Ideas for Punishment/Discipline in a beginner FLR

I allow my sub to drink his coffee so he doesn’t get the withdrawal headaches but I make sure he has lots of flavored cream to enjoy.....he HATES flavored creamers.

 

You are evil! I drink it black, no sugar, no creamer. Flavored creamers gag me. Please don't tell my KH.

 

Yup it really does ruin my morning coffee.

 

THAT would straighten me out in a jiffy.

 

That’s kinda the point isn’t it?

 

I think that given a choice between more time locked up or some number of strikes with the cane, paddle, whip, etc. would be pretty exciting. Maybe I could choose the category (more days locked or some corporal punishment or bondage period) and then my Keyholder could determine the amount either by simply choosing or perhaps spinning a wheel or rolling some dice, etc.
Another tool at her disposal would be denying me the chance to service her pussy.
I can think of so many punishments... Having to sleep in heavy bondage with ass and mouth plugged, with posture collar and bondage mittens, some punishment heels locked on... The works, I guess, if the transgression was severe enough.

 

This sounds more like funishment then punishment.

 

Okay, I know this is supposed to be about chastity and punishment but let's get back to turnips. I too hated em till I discovered this. Hear me now and thank me later. https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes...root-vegetables-recipe3-1941827?soc=sharemail

 

There is an old BDSM related joke about Masochism.

Q: What is the worst thing one can do to a masochist?

A: Nothing.

Submissives seeking attention from their Dominants are often similar to children seeking attention from parents. Sometimes the worst punishment is denying them ANY attention for a period of time. Think of it as an "emotional time out."

 

However in doing this, sometimes it can turn into an unnecessary fight.

 

That's a LOT of cream and butter!!

 

Very true words. Sadly my wife has worked this out!

I’ll also add that a caning with serious verbal chastisement is far worse than a funishment caning. Sometimes the context can make quite a difference!

 

The cane for me is funishment - which is fine, and it turns my Wife on to do it as well, so she really enjoys her oral service from me.

If she is annoyed with me though, then it is the wooden bath brush - many would say that is less harsh than the cane, but for me it is punishment, I hate it! Of course there will also be an added delay until my next release

 

At the moment I only have one punishment that is agreed on. But it's for major mistakes. The punishment will be: Having to completely fast for a full day (at least 24 hours) it hasn't been put to use yet. And I know I will truly not like this punishment...

 

I guess I'm lucky my Kh doesn't use punishments.
But what made sense was punishments the next day. This is a particularly usefull idea if you still have younglings still at home.
For the past 8 months it's been 90% financial control and recent months adult material control and app & device control.

Material,app,device control has been the trickiest and not 100% fool proof (lucky me) due to Android OS not having native parental controls and as a parent too that is a problem.

 

Can you explain a bit more about what you mean by adult material control, do you mean not accessing any or do you mean some pre-approved material is allowed? Also curious how you mean device control etc, do you mean certain times access only? Have not really heard of anyone doing this before so quite curious as to what is actually involved.

 

Exactly..
Parental software installed on all my devices..so no porn and blocked sites like eBay etc.
If I want access to porn or eBay and such I ask her then hand over my device or laptop and she turns off the parental software for a short time.
also we use remote control of my devices if she thinks I'm spending too much time on them she can simply open the appropriate app and lock/turn off any of my devices.

Recently she had an app on my phone that locks apps automatically and can only be unlocked with her finger print but it conflicted with the anti porn and web site blocker.

We don't use a time schedule as I work crazy hours.

It's still a work in progress.

 

Thanks for the explanation . That definitely is something I've not really seen much on here before, always nice to hear about new ideas etc. Do you have a journal or similar? Would be interested to follow how this works out for you and how you refine the process over time.

 

No problem Im sure there are many spouses who either limit or block adult material.

I had a journal on another similar site but I stopped along time ago simply as we don't really do much that would be interesting. Writing about how many weetabix I put I'm my bowl just isn't worth it.
Quite normal vanilla life with a dash of Chastity and a scoop of FLR to taste.

 

Often times, I'm handcuffed to our bed while she'll go out and run errands. A couple days ago, she added something to this that was diabolical. She grabbed my balls, squeezed them hard and whispered in my ear. "You're going to watch this and when I get back, you have to tell me everything that happened". She was gone for two hours and I was forced to watch "say yes to the dress'. Good lord it's the worst thing I've ever seen.

When she got back, she took her riding crop to my balls as I had to retell the exciting plots. Absolutely diabolical.

 

I just got punished for touching myself without permission after an edging session and before putting the cage back on as instructed. I accidentally climaxed and confessed right away. My punishment is 1 month lockdown with no taking the cage off.

 

You know she's right, you know this is the way it has to be. You violated the prime directive. You're lucky it's only the cage, and not also a spanking and/or something worse.

 

I’ve struggled to use real punishment vs. funishment. So far my venemous rath seems to be enough to keep subby in line. I’d rather not punish in anger, because frankly, for me, that can get cruel if I’m pissed. Funishment keeps subspace going and that is a positive rather than negative reinforcement.

 

I wanted to share an idea of punishment for an insolent slave. I have been punished this way a few times over my many years as a chaste male. This is the simplest thing a KH can do...trust me, he will NOT forget this ANY TIME SOON!
Get your slave/boy/pet or whatever his title is all worked up. Then bind his arms and wrist behind his back. Make sure he is secured well. Do the same with his ankles and knees. Having his knees bound is very important. Oh...make sure to pull his package up between his thighs so the rest on top of his legs. Then sit on his legs, a gag is optional (may need it after a few seconds)...get the thickest elastic band you can find. A shorter one though, not a really long one. For the ease of this process. Once you are straddling his legs take the elastic band and hold it stretched across ONE of his testicles. Look him in his eyes and call him out for his wrongdoing. Make him explain why he did what he did. Once he gets to the part that you wish not to hear snap his testicle with the elastic. Ask the same question...same answer gets the same result...snap the elastic. After two snaps I promise you will have his undivided attention. Continue making him confess for his insolence...each time he says something you do not accept snap the elastic. Start alternating between testicles. You want to make sure you have him "by the balls" during this process. Continue until you feel as thought he is now saying everything with complete honesty! IF he sways back to a lie, snap his balls across both balls "twice" quickly! He will straighten right out.
Once he has confessed, you sentence him to one snap for each and every lie he told you during this punishment. Make sure he knows what is going to happen before you start. THIS is when you can make him beg for mercy. MERCY in the form of WHATEVER you want!! You can make him beg and plead for more time added to his sentence. You can make him beg for NO MORE ORGASMS, NO MORE TIME OUT OF HIS CAGE! ANYTHING...he will comply. Once you are happy with the outcome...hold the band across both balls, and snap it 10 times consecutively as a finale to his punishment. He WILL have many bruises, BUT he will NOT be seriously injured. This WILL make him think very carefully each time he thinks about doing something stupid. NOTE: even the lightest snap of the elastic will send waves of pain to his balls. You do NOT have to use strong snaps...but certainly can a few times to make sure he is paying attention.
I went through this twice...yes, twice because I did not believe she would do it to me a second time. BUT I WAS WRONG! NEVER again did my KH have to use this technique. All she did was mention it and I straightened right up!!

 

She went easy on you in my opinion. It could have been soooo much worse! Did you Thank Her for taking this action?? You need to thank your KH for taking the necessary steps in correcting your behavior. It does take her time and efforts. I think she deserves a Thank You and maybe a nice massage of some sort.