I am from Denmark and my name is Tjeik

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    As a boy I was raised in a community of female led families in Denmark in the 1970s.

    My mother and her female friends belonged to the Women's Liberation Front - in Denmark called Rød Strømperne (Red Stockings) - who was a far left movement with focus on the emancipation of women and the abolishment of the patriarchal society. Some of those Red Stockings even dreamed of creating a Matriarchy, and tried to realize this dream in their own small communities. Just as other peoples on the danish left wing at the same time tried to create a socialist society in Christiania in Copenhagen, the capital of Denmark.

    As a believer in feminism and female superiority, my mother refused to be bound to a man by marriage or otherwise. Therefore she had different lovers, who never lived with us.
    My beloved sister Ida, who was three years younger than me, and I had different fathers. They didn't live with us, and we never spoke of them. My mother and her group of Red Stocking friends had moved into the countryside, where the houses were very cheap, and where they could live an undisturbed life. There were between 12 to 15 women (many newcomers came, and a few moved out) with their girls and boys, living in houses relative close to one another. Only a few of those women lived with a permanent male partner. The others had changing lovers, or preferred to live alone with their children as my mother did.

    As I mentioned, the women believed strongly in female superiority, and so did their daughters. The same did we boys, because so we had been told by our mothers, and; I must add, in a loving and caring way.
    My mother demanded, that in the summer time I should only wear briefs when at home or around our house. Boys are stronger than girls, she said, and they therefore have to do the hard work, which makes them sweat, and therefore they better be naked. And right she was, because when we older boys between 13-16 years on a hot summer day were working in the fields or in the orchards, which the women of our community owned in common (they were feminist and socialist), our bodies were covered with sweat. (All the other boys also just wore briefs in the summer time, because this was the rule of the women. Also the men were shirtless in the hot period).

    Although my name is Tjeik, I was often by the other children called by my nickname "the Indian" because of my tanned skin and my long black hair (all the other boys also had long hair at that time). This made me somehow feel better with my nudity during the summer days, because the Indians were a kind of role models or ideals for me as I saw them as freedom fighters in their struggle against the white settlers. Nevertheless I must admit, that it was a bit humiliating to have to be naked, except for my briefs, most of the summer. Even on pretty cold summer days I wasn't allowed any other clothing than the briefs, because my mother thought that this would harden me and make me more healthy. Perhaps she was right, for I almost never was ill. Especially embarrassing it was to be almost naked, perhaps, because the girls always were fully clothed. They wore very beautiful and expensive dresses and skirts. Expensive not measured in money (the girls dresses were cheap), but measured in the time consume that went with creating them. Our moms themselves knitted their daughters clothing in a special knitting, which was very popular in Denmark at the time, called "hønsestrik". (Link: hoensestrik - Bing images . Danish "høne" means "hen" in English).
    These bright and colorful dresses that the women and girls were wearing, were very beautiful, I think.
    On the other hand neither the women nor the girls wore cosmetics or make up of any kind. That was considered "reactionary" and "capitalistic", and therefore banished from our community.
    But the humble feeling of being naked among the well dressed girls was alleviated by the girls themselves. They seldom teased us boys with our nudity during the summer time (but of course, sometimes they did, girls will be girls), but instead complimented us with how much we had grown and how much stronger we seemed to be compared to the last time they saw us all naked the previous summer. Those women and girls, although they were in charge of their men and boys, were by no means wicked or evil. Of course some of the girls sometimes abused their power, but that was rather the exception than the rule.

    Most of the women in the group of about 12-15 leftist feminist women, who in the 1970s had bought cheap houses (or rather cottages) and land in the countryside on the danish island Zealand, took changing lovers - as did my mom - so as not to be dependent on a man, but also, I think, because "free love" was the trend of that time among young people, who considered themselves to be progressive. Therefore the women and mothers of our group were the stable factors in our small community, on whom we depended and on whose guidance we children always could count. Together with the fact, that all of these women were strong believers in female superiority, and transmitted this view to their daughters and sons, I think that the fact that the women, who owned everything, because they had founded the community, were always there, whereas most of the men, whom they took as their lovers, came and went, to a considerable degree contributed to make it possibly for our mothers to create that kind of matriarchal society that they dreamed of, and perhaps even made it inevitable.

    Now as I think about it, an interesting fact was, that although most of the women in our community were in their middle or late thirties, their lovers always were considerable younger than them, often in the middle, or even beginning, of their twenties. Perhaps women with power prefer young men, in the same way as men with power often prefer young women?

