How's it feel if you always get ruined?

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    I'm curious if you enjoy the ruins more and look forward to them or end up even more frustrated lol
     
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    Ruins sound fun but then the next three days are hell. Cranks up the need for a real orgasm to 11.
     
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    She mostly gives me ruined orgasms with Her wand while I am caged. They do feel good but nothing like a full orgasm. I’ve learned to like them more as it is better than nothing.
     
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    She likes me caged and it's contents largely neglected. She's had me edge once or twice but wasn't her thing. So can't really say if I'm missing out or not, guessing not.
     
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    I went for months, getting all the ruined orgasms as I became extremely sensitive and ready to come at a moments notice. I also became so horny that when she spanked me with a spoon, I could come from that by itself. Getting only ruined orgasms turns your libido up to 11 and can mess with your mind.
     
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    That is my typical form of release. My wife knows it just makes me more horny and eager to please.
     
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    Definitely missing out on edging that's for sure. It pretty much GIVES you the O, just no ejaculation. Which is kinda the point!
     
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    Once, we spent over a year (fifteen months, but who's counting?) with no orgasm for me. However every few months my wife would ruin one so we could have PIV. It was definitely a love-hate feeling.
     
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    I never know if mine is going to be ruined, sometimes at the moment of ejaculation, she just squeezes my cock and presses on my pee hole with her thumb, till i start to go flaccid, when she releases i just get a dribble of cum, the rest heads its way back to where it came from. i kinda like the suspense !
     
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    I crave the ruin more than the full now. I usually get a ruin every three weeks, she’s pushing me to a month for this next one though. I’m waiting till our anniversary at the end of August for my next full, if I don’t break mentally before then, it’ll be 5.5 months between full orgasms. By far the longest I’ve gone.
    Shes given me different kinds of ruins, sometimes she gets me to pour quite a lot out and they feel really good, other times she gets me to dribble out a couple drops and that’s it. Those are really tough to deal with, increases the horniness and really zero relief, especially after a handful of body shaking edges, she’s become really adept at driving me insane with edging lately
     
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    My first long denial period lasted 94 days without any orgasm, ruined or full.

    Since that time my wife has discovered how to make me have a ruined orgasm and she has recently been making me have one every couple of weeks or so. She hasn't declared any kind of schedule, but that's what the recent frequency has become.

    I much prefer being denied but ruined than I did the long period with nothing. I have to swallow all of my ejaculate when she ruins me, and that plays into my submissive headspace.

    That said, I've also found that I also really feel submissive and owned when she's edging me and I'm anticipating that she'll give me a ruin, only to stop before we get to that point and put me back back into my cage and call a stop to the activity.

    I'm starting to think that I might actually find more submissive fulfilment from the occasions when she builds my anticipation for something that she ultimately denies me.

    After my last orgasm she informed me that I wouldn't know when I might have my next one. I was told to ask permission to cum whenever our activity was reaching the point of no return.

    If she said no, then I'd have to take action to prevent my orgasm, or if she was running things she would stop before I reached the crucial point.

    Every time she led me to that edge I didn't know if that might be the time she'd say yes and let me have a full release.

    I found it so frustrating that I asked her if she would define at least a minimum period of denial so that I could contain my frustration by knowing that I shouldn't even consider the possibility of being allowed to cum before we reached the end of that period.

    She took my request on board and told me it would be at least one hundred days before she would consider allowing me another full orgasm.

    I'm currently on day 74 of that period and knowing that she's not going to let me cum anytime she stimulates me has relieved that frustration, but I'm considering asking her to withdraw the defined minimum period once we get to day 100.

    I think her leaving me completely without any indication as to when she might let me cum again would push my frustrations to levels that really play on my submissive headspace.
     
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    Ruins and spontaneous orgasms drive me to desperation… I haven’t had a full orgasm in about 3 months and along the way I had at least several ruins, and one spontaneous orgasm that made me so desperate, I made myself cum in my cage to save my sanity.

    That was last month. Since then, I had another spontaneous orgasm 11 days ago to this day and I feel like I’m gonna burst again any minute without touching myself.
     
