How to make him feel owned?

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Is it important for him to feel owned?

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    I have made mine feel owned since the first night his step-sister brought him to me for his education and training. I applied the means gradually. He wears panties at all times, which he loves by the way. He is collared and on a leash when we go out and sometimes around the house. Sometimes I put him in a waist chain and handcuffs that have a chain attached to his cock cage. I have given him weekly maintenance spankings since his first week with me. He is trained to report to the punishment room at precisely 8 PM on Friday nights. He must bring the instrument that I tell him I will use. If I decide to put him in restraints he must attach the leather ankle cuffs and wrist cuffs that I use to chain him to the bench. Before I start he must ask me to be punished for being naughty then he must count out each stroke by Saying for example "one, another please mistress." The spankings and the panties and other feminine garments do the trick the best.
     
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    My wife has made me feel more owned lately by allowing me no unsupervised time out of the cage.
     
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    My wife told me that I cannot touch myself and not watch porn, and direct my sexual energy to her. If she owns my pleasure, that means to me that she owns me.
     
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    Wow, that is one lucky slave. Hope to hear more.
     
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    I'm never allowed out unsupervised (except when I'm on a long bike ride). My masturbation when I was unlocked and unsupervised is what got me here in the first place.
     
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    I’m never allowed out if she is not around. I’m never allowed to touch it unless she allows, which is hardly ever. I have not come on my own since January of this year. Masturbation is terrible for a relationship. That’s why I’m locked. I am not allowed to refer to it as mine. She owns it. It’s hers. It’s her dick.
     
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    I am allowed to masturbate when I am with her and no one else is around,,,I just can't cum.
     
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    Brand him as in an iron mark? How did you do that
     
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    One reasonable way might be to incorporate multiple small gestures of your control over him. Just a few ideas that Mistress Jenna incorporated in my training:

    - Assign him a new slave name and require that he addresses you with a designated dominance title/honorific that you like.
    - If he forgets to properly address you, or is otherwise rude or disrespectful; police his speech and discipline as needed. Give writing assignments as punishment and/or have him gagged for a while. Make it known that those his freedom to speak can be revoked at any time.
    - Require him to keep a journal/diary of his training and have him share it with you.
    - Physically control his body. Chastity is a great start ;D although there are many other wonderful methods out there. Place him in bondage whenever you want (Rom-com movie marathon while he's bound and gagged so he can't whine about it? Giving him a time out? The possibilities are endless...)
    - Make him wear panties. Even better if you have him buy them in person at a place like Victoria's Secret.
    - Butt plugs are a wonderful addition to a submissive's wardrobe! Make him wear one whenever, wherever, and for however long you fancy. For me, accepting a butt plug became a gesture of surrendering complete control to my Mistress. After all, when I've allowed someone to access a very intimate part of the body, let alone Her inserting something there, and then being required to keep it there until told otherwise, is arguably a very submissive gesture. When someone else owns your ass, what's left that you really have control of anyway?
    - If/when you feel that it's the right time, get him a collar. Make it known beforehand that if he wants to be collared, he'll have to earn it. "Consideration/Training" collars can be used as intermediate steps en route to the formal slave/ownership collar.
    - Establish codewords or gestures that can be used anywhere to trigger or convey an aspect of the relationship and discretely bring out the D/s dynamic anywhere.
    - Write up a contract or some form of agreement formally outlining each other's roles together. Let it be a living document and tweak it as needed over time.
    - Assign him any and all errands and chores. Make him repeat tasks if and when your expectations have not been met.

    Honestly, the possibilities are endless. Try whatever sounds good to you and enjoy the process!
     
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    Certainly being locked long term and providing extensive pussy worship on demand is a major factor. But like others have said, small but subtle gestures are very important. Examples:

    We were recently at an event where someone, looking at me, asked us to introduce ourselves. I looked at her and she said "he is my husband".

    When my wife was buying some new clothes she turned to the shop assistant and said "is it ok to take him into the changing cubicle with me?" The assistant smiled at me, while saying "yes no problem."

    Waiting in line, when asked "who is next?" I indicated my wife, to which the response from the questioner was "ok, so madam is numero uno". Big grin on my wife's face.

    She recently complimented me on my choice of new panties for myself. "Oh, lovely pastel shades, well done."

    I love these little things that make me feel owned and loved.
     
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