    Only three or four of the women of our group had permanent male partners, and as already said my mother was not among them. My mother named me Tjeik, which is not a danish name, because when she was pregnant with me, she read a book wherein there was a boy named Tjeik. She thought that the name was cute, and therefore she named me thus. Three years later my mom had a daughter with another of her lovers, and I got a sister, our dear Ida, who has black hair like me. We have it from our mother, who also was dark haired. So there was no dad around in our home to comment on the rule of the Women-Meeting (all decisions were made by the women in common at their meetings, which were very frequent), that all boys and males had to be naked during the summertime (from around the end of may to the middle of august, depending on the weather), except for small briefs for the boys, and shorts for the men. The only exception was when we went to school in the nearby village. Then we wore t-shirts and shorts, but changed to briefs when we came home. In the summer holidays, which in Denmark at that time lasted for seven weeks, we boys seldom wore anything else than only our briefs. We were not forbidden to wear shoes, and we occasionally wore sandals. But most of the time we walked barefoot, and so did the girls.

    Sometimes the girls also preferred to be naked, That was when they bathed in the nearby lake or in the small river running through the wood some distance away, or when they were sun bathing.
    But then we boys were strictly forbidden to come near the girls or to peep on them. This was to protect their modesty, we were told, something that the girls and their mothers were almost hysterical about, as it seemed to us boys. I remember a case, where a boy was severely punished because he accidentally saw some of our girls when they were bathing naked in the river, as he was strolling through the wood. That he did not do it on purpose did not help him. It's clear that you can talk of unfair double standards here, but perhaps the girls and their mothers wish to protect the modesty of girls at all cost was caused by an age old deep rooted fear of being raped by a male assailant. That was what I thought back then. To day I am not so sure. Perhaps their female superiority ideology was another motivation for the women and their daughters to be so strict about boy's and men's respect for girl's modesty? A kind of psychological warfare in the battle between the sexes, so to speak?

    What did we boys think about living in a Female Led Community?

    Well, in a good, well functioning family a child is brought up to honer and respect the values of her or his family. And that what we as children from early on are familiar with, and told to believe in, mostly seems quite natural to us.

    We boys and the males who lived with the women in our community always had to do the hardest work, because we were stronger than the girls. Therefore as I have told we had to be naked in the summertime, because hard work produces a lot of sweat. That was our moms rational explanation, which I believe to be true. And put to work we certainly were, because our moms were not rich, and they had self sufficiency as their ideal, opponents of the patriarchal capitalist system as they all were.

    Of cause the girls also worked. I think they worked almost as much as we boys, but their duties were centered at the home: They did most of the domestic work, they cooked, our moms taught them how to make clothes, and they were tending the gardens, while we boys and the men worked in the orchards and in the fields, which the women owned in common, because this work was considered to demand more muscle strength than work in a house garden.

    It was also customary in our community that when the eldest girl in a family reached the age of 13 or 14 years, then her mom would give her authority over her brothers, if she had any, regardless if they may be older than her. Because, as was said, even a young teenage girl is more mature than a boy of even 18 or 19 years.

    Then the sister acted as her mothers substitute, who had to delegate work to her brothers, supervise their work, and if necessary punish them in the same way that she had seen her mom do. It was a privilege for the girl, of which she naturally was very proud, but it was also a responsibility.

    Regarding the nudity of boys and males in our community I again want to emphasize, that it was only in the hot summer time, that the women ordered us to be almost naked (except for briefs and shorts, as already told). All the rest of the year we wore normal clothes for the season, outdoors and also indoors. At home we were not ordered to take of our briefs. Except when we were going to bed. Then the boys and men in all our households were required to sleep completely naked, while girls and women wore night gowns. But again: I think it is very normal in many cultures for boys and men to sleep naked. And in our little community I am sure the women introduced this rule in order to have easy access to their lovers genitals during the night if they wanted to. And I do not think that their men and lovers was very much against it.
    As a matter of fact, during sexual intercourse the woman always sat on top of the man, riding his erect male member, so to speak. The same did their daughters when they were sexually enjoying their boyfriends. This obviously was a demonstration of their female superiority, but it was not the only reason, and I think perhaps not the most important reason:

    The women wanted to control the sexual act, not in order to humiliate the man, but in order to assure, that he did not ejaculate inside the woman without her consent, because of the risk of pregnancy. Therefore our mothers told us teenage boys, always to warn a girl who had sexual intercourse with us in good time before we felt the urge to ejaculate, so that she could get our male member soft by squeezing our testicles or pinch our hard penis. The girl would then tickle her boyfriend's penis to get it erect again, and so it could go on for a while. Of course it was a bit painful for us, but the girls were never mean or evil. They did it for practical reasons, and when a girl had reached her climax, and was satisfied, she always masturbated her boyfriend until he ejaculated, thus rewarding him. I always was treated like this by my girlfriends, and despite my aching testicles it was worth it. So it was among us. For although the birth control pill was invented, not all women and girls in our community wanted to take it, suspicious of the products of the capitalist society as they were. (It later became known, that the birth control pill in rare cases can cause serious illness).

