I know my Mistress out there. I just need to find her.

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  1. sissy_maid_melody
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    Describing what I am looking for as a chastity relationship is just too narrow a definition. I know that for some people, a chastity relationship can just be someone to hold the keys and the only interaction is when they send them back at the end of the agreed time. That really doesn't work for me at all.

    When I first fantasised about trying chastity, that's what I thought it would be about, with perhaps some element of teasing involved during the lock up period. I thought such a thing could be done as a dispassionate business relationship. I totally misunderstood the emotional aspect, especially when D/s was applied. Letting someone else control and play with one of the most primitive parts of the human psyche turned out for me to be intensely emotional.

    What I learned over time was that for me I have no interest in chastity outside all the broader aspects of a relationship with the keyholder/mistress. The real appeal of chastity to me is in the committment it demonstrates to the keyholder as part of that broader relationship. And who is that keyholder/mistress ? Someone who is just as happy when not being 'mistress' and can be a friend with whom to enjoy the majority of real life that doesn't involve direct D/s play. Someone happy to go to dinner, or the theatre, or even just spend a long afternoon or evening putting the world to rights.

    For me, being in chastity within such a relationship becomes a normal state of affairs. Deep in a previous relationship I went a very long time between releases and I both dread and am fascinated by how in the right relationship the keyholder could manipulate my desire to go longer and longer, even to declaring chastity to be permanent.

    So it all begs the question, is there any keyholder/mistress out there who might be interested in taking in hand a slightly overweight, over working sub with a reasonable education and sense of humour who has side interests in D/s, feminisation and, of course, chastity ?
     
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    Goddesschrissy You will Serve Me...

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    hi there slave.... i am looking for slave ho willing to owned online.... if you are interested add me on my yahoo messenger/skype ( chrissyred17 )
     
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    Well, hello there chrissy,

    Wow, how could I refuse an offer like that ?

    Oh, I see, you've just spammed a dozen threads with the same cut and paste message and you've broken my heart :(

    Yes, we do know that you're here (in multiple guises) with stolen pictures to scam people in to signing up to pay services from which you get a referral fee. Your scatter gun approach doesn't do much to hide this because you provide comedy gold by asking genuine dommes if they want to serve you.

    Talking of genuine dommes, can I take a bet that you aren't actually female ?

    I'm probably not the only one who has noticed that you trawl other sites with the same modus operandi. So please, give it a rest until you have something constructive to contribute.

    melody xx
     
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    sissy_maid_melody also rather illiterate. As soon as you see "contact me at". Ignore.
     
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    The poor spelling and the somewhat random placing of words in an attempt to make a sentence are fairly par for the course. If this person actually had an education then they wouldn't need to be trying to scam people in order to supplement their food stamps.
     
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    Whilst I do tend to agree with you, I do think you are sounding rather disgruntled. Not good for a sissymaid.
     
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    I think all those who value this site should be disgruntled at the number of people joining the site and trawling for paying customers.

    See http://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/threads/in-need-of-a-female-keyholder.9116/#post-87938

    Their activities even seem to have made some subs joining the site think they can do similar by posting pleading messages on some Mistress's profiles. Not good.

    Someone once described this site as a "home from home" lets's keep it that way. :)
     
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    maid_carrie I don't think I have ever encountered such an outspoken sissymaid. However, your comments are quite sensible.
     
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    I would enjoy the kind of relationship you describe.

    I am currently single, but fate has cruelly placed us on different continents. I have never been to the UK and have no plans to relocate outside of my beloved San Francisco. Do you ever have cause to travel? Maybe fate will someday give us a chance.
     
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    Sorry for the repost, internet crashed while I was replying.
     
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    Whilst San Fran is indeed one of my favourite places in the US, I no longer travel.

    Thank you for bringing up the possibility but a long distance relationship is not really going to work. I hope you can find someone suitable for your needs, the Bay Area ought to be a good catchment area.
     
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    Around 20-30 people show up for my Chastity Social every 2 months... but most of them are married to someone else already. I find a lot of people into this fetish are hiding it from a partner so I hope there is someone out there for me (currently single).
     
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    the 'spamming' of cut and paste messages is a unfortunate reality on other sites. some require escorts, 'working ladies' of any description, to have an 'escort' profile if they are there specifically to gain 'custom' and to pay for that priviledge. unfortunately many dont, they reel a guy in then 'request' a 'token' of some kind, gift or cash. that is total BS, and not my way of doing things. in 'aquiring' my sub, echo, we got chatting in the main room, as part of the main room banter, then pair off, as most 'couples' would. he did not get through my defences by spamming(which many cut and pastes make the poster look like they are having a tourettes outburst), but by normal room banter, many people just 'dont get it'. i made it quite clear from the very start that i was not a pro domme, did not charge or require 'gifts' for my attention. he has offered to,,, i made it clear that if he wanted me to wear something particular, he would have to buy it, but it was not a requirement. items i suggest for him or myself are just 'suggestions', nothing more and as he is still on the 'online only' part of his training, i made it very clear that if we get to meeting no2, then he can purchase something specific, but not beforehand, but only if he wants to. having been 'custom to a working lady/ladies' in the past, i know the flip side of the coin, and he has a life outside of our 'arrangement' and that the mundane things of life get in the way of and totally kibosh 'funtime', but hey, s--t happens. have respect for your subby and they will reward you too
     
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    ps, sometimes my posts are cut and paste, i find it easier to write them using Word 1st :D
     
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    Thank you Mistress B I try to put my intelligence and skills to my Mistress's use and over time have hopefully eased her life.

    Will that be all Ms?

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    A delightful curtsey.
     
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