How long is enough long

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    How long is enough long to get the fruits of chastity. Though fmfor few it's days and few it's weeks months.
    What are the changes behavioural or physical to understand it's really working.
     
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    to be honest the only people who can answer that are you and your SO if you have one. It's different for everyone.

    Have you perceived any change in your behaviour? Not your thoughts, but your behaviour. Do you see any difference?
     
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    It’s when you discover the full impact of being confined and miss what you understand to be so basic.

    I can stand on my head and do a month of chastity like it was a day. Other than trying to urinate do I really have to change a thing. It becomes part of you and while a significant thing on your body, you block it out when busy at work or home.

    then the first time your wife wants to play around and you start to kiss, you feel the bars against your cock. Your blood is boiling and you continue to please her and you find your lips between her legs and she is moaning and stiffens up as the orgasms rack her body. Then it is your turn and she does not let you out. Only then you understand your position and it builds each time you repeat this cycle.

    The several hours afterward you need to resign your fate and place. You may be equals in the life you have together, but she owns you, at the minimum your cock. You are under her control and what you get or when you get it is her decision and not yours. Even if your not in the fame of mind for release, you do it well because your not sure when the next time will come around.

    We agree on lock durations and release times, but the day and time of the release she offers you a proposal. Do you take it or not, either way it was her idea and you now have to decide what will please her.

    then one day you realize when the device is off, you can’t wait to get it back on. You like the control she has over you, you may be a dominant to the outside world, but you are owned at home.
     
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    I agree that only you and your SO can decide on that. Behavioral changes do take time, as you are switching the way you've been all your life. Good luck.
     
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    For me, it's about 3 days, I am in the zone and stay that was until released.
     
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    Certainly for me it is very quick - and that's one of the things I love about it.

    My KH and I have been married for 40 years, so there is very little we don't know about each other. We're still very much in love and I have written before that I feel she 'indulges' my chastity fetish, although there is much she enjoys.
    When I put my cage on, especially when instructed. The change is immediate (and I've only just thought about this, I wonder if it almost conditioned in ?). I become much more submissive, much more tolerant of her behaviour and much more attentive and focused on pleasing her.
    Obviously I know that so long as the cage is on PIV sex is out of the question as if any form of orgasm for me.
    So I love pleasing her. I've always really enjoyed giving oral sex and really do believe that I get pleasure by giving it to her. I can take as long as she wants and, hopefully, give her exactly what she wants, without any sort of 'performance anxiety' or expectation of reward.
    The longer I'm in chastity the hornier and more frustrated I get: so my submission deepens and and the more I want to please her . . . and not just sexually.
    Ironically, even after all these years my KH still has problems coping with the feelings of guilt about getting off when I'm not. Even though she knows it is exactly what I want.
    Although I don't suffer from 'sub-drop' as such I am that after releases (in both senses of the word) I can be a little sarkier than normal.
     
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    Completing the loctober, 2 unlocks for cleaning, one wet dream, one night playing together like sisters on bed...and the month is coming to end.

    Physically the cage made it place quietly except the night time erections. Going out working driving and all as usual.

    Still my question remains same..how long is long for the fruits
     
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    I would think that, after a month, your partner would notice a positive difference in you ("the fruits"). No?

    We see a difference almost immediately and have yet to find a point (months) where the gains stop improving at least somewhat.
     
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    There's a link in the Library section of the forum about the science of male chastity that explains how not having orgasms affects your hormones, particularly the "love hormone" oxytocin.

    So it will be different for everyone, depending on your body, your hormone production and response to those hormones. Many have said that short term effects of denial are noticeable between 1-7 days.

    Longer term effects will, in my opinion, depend on your relationship and how you each respond to the hormone-based changes.

    https://web.archive.org/web/20150327054642/http://www.reuniting.info/node/4865
     
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    i think that everone is difrent but i think that you has to be lock up for a long time cos just doing it for a day or some days wont make no difrence . some men go funny even after a hour. giggle :) cos they told me that they make a mess a lot of times a day.:rolleyes:
     
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    This is subjective.
     
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    I think it has really set in when you are playing with your partner and you really want a release but dare not get you hopes up or have any expectation of release.
     
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