Ideas from Keyholders on Tease and Denial

So not a lady, but maybe can help. My wife and I have only been doing this for about 5 months now. Of all the changes she has made T&D is probably the hardest for her. I think this is mainly because foreplay was always my responsibility. I was perpetually horny while she needed warming up. She has taken to a lot of the chastity and FLR life style in that she likes the sex being for the most part exclusively about her and she loves being waited on and pampered.

One night I asked her for permission to switch roles. I asked to be dominant with certain boundaries. I still couldn't cum and she was free to stop whenever she wanted. I told her I wanted to show her how I imagined myself wanting to be teased. I then had her promise to keep her hands to her side and no matter what she could not cum. I then proceeded to use a variety of techniques to stimulate her including playing with and sucking on her breasts, oral sex and the magic wand. Whenever she seemed to be getting close I would back down. I did this for 20 minutes and then told her she was back in charge and if she wanted me to finish to tell me so.

People here will tell you I was topping from on bottom and I'll say guilty as charged, but how else do you expect your wife to know? Mine finds the porn stuff about dominance much to extreme and a turn off. Sometimes it's easier to learn something like that through experience than discussion. My wife still isn't great at T&D, probably the biggest area of friction (or lack there of) in our chastity relationship. What I am learning is to positively reinforce when she does something I enjoy and that builds her confidence gradually. This role reversal thing though really got her started on something she never seemed willing to do before hand.