How to address Dominant Wife?

Mam is not a age thing, just go down south and women and girls of all ages will be addressed as Mam, its a respect thing. Yes Boss will always work. or yes Honey. They will get the idea.

 

Goddess, Princess, Duchess, Boss, She who must be obeyed, Queen. You want something safe AND descriptive of your dynamic. You can't have both, either safe or descriptive.

 

I think 'Goddess' works as a respectful title in public or in private.

Actually, nobody does a double take or bats an eyelid when I refer to my lady as Goddess in public situations. There are enough enlightened people about nowadays who are delighted to witness a male demonstrating worship and adoration towards his lady. It doesn't make anyone feel uncomfortable. Sometimes they even start trying it themselves. We've come a long way, hopefully, from the many derogatory terms I used to hear as a child and as a younger man. No need to repeat them.

Also, if you are living in a FLR, you will both want to ensure that respect, attentiveness and obedience doesn't get put on hold just because there's a bunch of other people around who may or may not be simpatico. There are useful commonsense ways of dealing with these little hurdles that will not make others - straights - feel awkward and embarrassed whilst at the same time maintaining the smooth flow of your FLR. Goddess does it for us.

 

Well, I was raised to always show respect to Females, always. Where I come form, and live, we say Yes Ma'am, hold doors open, and step aside if there is no room for two and let her pass.
Where Dad would sometimes take a belt to the rest of our asses, he never, ever laid a hand on my little sister. I can't even remember him raising his voice to her.
I was also in the Army for a good part of my life where Ma'am, Yes Ma'am and pardon me Ma'am were almost daily utterance's.
When I was being spanked/caned to hard and I blurted out "Honey" (my usual reference to my wife) she would always "Don't honey me". Ma'am was and is the proper term, and I sometimes use that around family and friends.

 

I just use the term "Mrs Chaste". I always use this form in private and public! I'm not a sissy and we don't do the humiliation stuff either. In real life I am fairly confident, I am expected to take leading and delegating roles at work and have no problem with this. At home as I say Mrs Chaste doesn't rule me with a rod of iron, she is mildly dominant (except in the bedroom!!!!). I am the head of the household although it is more a partnership than anything really. Friends and colleagues know I have my own views and I don't suffer fools, my evening meal is always ready when I get home and my lunch box is ready for me in the morning. So when I refer to my wife as "Mrs Chaste" and say "I know my place!" They all have a little chuckle! What they don't know of course is that my penis has been safely locked in a chastity cage for just over 5 years (virtually 24/7), and that I have not had an orgasm at all in 2018! So I really do "know my place" and Mrs Chaste is definitely in charge where it matters most!

 

My husband introduces me as "My Lady Wife."

 

Ever since we started this, we had a set of commandments, she wrote them, and i was to refer to her as mistress in private and her name in public.

You would be surprised on how little you actually call your spouse anything. In casual conversation you just don’t do it, they know who you are talking to and saying a title or name is pretty redundant. We gave it a go, it just doesn’t come up often. I still refer to her as mistress in texts and when writing blogs etc, but the rest isn’t practical in conversation.

 

My chaste one is called Cowboob at all times (It's based on an aspect of himself, rather than his name) and he calls me either by my aspect (KitKat) or when he's feeling feisty or I'm being firm/stern/controlling/in charge/demanding he calls me Boss Queen. xD I live in southwest Oklahoma so bible belt, so far no one has caught on.

 

Both Ma'am and Ms don't have strong age connotations to me, but her opinion is what matters.

The problem to me with other titles is they either tell a little too much about your relationship (e.g. Mistress, Goddess) or others might think you're being sarcastic. (e.g. Boss)

 

I had a little chuckle at this one. I call Kitt "Boss Queen" because of the way she reacted to when I sarcastically said stuff like "you got it, boss," when we were just friends. Boss is definitely a very sarcastic word in modern conversation.

 

When locked: My lady
When honor system: My Love
Both in public and at home.

 

Miss had always worked for me. I don't think you can be too old for Miss.

 

My Mistress Wife, uses her Maiden name with "Ms" when at work. at home when we are in Dom Sub mode then I will use the term "Ma'am" when chatting with her or responding to her.

on our blog and in emails she is known as "Madam Alice", on occasion I may use this term or "Mistress" if I want to start a conversation or pass information - "Excuse me Madam Alice, your dinner is ready".

when her boyfriend is with us then he is always referred to as "Sir".

 

The Boss

 

I asked my wife if she likes that I call her the Boss. She said yes, so I started to use it in public, and she gets giggles out of it and likes it ;-)

 

I was brought up to respect women and I use ma’am numerous times throughout the day in everyday life with all interactions with women, as well as my wife and it has nothing to do with age. I even use it with my teen daughter and her friends but in a lighter sense. Lady A has been getting used a bit along with boss to address my wife in public and in private

 

MA’AM

 

My Wife likes when we’re in public if I refer to her as Ma’am. At home or when we’re texting it’s Mistress. When we’re with other friends that are aware of our arrangement a lot of time it’s Miss Shelly.

The name you use isn’t what’s important. What is is that you show her the honour and respect that should come from her being in control and holding your key.

Sweetie and Honey have always worked good to. I would say that Bitch shouldn’t be one of your choices unless you like getting slapped.

 

One term I don't think I would use is boss! The reason being is that my manager is a woman, and we use the term boss when referring to her! She isn't a "bossy" boss and we use it as term of endearment! But nevertheless she is in charge and we all have a lot of respect for her.

 

For me personally in general Miss, Ma'am.

For my subs: Milady, Madame, Queen, Lady Blaze.

In public: My dear/love/precious, Ma'am, Ms Blaze.

Those are the ones I can remember of the top of my head.

 

My wife isn't big on calling her any specific names like Mistress or anything like that. I will call her ma'am and she doesn't say anything about that. Other than that she is baby or babe.

 

I love the title Empress! In text/email/written notes, he calls me Domina, m'lady, mistress. In public and out loud, it's usually princess or kleintjie (which is Afrikaans for "little one"). When we are alone, he does use Domina, but I don't want him using it in front of the kids. I like the idea of being referred to as Empress or Domina at all times, in public and private, but it just isn't feasible with young kids. Perhaps when we are empty-nesters.

I'd say Mistress has a very definitive connotation. If I heard a man call his wife Mistress in public, I'd assume she was his Domme. Less obvious terms may not suggest she's "the boss" though. As someone said earlier, not sure you can have it both ways. But for us, it doesn't really matter what others think. We know what's what ;-)

 

Why not just use Mistress. Or yes my owner

 

We use a mix of a few, madam, my queen, my owner, or goddess ect, private or public it doesn’t matter as we are 24/7 FLR domme sub. And madam never uses my name any more, it’s always subbie, slave, pay pig, cuck, pup, or her pet name for me, cubbie.