds extremely toxic, I would leave.
     
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    @TheGriff , please don't be put off by some of the extreme stuff the guys have posted above, just keep in mind that different people do different things, that's just how life is. And also remember that everything is consensual, if you give this a try and she wants to take it somewhere that you are not comfortable with, you can always quit. Granted, that might mean breaking up with her, but there is an out. If you go into this with an open mind, you might just find that it's fun and that it becomes a lifestyle that you really enjoy.

    As for the cage that she bought you, I see the brand FYJENNICC attached to many different types of cage. Does yours have 3 plastic poles at the top and you have to slide lots of different pieces onto them (like the pic below) ? If so, that's a CB style cage and I think they're nasty, you won't make it through a whole month in it. You'll have to ask her for a better cage, and we can guide you there. If yours looks different, please post a photo of it.

    I do hope you decide to give this a go, and we'll help you though it. I'm going to be locked for all of October myself.
     

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    hello @TheGriff and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    I wonder if the genders were reversed and a boyfriend who is in a better financial situation than his girlfriend wanted her to submit to a sexual practice she did but want to, (say sadomasochism) and told her she had a week to either get okay with it or find a new place to live how many people feel it okay to tell her well, you're lucky to experience this at such a young age.
     
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    I disagree with the first part of your statement. Getting drunk at a work function (even though it was not at work) was a major misstep. Fortunately, he didn't do anything that got him arrested or sent to the hospital. But to wasted that someone told him he shouldn't be driving while at a work-sponsored event was very poor judgement.

    Imagine if he applies for another position and the one making the call remembers the incident or reminded of it. ''He's applying for X? Wasn't he the guy who got shit faced at the picnic two years ago?"

    This is the kind of thing that can follow you.

    But I do agree that she probably had this thing hatching in her mind and was waiting for an excuse to execute it.
     
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    Okay, I can help here. I was in the Navy and spent two months in basic training after being sexually active since I was 16.

    Hundreds of were quartered in rows of beds in an open room, and communal showers with every second pretty much accounted for and zero privacy.

    I didn't masturbate even a single time. I had a few wet dreams m. I'm not even sure if that is possible in chastity.

    It wasn't that difficult because you were boned tired by the time I got to bed, I was out instantly.

    Physical activity is a good outlet for sexual frustration.
     
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    I think you missed my point, though you seemed to agree with it by the end. I'm not saying he didn't mess up, I'm saying he didn't mess up WITH HER. The point being that she was probably planning this for a little while and was looking for a good excuse to launch it. If a "normal" GF is pissed off with her BF for getting drunk, they don't normally reach for a chastity cage as the solution.
     
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    I would argue they if a guy messes up so that it affects his future and he's in a committed, long term relationship, he is also messing up her future, then he's messed up with her.

    But as it is, he had realized that he messed up badly and I don't think it serves anyone up belabor the point further, especially given the ultimatum he's been handed.
     
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    Chaz69 is right about the cage. Tell your fantastically controlling "Girlfiend" that you'll do "a" month straight on the cage, but SHE needs to purchase a custom made to order titanium device. You say She makes way more money than you do, so shouldn't be a problem, except for the waiting time to build the cage. By the way, does She know you can just pull out the back of most devices? Even the custom ones? Yeah, if not, don't tell Her! This sounds like "embellishment" to me, but if not, you may have a truly controlling/Dominant Girl. Congratulations!! Oh, wouldn't mind if you tell us how it all shakes out. Have fun!
     
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