I am completely unprepared for the level of chastity my girlfriend wants

Good luck, it only gets stronger the longer you are locked, but only if she teases you, if not eventually you will lose interest and nothing.

 

Be frank with her, tell her how horny and frustrated you are feeling. That's not topping from the bottom. If she is enjoying the control, she will probably reply - "good, you'd better get use to it."

 

OMG best answer you could hope for.

 

Once it clicks with them there's no going back really, embrace it, itl feel normal soon, I've recently been told its on for good, only coming off when my fiance says so. Communication will be your saviour.

 

Well, that escalated quickly.

I think many of us wish we were in your position but all of us would struggle with the reality of being so properly confined as you are with your piercing. As long as she still plays, teases and has a desire to have sex with you there is hope for the future.

Make her feel like the very special woman she is and thank her.

 

I'm in the same situation and we are both loving it.

I have to say that being insanely horny and unable to resolve it took a few months to get used to, and even now I find it incomprehensible really, but the insanity has gone and I can focus.

As a rough estimate I'd say it took a year, and that included some long locks between the key being used (70 days, and then 120 days).

On average I get released and teased weekly, but orgasms and ejaculations are 100% prohibited, and she loves to tell me that I had my last orgasm already, and that I need to find another way.

I think I might be starting to hallucinate when she edges me haha BUT I can last a long time, which is a big surprise since the last full orgasm I had was last April and I had perhaps 5 crappy ejaculations (more emissions than anything else) in that time.

It will get easier if you can just persevere and find a way to manage your own mind...because it really is just a mental hurdle to get over, and nothing else.

I think it's worth it, at the moment

 

When we first started getting into chastity seriously she bought a timed lock box and to remove all temptation she would lock all of the keys in it. It was unbreakable, much like the cages aren't unbreakable and the locks are not unpickable, but it was enough of a barrier and it sent the message that she was serious about it.

 

My wife has altogether abandoned chastity play saying that it is a turn off for her. What should I do

 

Start a new post and ask the wider audience.

 

Done

 

You have to redirect that arousal feeling into something useful.

That is the answer.

Clean. Work out. Build a rocket to Mars. Cure cancer. Whatever you're good for, do it.

Sorry, that's the simple truth. Arousal means you need to be working more.

 

That's the reply I get from Mrs Chaste.

 

I would suggest asking her a simple question, since she is the one that proposed full time chastity. Is she keeping you locked to ensure that SHE is your only source of pleasure…or is she keeping you locked to deny you pleasure? There is a huge difference and it’s worth understanding.

 

I would suggest you find ways to distract yourself when necessary

and/or discuss this with her and raise with her the potential advantages of milking which can also be acheived by pegging should that appeal to her

you do need to consider how serious you are about continuing with chastity... is it a game for you two or a life-style and to what extent in either case

maybe she is trying to break you or find your breaking point

discuss it all with her.

 

Give her as many orgasms as possible any different way possible this will take up some energy and time and think of her instead of you. That's the point right?
Keep that up and your kinky mind will think of all kinds of thoughts to entertain each other. Have fun.

 

But “denying you pleasure” may be either an end in itself or a means of training, to motivate specific behavior and encourage submission. And there is a huge difference between those as well.

 

I was not planning to end up 24/7 and denied for months at a time either. I wanted chastity play to stop masturbating and improve our relationship. When I got the BB belt and gave her the keys I said they where hers to use as she pleases. Yes at times it can be almost unbearable, and at others I love intensity of the arousal. So I guess my point is you may also come to the feeling the life style.

 

This (to me) is a curious fallacy about chastity. I (or anyone else) can masturbate to porn just fine in a cage, it's just not the traditionally satisfying variation with a full erection. But I can still manipulate the cage, use a vibrator, and come with enough motivation. It can be very frustrating but it's own good way.

At the end of the day, chastity is between the ears more than between the legs.

 

Yeah, this is the most common-sense thing here as far as "oh my, what do I do ?? I can't take it out to jerk off!"

If you defeat yourself mentally before you allow yourself to be open to new sensations and new feelings, how can you ever expect to overcome the overwhelming desire to 'be free'? Also, spoiler alert, being free of your confines will not resolve any problems you had that put you there to begin with.

So my suggestion would be, buckle up buttercup-- and start finding ways to turn this into a net positive for you, your wife/KH and your situation. It starts between the ears and anything else that comes of it from this point would be because you took the initiative to make it happen.

 

I can too, but masturbating in my cage just reinforces the incredibly shameful feeling of being a cumpulsive uncontrollable masturbator that got me locked in the first place, so I really try to refrain from doing it. I still fail and spurt in my cage every six weeks or so though. It's really depressing when I do.

 

I wear a non balltrap cage, so can get a full erection but so far, even with a vibrating anal plug and a wand, I cannot make myself cum in the cage. I just get 3/4ths of the way and stay there. So for me it is truly up to her.

 

You're getting just what you needed a d wanted. You both know that your masturbating was affecting your relationship with her. You wanted to stop so badly you got pierced and she wanted this so badly that she "encouraged" you to get pierced for chastity. Your feelings of need for her now that you don't masturbate are *the entire point* of being locked in chastity. Congratulate yourself and thank her.