Describing what I am looking for as a chastity relationship is just too narrow a definition. I know that for some people, a chastity relationship can just be someone to hold the keys and the only interaction is when they send them back at the end of the agreed time. That really doesn't work for me at all. When I first fantasised about trying chastity, that's what I thought it would be about, with perhaps some element of teasing involved during the lock up period. I thought such a thing could be done as a dispassionate business relationship. I totally misunderstood the emotional aspect, especially when D/s was applied. Letting someone else control and play with one of the most primitive parts of the human psyche turned out for me to be intensely emotional. What I learned over time was that for me I have no interest in chastity outside all the broader aspects of a relationship with the keyholder/mistress. The real appeal of chastity to me is in the committment it demonstrates to the keyholder as part of that broader relationship. And who is that keyholder/mistress ? Someone who is just as happy when not being 'mistress' and can be a friend with whom to enjoy the majority of real life that doesn't involve direct D/s play. Someone happy to go to dinner, or the theatre, or even just spend a long afternoon or evening putting the world to rights. For me, being in chastity within such a relationship becomes a normal state of affairs. Deep in a previous relationship I went a very long time between releases and I both dread and am fascinated by how in the right relationship the keyholder could manipulate my desire to go longer and longer, even to declaring chastity to be permanent. So it all begs the question, is there any keyholder/mistress out there who might be interested in taking in hand a slightly overweight, over working sub with a reasonable education and sense of humour who has side interests in D/s, feminisation and, of course, chastity ?