    In our Female Led Community the women upheld the rather old fashioned rule, that it was strictly forbidden for us boys to masturbate. As I was a teenage boy my mother gave my little sister Ida the task to watch over that I did not masturbate during the night. This she could easily do, because Ida and me slept together in a big old double bed. I always slept naked, whereas Ida and mom, who slept in a single bed beside us, of cause wore night gowns.
    Masturbation was a punishable offence, because a masturbating boy risked losing some of his strength and ability to concentrate, our mother told Ida and me. And if a boy had a girlfriend, it would make his girlfriend really mad if she suspected him of having the nasty habit of masturbation, because it proved, that the boy did not really respect the girl, who ought to be the sole focus of his sexual energy.

    Nocturnal ejaculations, caused by wet dreams, on the other hand, were never punished. And of cause not, because this was only normal, as my mother said, and something that every boy had from time to time.

    So although I did not wear a chastity device, which was unknown in Denmark back then, my sexual life and ejaculations were very much controlled. First by my little sister, and later on of cause by my beloved wife Larissa, who was a girl from our Female Led Community, who chose me to be her male partner when we both were very young. And we still live together in a Female led Relationship.
     
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    Hi interesting story. Congratulations on your excellent English.
     
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    Dear MSBD321

    Tank you for your kind words about my "excellent English".

    But things are not always as they seem.
    You might think, that I am a reasonably good English speaker.
    But the truth is, that I don't speak English. I sound like a clown if I try.
    But I read a lot of English books, because I am interested in history, and I am therefore able to write English, although I prefer not to speak it.
    The reason for this is our frugal life style.
    We never travel abroad. Also in my childhood we of cause never traveled abroad. We couldn't afford it. So I have never been in an English speaking country, and I have never had an opportunity to speak with Englishmen or Americans.
    My wife Larissa never reads English books.
    That's the reason why I am writting here, and not Larissa.
     
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    What a great story. My Danish heritage goes back at least 400 years mainly around Sønderborg. I visited Denmark for the first time in 2018 and loved it there. I had planned a longish stay in 2020 but of course covid has stopped me.

    Rart at møde dig. Velkommen!
     
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    Just because you can't speak English, nothing can take away your very good knowledge of the language and your huge vocabulary.
    Do tell us a bit more about how your wife controls you.
     
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    hello @Tjeik and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    A fascinating read. Perhaps a view of what a women led society could be like. I for one am not against it!
     
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    An interesting read. Welcome and thank you for posting it.
     
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    You want me to tell about how my wife Larissa controls me.
    And I will gladly do that, but in due time.
    Perhaps it is because I am so interested in history, but I think, that you have to understand a person's background if you want to understand that person and the way she or he lives.
    On the Forum Female Led Relationships I have started a thread which I call "A Female Led Community" where I will tell those of you who are interested about the Female Led Community of my childhood, and how we live today.
    I will of cause also tell more about Larissa and how she chose me to be her male partner and about our children and how we lived and still live in a Female Led family, which nearly all of us, who were brought up in our community, girls and boys alike, still do.

    Larissa has always controlled our sexual life. So it is among us. But I have never been locked in a chastity device. When my wife Larissa and I were young, we had never heard of chastity devices, but the concept of female control of boy's and men's sexuality, including how oft we were allowed to ejaculate, were very well known by the women and girls of our Female Led Community, and practiced by them with great success without the use of male chastity devices.
    Among us the women are in complete control of our sexual life. Both in regard to how sexual activities are performed - the woman always sits on top of her lover - and also when and how oft we have intercourse. This is so because it is the male penis who is penetrating the woman's body, and therefore she obviously have to want this to happen. Only if she wants it to happen, sexual intercourse is considered to be a good and beautiful thing to do among us.
    (I write this because someonein the Chat Forum this morning asked me if I was locked in a chastity device. I tried to answer him (or her), but I am not sure if it succeeded. But now I at least have answered here).
     
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    Welcome to our community. I hope you find it helpful and entertaining.
     
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