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    Since last July I’ve only been ruined and always while caged. My wife uses it as an occasional stamina reset and purposely does it in such a way that I don’t get any real pleasure from it. While I don’t enjoy the process I do get to enjoy having sex with her for a longer amount of time so that’s a plus
     
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    "How does it feel?" - Well, speaking for myself, I have to say that it feels just great. Having only been granted ruined orgasms for many months now, I have to confess to having totally forgotten how a "normal" orgasm with a full "cum-shot" feels. Now, I simply look forward to being granted a ruined orgasm and that moment when my cum will start to dribble out and I must stop all further touching. Marvelous!
     
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    I'm only allowed ruined in a cage..............
     
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    I hate ruined orgasm. I could say I prefer being locked and denied completely.
     
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    I need ruins. Without any attention I just find this lifestyle a little boring. It’s frustration, but not in a positive manner, and then it just doesn’t frustrate at all. You just get used to it and the cage is just a default that has no effect.

    I’d say a ruin is the most thorough method of teasing. It hits the spot in all the ways anything else would sexually, but you’re left positively frustrated…

    That’s said. It’s excruciatingly, positively frustrating! Sometimes I really struggle to cope! I feel I need that orgasm just for a breather.

    Also, I don’t consider caged orgasms to be ruined. They’re not that enjoyable, but it’s still a full orgasm in my book.
     
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    #19 PornAddict103, May 30, 2024
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    I agree with you entirely... Being the horny porn addict I am (hence my username), I tease myself every day with porn to keep this fun and frustrating, otherwise I'd get bored and unlock myself and revert back to my years-long jerking habit.

    If I'm not careful when I unlock myself for weekly hygiene then I'm liable to accidentally give myself a ruin. If I go long enough without any kind of orgasm and I'm aroused enough, then I'll cum spontaneously and it has the same effect. Every time it happens, it multiplies the urge for a "real" orgasm until I allow myself one, be it in my cage or out of my cage (which I haven't in about 3 months).

    I recently made myself cum in my cage to test a new toy (it didn't work as I hoped) and I'm experiencing The Drop. Ruins and spontaneous orgasms only give me a day of reprieve from the constantly horniness and frustration. I may get desperate again soon, but I think I prefer it over feeling down and miserable for an entire week.
     
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    Mistress give me ruined o’s while I am in the shower. The shower head has a pulsating setting and she will spray it at the head while I am soaping up. When I get to the extreme point she takes it away and I will get drained and am still hornier the hell. I am pretty much kept at a horny state, cuz she knows it benefits her more and I am pleased by keeping Mistress pleased.
     
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    Based on the responses, ruins are a real love/hate thing lol
     
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    OK, I have no idea how that works, but I have to admit to being at least a little jealous :D
     
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    So does She do the "one and done" ruin? Or will She go for the two or three ruins in a row??
     
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    It varies. The app we use actually tells her how many to give me… but I’m starting to question whether she follows that decision (or any of its decisions to be fair).

    A couple of weeks ago she gave me a stop/start handjob until I ‘exploded’! More of a dribbly fizzle. Then she continued 3 more times until there was nothing left to give.

    Last week she teased me without touching my penis until the last minute. She then used her magic wand to bring me over the edge in just a few seconds. That way is the worst, the vibrator is just too functional and I was left desperate for a very long week! Absolutely no satisfaction.

    Last night she put a condom on me but decided that she wanted to stretch me out a bit (sorry if anal isn’t your thing). It’s been a long time since she did this. Probably years ago that she took it seriously.
    She had 3 or 4 fingers inside me flicking against my prostate. As I was about to explode (like really explode from the feelings), she stroked my penis once. Just once. And ruined the whole experience. She actually laughed a little as she said ‘that’s you done for another week.’
    That was more satisfying than last week as my legs were shaking for a good 20 minutes after, but not enough that I don’t feel incredibly aroused already this morning!
     
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    Ok what's the app?? She and i HAVE to know!

    OH WOW! This sounds EXQUISITE!!


    We are good with it, pegging is a thing for us. How bout you two??
    Love it when my Wife laughs a little as She is a bit too! She enjoys is as well, especially when She is being a bit twisted like yours was here!

    Fantasy reply! Thank you!
     
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