If you had never heard of your fetish, would you invent it?

I was introduced to chastity by my girlfriend of the time. I was into bondage play but had never heard of chastity. She turned up one day with a crappy handcuff welded onto a closed steel tube and I said "what the hell is that?", to which she replied, "you're going to wear it"! Because it had a closed-end tube it had to come off every time I needed a pee, but asking her for the key so that I could pee was at first weird and then incredibly powerful. She had control. And so it all began....
But the short answer is "no"

 

42, the true answer to everything, best answer from "Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy."

We are not sure we would have invented it and that comes from a few people who are creative and solve problems daily. There are few really creative people like Divinci, Tesla, Ford, and others that dream up great inventions or incredible ideas. Then on the flip side, few can think like Marquis De Sade, or Mid-evil barbarians to create devices of pain and torture.

All of our fetishes are based on other, things we have read, movies we have seen, or introduced by others. We were introduced to swinging by some very friendly neighbors, BDSM by a slightly off centered couple, and to chastity by a couple with a Domme wife. Each was and is an amazing part of our life and we would not change a thing (maybe explore some a little more). However, if not for those people, we still may just be in bed in the missionary position.

 

Not chastity, but I do have a fetish for women wearing down jackets! I have as far as back as puberty, before even knowing what sex was and how it worked. I remember seeing my slightly older second cousin wearing a black North Face Nuptse and my heart nearly jumped out of my chest I’d have been about 13.
I now know this is a fetish and OTHERS also have it also!
Interestingly, as I understand it, strictly a fetish is the sexual attraction of an ‘object’ - for me, it only really comes alive when worn by a woman and my sexual attraction is toward the woman, not the jacket. I’d love to feel the jacket but only in a sexual connection with the woman.
Bizarrely, my alter ego is that woman... where is Freud when you need him??

 

I didn't know about chastity for most of my life, so probably not.

Cross dressing was something I was drawn to before I even knew It was a thing. From a very young age it just seemed right.
When you have these feelings from about the age of five. And couldn't of been influenced from some outside source. It definitely was something that had to happen.

 

Fetishes are like grown up make believe. The way a young girl had a tea party with her dolls and stuffed animals. A grown adult man will use his imagination for creating fetishes in the same way. If they didn’t exist, they will soon exist no matter what

 

I can answer this because I was around before the internet made it easy to be kinky!
Since I like bondage contraptions, I'd probably have come up with something sooner or later. I doubt that I'd have come up with something like the molded CBX line, but it probably would have been some kind of cage or tube.

 

A new fetish could be seen like a car. No one thought they needed a car until Karl Benz invented it, then slowly everyone had to have one. If I ever discover something that I NEED, I would introduce it...maybe here.

 

While I like researching names and details for stuff that interests me, I’m also capable of just explaining it. The more I explain it, the better I am with coming up with core concepts and themes, and am likely to come up with an abbreviated titled for the interest based simply on the core data - that way, those I’ve already discussed it with know what I’m referring to without me having to launch into the explanation again.

I once got contacted by a guy who apologized first, then asked me what I’d do if he walked up and hit me out of the blue. I gave him a real world answer, then asked why on earth he’d do that. He explained that he had a fetish, etc. and I suggested he look into take-down scenes. At first he was skeptical, but then I pointed him to a local FetLife group in regards to a a monthly party on that theme. He was thrilled to not only have a name for it, but to discover that there was an active fan base for it.

A lot of people want to feel that they’re not hopelessly alone in their kinks. The concept of individuality only goes so far.

 

Growing up in a religious house in the 70’s and 80’s before internet I’d have to say yes and no. Yes, because I’ve always had a thing for women’s clothing (especially panties and bras) so I often snuck my moms and sisters to wear and feel as often as I could. Women’s underwear just feels better. Both the material and fit. As for chastity I’d say no because I never would have thought of locking my penis up before I saw it on the internet. However, I have always looked at women as superior to me and have always been submissive to them and wanted to do my best to please. But now that chastity is a part of my life I can’t imagine not having it

 

Well the answer has to be yes. After all I did for 50 years, 20 of them married! Would I want to go back to not being chaste? Well, no not at all. We are having to much fun. And anyway I don't think Mrs Chaste would be up for it either! I wonder when a fetish changes to a lifestyle. Not that I care really! I expect most of our friends and acquaintances wouldn't "get it" so to them it's just a fetish. To us it's an important part of our everyday lifestyle. To answer the question would I invent it! I honestly don't think I have that much imagination. I was gob smacked when I stumbled on chastity (as detailed elsewhere on here). We are both glad we "found" chastity though!

