I think I broke her

very good advice!

 

My wife often likes PIV. She's also into control and chastity. If she lets me out to serve her, she'll say something like, "I'm the only one comming. If you do, you wont like what happens." As soon as she's done, I have to stuff myself back in.

 

+1

My wife also likes PIV. But she’s become comfortable with the idea that she can have me inside her whenever she wants (she’s in charge) while still denying me orgasms. It helps that I have good staying power, though she also regularly has me put on numbing cream and a condom to ensure I can go as long as she wants without any accidents. And she seems to quite enjoy the way I moan and squirm around the bed I frustration after she’s done using me.

In short, you can stay denied and submissive while she gets all the PIV she wants.

 

Many good thoughts.

That kind of thinking took me some time for my wife and I to get used to as well. When we first talked about 'chastity', it implied that I wouldn't have an opportunity to orgasm. It took some time to realize that it we referred to it as being 'locked', and she had the key, then of course she could choose to unlock me, and we could do whatever we wanted to, without violating some mental model we had about what we were "supposed" to do that wasn't what either of us really wanted.

I'm 'perpetually locked', but that just means I'm very willing and able when we fool around.

There are a lot of different ways to play the game, and it's important that both the KH and lockedee communicate and are on the same page about what the goals really are...

 

This thread got me smiling.
First the OP screwed up.
Then the friends gave guidance in a friendly and constructive way.
Then the lockedee (what a word!) got the issue solved with the KH, explaining what had happened and why he erred.
Everybody learned something.
I leared a new word "lockedee"

Hugs and kisses <3

 

If I had aid that to my Mistress she would have said fine and left it on…for good, until I was begging her. There are plenty of other cocks out there for your gf to enjoy, so you might be a we bit more careful.

 

Sounds like you have rethought things. Just have to remember it takes two of you to make something like this work. Each has a diff approach and view, but in the end she has the key and for us the goal is to please her as we both enjoy the experience.