Hi, I'm wondering how many days after being allowed to orgasm does it take to get back to the stage where your submissive and ready to serve your mistress again? Some might call it chastity nirvarna. I dont mean ruined orgasm or milking but the full monty.
Well my sub got an orgasm saturday an his still not back. I will say a week or so before i feel his right where i want him. But then again it depens on what i do to him or not I love to give him the "full monty", but it takes alot of work to get him back on track. The constants dilemma of beeing a miss do i want all that work just for one orgasm
Best thing is to work towards no orgasm or once a year. Less stress for you this way, more servitude from him this way.
Thats to extreame, i only see chastity as a spice not a way of life. Some times we play some times we don't. But whats in it for you then? What do you look forward to?
..I am constantly horny.. My libido is always simmering but never boils over. My wife has a regular boyfriend which helps keep me in place. I look forward to staying in this zone Its perfect state of mind for me. Total servant, maybe because I am older I can enjoy it souch more. I don't know for sure but I love it as n Edd she loves it more.
Thanks for the comments so far. I'm without orgasm for 37 days now, the longest I've ever done but I think I will get one when I return home on 12th Oct. I think it will be completly 'vanilla' as my wife has said she doesn't want me to come home wearing a CD.
After orgasm, all my submission just vanish. I usually care about all the things that I didnt care so much in chastity. I make contact with a lot of friends, care for my hobbies, watch movies and so on. I just enjoy the relaxed life without blue balls But sadly, I dont contact my mistress or any woman that kept me chaste anymore for a while, or just with short messages. I loose my focus on her somehow. I still got a chastity fetish, because femdom and chastity is just my sexual fetish. But I'm far away from willing to make it real, its just a fantasy then. I like to cum while reading or watching chastity content. And it can take a looong time untill I'm in my chastity-wanting stage again. Usually it get triggered again when I am chaste for 2-3 days. This sometimes happens when I'm in holidays, or when I'm on a festival, or when I'm on a birthdayparty all weekend or something similar. Just 2-3 days without cum, and my chastity-fantasy change into an urge to make it real. and just one orgasm, and its all gone again. Its like a rollercoster
Mine would be around the week mark after about 3 days i am just getting my head "the one on my shoulders" back into the mindset of asking before i do things and asking permission before arranging things etc. After a week my head is totally back in the submissive state and the belt is almost non existent in my mind but just an item of clothing that my wife has left out for me to wear. It actually gets to the point sometimes as others have said before when you almost wish you didnt orgasm as the prospect od starting the long uphill climb again is quite daunting.
Dear Mr.dereknor, if you don't likes roller coasters and keeps having to start again then please wudnt it be lots better if you didn't makes a mess and keeps your cage on.
I don't get this experience. Chastity is not the driver for my submission rather the other way around. Of course immediately post orgasm I am pretty wiped out like most guys but give me a few minutes and things are back to normal.
It takes him a few days to get back to normal afterwards. I do find it helps if he's locked up right away after orgasm. Plenty of teasing over those few post orgasm days helps bring him to heel.
Have to say that buzbuz is quite different from all the other men I have kept in chastity and it's a refreshing change
Hello, After 94 days, my Maitresse granted me 1 orgasm, and then locked me back up. I was immediately submissive since i still had my cuffs and collar on and was kneeling in thanks at her feet. So while i got a wonderful release (venus pumped, bound, electrics, plugged, gagged, blinded, deaf), i was in deep sub-mode the entire time and really never emerged.
I guess it depends on what you call "chastity nirvana". I don't think I fully adhere on those theories about feeling more submissive when denied, I think it depends a lot on circunstances, kind of relationship, and mostly on the love/belove feeling in it. I wouldn't call either nirvana when you start to really be willing cum, which occures (at least for me), during the first three days, then after around 10 days, and so on. Now, if you're speaking about feeling like a bomb of hormones, to be in a confused feeling of extasy and despair while simply touching the tube around your cock, craving an orgasm but meanwhile be so happy, in pure bliss to be denied, then, I think it arises way after your poll propositions. This feeling, I only had once, so I cannot really suggest it as a general law even for myself. But it was after 20 days of permanent lockup. I really doubt you can reach nirvana before that. But well, was just my two cents ^^
I think it all depends on how much attenetion I get after orgasm. Being locked righr back up starts the transfer of power right away for me. If I'm totally ignored for days after orgasm, then it takes quite a while. But I am totally in love with my wife and that's apart from chastity. If we keep moving for ward right after orgasm then I'm back in the proper frame of mind a few hours afterwards. I think it totally depends on the person the relationship age and libido. Great topic!!!
I think it's very difficult to put a figure on. To be fair, my last orgasm was quite a while ago and the one before that was a year with a few ruined ones in between. I tend to find that I get a bit more frustrated every 12 days or so. This then dissipates for another 12 days. I would therefore say that, my nirvana is 12 days! I would just like to add that after going without for a long time, I feel a bit let down when I have a full orgasm and can't wait to go back into harness.