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How Would You Show Your Submission To A Mistress?

Discussion in 'The Pedestal' started by Mistress Jules, Aug 4, 2017.

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    Those of you who have gotten to know @lockit@lockit over his years on here will probably have realised he is what is typically described as an alpha male.

    In our day to day life he is also an alpha male, he looks after things, keeps me safe and is a complete gentleman. He does not suffer fools gladly and will stand against any injustice affecting those in his life whilst all the time ensuring those he cares for are protected.

    All these traits make him an ideal partner in daily life, they also make him the most perfect chastity slave when he is under my control. It is the biggest turn on to have my alpha male submit to my wishes without question. To be in charge of his orgasms and have him suffer by my hand for my pleasure is made even more enjoyable as I know this is not his natural state.

    I find it thrilling to twist the key I wear round my neck as we are in the middle of a totally vanilla conversation with others. I can see him looking and very often fidgeting when I do this and it makes me smile to watch him. As the years have gone by he knows what I require in most situations and ensures that my life runs as smoothly as possible.

    For many looking at us as a couple there are no indicators that our relationship is anything other than the typical vanilla couple. For me however, his complete devotion to my wellbeing and happiness makes it anything but typical.

    There are so many variations on what makes someone a submissive that I thought I would share our story and ask the question. How would you show your submission to a Mistress?
     
  2. I love this. I feel very much the same. Although I fear I am often not the best at submitting completely, I do try.

    I never really considered myself an "alpha" male, though in the real world there isn't quite as much talk of such things.

    Being difficult to control is part of what makes this fun and rewarding for @Thatgirl@Thatgirl, I think. And I also think that my more bull-headed states of being are what remind her to stay on top of things as a KH. Whereas if I were to submit easily and readily I think she would be considerably more hands-off, and the more hands-on she is, the more fun she says she has.

    Alpha male or not, being submissive doesn't come naturally to me. Be it nature or nurture, I feel the need to be a protector. Before I close my eyes for the night, every single night, the same few thoughts run through my head - did I lock the door? If someone breaks in what exactly will I tell @Thatgirl@Thatgirl to do, and what exactly will I do to make sure she's safe? Tomorrow, what if anything do I need to do because it's something / someplace I don't want her going?

    It's not easy feeling that way all the time and then all of a sudden be expected to be "submissive". But I do wish I were better at it. Those relatively rare times where I genuinely feel submissive, it feels really good. To have all those decisions - to have ALL decisions removed from my mind, to know I don't have any control and therefore don't need to worry about anything because I am not in a position to DO anything, is quite liberating, and I do wish I could more easily enter that headspace, for us both.
     
  3. Nice --well said. May you continue receiving the strength, guidance and wisdom of you wonderful wife/KH to get you there. She is the way.
     
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  4. I guess that is part of my problem .
    I'm in no way an "alpha male" ,
    I avoid confrontation and arguments wherever I can and love helping people wherever I can .

    I'm no "challenge" to a Mistress and have been told on more than one occasion I'm "too submissive"
     
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    I don't see that as a problem at all. My chaste male in Glasgow was totally submissive, he could barely look me in the eye at first. He was a really great guy and we found that giving him ongoing tasks was the best way forward for both of us. He could take his time and concentrate on completing them and I enjoyed the benefits of his efforts.

    Eg, he brought me bath bombs from Lush, I love bath bombs so that was great for me, he had kept details of what he had bought previously so that I always got something different. That gave him a project which was ongoing whilst I just enjoyed bath bombs. It became that his job was to make sure my day went smoothly, from bringing breakfast and newspapers to booking events and escorting me to my car at the end of a day. He didn't need to be a challenge, his niche was to make my life easier as much as possible.

    I am sure when you find the right Mistress she will find your niche.
     
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  6. Thank you .
    That wasn't meant as a "woe is me why and I still single" post it is more of a this me knowing that a lot of ladies prefer a challenge reply to your post ,if that makes any sense ,
     
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  7. Perhaps. But it may not be alpha-male-type 'challenges' per se we seek, but rather engagement, proactive response, and most of all respect, romance and adoration. I suspect many other Ladies might agree about this.
     
  8. Totally agree and, i'm trying not to de rail this thread here , I give and have given all the other things you mention with engagement,proactive response,respect,romance and adoration and I fully understand all of that anyway because ladies are not Domme bots they are real people and if a relationship is to work regardless of any kink they deserve all the other things you mention.
     
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  9. You seem to be a good boy, @manintyres@manintyres. Assuming you translate your words into action at all times, I'm sure your Mistress should be pleased with you like I am with mine when I'm shown the love, service and respect I need and deserve. Keep it up.
     
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  10. Just be romantic, spontaneous, fun. Thats all this is about right, fun? If not, then there is no reason to do it.

    I am very much an alpha male outside the bedroom, but she knows my submission runs deep when we are together. My cage with a PA piercing, harness, locking head gag and my willful bending over to take a strap on show all that immensely but also just doing small things for her day to day; folding laundry, dishes ect.

    My chastity did not start as a fetish for denial. It is purely to be controlled by her in the most intense way. I have a major fetish for being restricted, bound, helpless to her teasing/ denial/ and pain play, and pleasing her as well as I can. Being in a cage was just our next step.
     
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  11. A long time ago I used to do stuff to show submission. Not so much anymore. Basically my wife just decided if I am locked during sex or not. She also decides if I orgasm or not. That is pretty much it. We just play teasing and denial. She does not like me to be submissive unlike her old girlfriend so I do not act submissive with her.
     
  12. Doing my clean up duty after i'm allowed to cum is the ultimate act of submission to my dominant wife.
     
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  13. Mistress Jules that is beautiful and Your description of Your relationship with Your locket and its dynamics greatly mirror that of Mistress Sonia and myself, however it being long distant.

    Thank You very much for the smile You have given me.
     
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