Hey everyone. I have a serious question. I, like most here, am a naturally submissive male. I most definitely always love, listen and obey my wonderful Wife. Total denial or ruined orgasms are not always possible, as She does indeed enjoy satisfying me completely from time to time. On these occasions of a complete orgasm, there is that hormonal drop that takes place. Let's be clear, I do not stop serving. I always love and obey. However, for the first two days, the feeling is a little off and there isn't a complete joy. I suppose this is my version of sub-drop. I don't feel the abject shame or depressed or anything, but it does feel like there's just a little something missing. Does anyone have any shortcuts back into that feeling of total submission? I push through because I know the rush will return within 48 hours (give or take) and sustain itself until the next release. I just wonder if anyone has figured out a quicker way to get there.
My Wife allows me quite a few orgasms compared to many here, but when the next lockup arrives, we’ve started having her spank me pretty good. Not long or brutal, but enough to get me back into sub mode. And she usually makes me go 5-7 days of no unlocks for teasing or even just to get an erection. But I don’t think 2 days is really bad to get back into the submissive headspace really, I think most guys here say it takes them up to a week.
Hm. We haven't used spanking much before. She's turned out to be a very gentle ruler. Which works for us, but maybe one hard spanking session 24 hours later might work. Will have to give it a try. I know 2 days is pretty short relatively to get back there, but anything I can do to shorten that is going to be welcomed.
In those initial days, (it can last a couple of weeks), your 'happy hormones' are settling down to a new balance, until that happens, you will feel a little out of sync. There's not really a lot you can do about it really, except you could not get unlocked so often, so then not having to go through that settling down period so often!
Same. If she wants to speed the process up, she can be assertive. The more assertive she is (including physical punishment, verbal stimulation, commands, whatever), the faster you are likely to be back.
Usually, some activity that promotes submissiveness helps prevent the “drop” that many of us go through. It seems the longer the lockup, the harder the drop. It helps if the activity occurs soon after release.
straight after my release I have to put on my cage and then clean my cum from where ever she allowed me to cum on. that helps me to get back in my place.
This is pretty much your best bet. Lock up while still in the afterglow and the will help enforce the "cage=normal" mindset. You could also get a milking machine and by orgasm 4 or 5 you'd be grateful to be locked up again.