I am in violation

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    I was almost certain, that yesterday I would get unlocked for a weekly relief...as this has been the recent trend (once weekly) I was so excited. I offered to take my Wife / KH shopping. I had a great day. Arrived home, had a quick bite to eat, cleaned kitchen and off to relax. It was then my mind was blown... I was told to kneel down before her. I was thinking I would get a little tease and then be released. Instead she proceeded to remind me that I failed to live up to her expectations...a few things I remember her saying was, I didn't get the door for her when she exited the truck, I made a smart ass remark in one of the stores, I did not offer to help clean up dishes and silverware after dinner, and there were quite a few more that I didn't even realize I did, or didn't do.. Needless to say an extra week was added, and when I said I was sorry, I was immediately given another week, as she said she didn't want to hear it.. In her exact words, and was told to hush, or go to sleep, was my only options. Wow, where did this come from... And the nocturnal erections last night was terrible... I was up every two hours walking them off. Not sure if I like this shit... Just saying
     
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    You'll get over it. Being permanently denied is one of the greatest perks of FLR.
     
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    Thanks for the encouraging words
     
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    Any time :)
    But seriously, there are threads upon threads here with people sharing their experiences, the majority of them boils down to this: even physiologically, a full orgasm after a period of denial sends you into a downward spiral. If you are in a FLR, your sole focus should be pleasure of your wife/gf.
     
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    I'm learning... I guess I am spoiled, given release weekly. As I said, my mind is blown... Mainly because I didn't realize I was in a FLR.... I guess I better re evaluate
     
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    Absolutely. Honest dialogue between partners is paramount. But, if you do decide that FLR is your cup of tea, the first thing you should let go is any sense of entitlement to orgasms. That is only for her to control.
     
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    In all honesty, it is out of my control for sure now... I think it went to next level without my consent.. But I'm willing to ride it out... Says the submissive in me
     
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    That submissive in you sure sounds like a smart guy.
     
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    #LukeVallentine
    Thanks for your thoughts and care
    I have to go but I'll check back later
     
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    I have oft read of this downward spiral. I would even endeavor to say I suffer from a "mini" downward spiral after an orgasm. At this point I'm denied for a week or maybe 10 days. Two weeks at most. After orgasm, I am just low energy and unmotivated for a couple days. I really have to make an effort to keep on top of things.

    When you say "after a period of denial", what do you mean by "a period". Are you talking days, weeks, months? I'm just wondering how severe I should expect this to become as the denial becomes longer.
     
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    @LukeVallentine You will need to get used to the idea that, as a sub, you don't have anything to consent to or not to consent to. Just take it as it comes. Over time, you will find it to be satisfying and fun.!!!
     
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    Of course. NCC in a nutshell.
     
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    It is a learning process, to realize how many basic things a husband or boyfriend routinely overlooks or fails to do. She did the right thing by pointing them out and immediately disciplining you. I think you need to pay closer attention to her, both actions and comments, to show her you understand and will comply. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    The mental tipping point for the locked is when you don’t even get your hopes up for a release even when things are hit and steamy.
     
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    A period (as well as severity of the spiral) depends on a person and has mostly to do with your testosterone levels. I've never been denied more than a week, but with high testosterone it's punishing.
     
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    I dunno... I mean if you are cool with that it's all good. This type of stuff is all about communication. Best luck.
     
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    You are a very lucky boy to have such an attentive and demanding Wife. Have you knelt down to show your appreciation for all she does?
     
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    Not really other than playing around...we have been playing around with chastity for about a year now and it's been pretty much a bedroom game, and I admit I was topping from a submissive role. I would be locked over night, but never would be made to go to work with it on. One morning, I fell asleep on the couch and she slept in, so I went on to work with it on. that was a turning point. Since then, it has been basically a weekly release, and then locked back up. I always had in the back of my mind that I could escape if needed, but recently discovered that this is not possible without consequences. Not punishment from her, but discomfort from being half in and half out... So I don't dare try. The recent kneeling was out of the blue... As a matter of fact, I kinda giggled when she told me to come and kneel before her. Then I realized, by the tone of her voice, she was pretty serious. She is usually a very shy woman, and this was not expected by me, but was a very arousing experience... Mixed emotions, but very exciting. I've always asked her to be a little more strict, but now I'm backing off the throttle, and she has shifted to the next gear. The last few days, my "topping from bottom" is non existent.. I'm hesitant to even mention anything about the duration anymore. All day yesterday, I found myself bitting my tongue on things I would normally add my two cents to. I'm very sorry for babbling on here, but just expressing my situation of this time line... It happened right before my eyes, not expecting it. Thanks for listening
     
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    It's not our (the caged ones) "what did I do?" that matters.
    It's their - "what you didn't do, and shall do" that counts.
     
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    Very true. Meanwhile, I'll be doing yard work with the worse case of blue balls I've had since 10th grade
     
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    YES! It's much better to be permanently denied, than to have the ups and downs of occasional orgasm. I know it seems counter-intuitive, but it's been almost a year since I had a traditional orgasm, and I'm almost afraid to have one now. The fall is so deep that I think I'd rather just stay on edge.
     
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    Weekly? Yes, you have been spoiled. Luckily, it seems she is on her way to fix that.
     
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    The less you get to enjoy it the better.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion! Get used to it!
     
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