Ideas for Punishment/Discipline in a beginner FLR

Sorry this really doesn’t answer your question directly. But all I can say is don’t make the agreement too big. Too many rules and regulations and protocols tend to get in the way in the beginning. At least they did for us. We settled for a few things that we both except and just let it grow from there slowly.

For me corner time while holding a penny or rubber ball against the wall when she scolds me and smacks my butt. If you drop the penny it adds corner time.

 

Don’t confuse punishments with funishments. However that list seems to be more of the former!

 

For Us, the main rule is never at the time of the infraction but the next day I will kneel She will explain what i am being punished bend over the chair and get 10 of the best with the cane or paddle with panties still down stand in the corner tell my times up. if it is not a major infraction then writing lines and such good luck very good post

 

If you wear a properly sized open device like my Jail Bird, one interesting punishment is wearing tight jeans with no underwear. Between the zipper and the seams... ouch!

 

That does sound unpleasant!

 

If not caning or bondage my wife will add extra chores. No TV, no computer, . Clean rooms that have already been cleaned etc.
Sometimes I wish to just get my strapping/caning over with and move on.

 

These things have to be organic. You work out what succeeds and what doesn't as you go along. A list of prescriptive rules and punishments will only inhibit you

 

Although Madam at times use corporal punishment, one of her favourite punishments was financial sanctions. Our FLR included financial control and this was used to punish poor service and occasionally amusement. I once had to save from my allowance to buy Her an expensive gift, this served two purposes; i had less to live on myself and She had a constant visual reminder of the consequences of poor service.

 

In essence what we have the list for is things we are both comfortable and can be used without discussion at any point (safe words apply of course).

Anything not on the list can be used but needs to be discussed before use to make sure it is not a hard limit or there are concerns or precautions needed. So we can organically try stuff but we also try to have a list of things we can just do that have been agreed in advance.

The idea with this topic is that my lady wanted some ideas that are not the usual spanking style punishments to either see if we can make pre agreed or otherwise introduce later.

 

Mistress has always held the belief that on the first day the anger is still fresh so For Her and also for me to think about what I have done. I will say now its harder on me not knowing what it could be...and for those 24 hours, I walk on eggshells wondering what will happen because She will not talk to me in tell punishment has been completed. The silence sometimes is worst than the punishment hope that answers it for you Ma'am

 

The best punishment or discipline is something he seriously doesn’t like and that will be different with everyone.
Caged in jeans without underwear
Standing in the corner
Having your bum spanked
Extended time between releases
Making him eat turnips
Etc

The punishment can and will be as unique as your Chastity arrangement is. Personally the last one would be about the worst punishment. But that’s just me.

 

Withhold sex.

 

Some thoughts:
1. What matters to You as the F in the Flr? What do You want him to learn from discipline/correction/punishment?
2. What resonates? What will plunge right into the soft bits to shock and loosen?
3. What makes You proud of him? of the relationship?
What doesn't, and how would You communicate that displeasure?

 

TURNIPS? You. Pervert!

 

I’m sorry my deepest apologies. I never said I was normal

 

Extension of time before a release works well with me

 

Love turnips! In a nice Mrs Chaste beef stew! And a couple of nice big dumplings! I like to lick the bowl clean to! Good practice for my other licking duties!

 

We don't have, or haven't reached the stage of having, a punishment approach or any sort of formal framework. I find when I'm locked I feel naturally more submissive towards my wife and more amenable to simply "being telt".

For her part, Mrs. seems more assertive and ready to call bad behaviour out under lockup. A win win really. Currently Mrs. is contemplating how 2019 will look and what "resolutions" might be required. My masochistic streak is very excited by the idea of real punishment And, yes, be careful what you wish for ...

Anyway, she's armed with a link to the Keyholder forum on here now so who knows.

Happy 2019 all

 

The best thing to do is find out what he likes and doesnt like. Take away the things he likes, and give him more of the things he doesnt like. Example: i love coffee, i drink tons of coffee. If i anger my KH, she will restrict me from drinking coffee for periods of days at a time. For some people, that would be no big deal, but for me, it’s excruciating! And my wife knows this. As mentioned, every sub is different.

Other non-corporal punishments that i hate are: confinement- either cuffed to a chair, cuffed in our closet, or tied to the bed for periods of anywhere between 1 and 4 hours. Sleeping on the floor. And ice cold showers. Those are the worst! I would rather take 50 lashes with her whip than take a 10 minute cold shower!

 

@KHCouple4517

Whats his normal distance between O's?
Double it.
Ruin them.
Make him swallow it.
When you finally let him, make him look only in your eyes from start to finish.
If he glances at -any- distraction [use your imagination!], he must stop & keep waiting,

Kneeling on grits.

Turnips!
How about Stinging Nettles?

 

Just tried stinging nettles, more of a funishment, though not so much 24 hours later. Withdrawal of kink is the worst punishment!

 

Yes. If you are used to 'hands on' ... then the absence is keenly felt.