 

Dressing is something I have done since childhood. ...before I knew there was a name for it ...before I was old enough to have any erotic feelings to associate with it. ...before anybody told me it was inappropriate. It just felt comfortable and right.

Chastity I didn't discover until much later in life. I had decades to invent it for myself, but didn't Had I never laid eyes on a chastity cage, I would probably still be oblivious of it today.

So the best answer I can give to the original question is both an emphatic YES and a probably not.

 

I tried to create a device to prevent me access to my penis when I was about 14 years old. It was a failure and I decided it would be too difficult. So I would have definitely come up with something at some point along the way.

 

Actual, physical chastity... probably not. I don't know that I would have otherwise been aware that such devices exist.

But I would say that some of my fetishes and kinks came to me or developed quite naturally, and though I wouldn't say it was entirely without any outside influence, much of it was at least without being aware that some kinks were named, known, and/or accepted by others. For example, sexual rejection and denial, SPH, etc., and I know I had fantasies about my wife sleeping with other men before I knew that it was called cuckolding and was something that apparently many other men think about too. I have a very intense attraction and obsession with the female buttocks and anus, and I had and fulfilled strong desires to insert my fingers and tongue before I knew, for instance, that rimming was a thing.

 

When I was a child (perhaps 6-8 years old) I stumbled upon my older brothers' athletic cups. I would sneakily shove one down my pants and LOVED the feeling of my tiny erection straining against the hard plastic.

So contemporary male chastity simply fulfilled something I loved as a child. Had "it" not been invented, I certainly would have. Although, I'd have come up with something more akin to the "full belt" as opposed to the trapped ball devices.

As for crossdressing, I admit that panties are just simply more comfortable.

 

If there was no such thing as women's clothes it wouldn't be possible to desire them.

As for the other stuff. I think its best to take a holistic approach. And concider the fundamental, interconnectedness of all things.

 

I devised various ways to put my cock in bondage way before I knew that cages existed. Empty toilet paper tube, hm-m-m-m, I bet my cock could go in there. But how do I keep it on? I know, put holes in the tube and tie strings around my waist.

Totally primitive and no good for more than a few minutes but the desire was there.

How about those small, very fine, nylon bags? Those work pretty well as a cock cage.

Then too, there's cock bondage using cordage. That must be chastity's first cousin.

So, to answer the question, yes. I 'invented' chastity for myself but I'm delighted inventive people have taken it to the level it is now.

 

I was tying things around my penis and/or balls during the day and overnight by the age of 14 or 15, decades before the internet and before I'd ever seen porn. That continued into adulthood -- I distinctly remember elaborate sessions with neckties -- before I discovered chastity devices.

 

Yes, this.

Most of us have probably experienced trapped erections wearing tight jeans. That plus a bondage fetish would easily take us there.

In my case, I discovered Victorian chastity devices in a book, pre kinky internet, and immediatly aquired the fetish.

 

Which, ironically enough, means thst somebody had already "invented" them. So... does that disqualify you?

 

When I was coming of age (no pun intended) in the late 80s through early 90s, I tried to control that rascally erection with toilet paper tubes and the plastic rings from milk bottles. When I discovered body piercing, I thought of locking a PA to a guiche, but I wasn't interested in letting piercings heal permanently at that time. I knew of the folklore of the chastity belt, but I'm not sure if I saw a male version before I inferred one. I don't think I'd have ever come up with the scrotal ring/cage combo.

 

Well, technically, the Victorian devices were medical ones. So I think I did develope the fetish all on my own.

 

That's technically correct, which is the best kind of correct.

 

I'm going to say yes - someone would have came up with the idea, somebody must have thought it first, you might have gotten there first if you were old enough. I remember when young getting thrilled about the prospect of knowing someone was getting spanked - I didn't know there was spanking fetish. I also remember about the time of puberty and being in the bath wanting pain on my penis and testicles - I didn't know of BDSM. This was pre-internet and the only porn that was available was tatty hand-me-downs from somebodies big brother or nicked from their fathers wardrobe.

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