How long have you been married or together?

Married for over 30 years! Trying chastity, as I felt I was spending too much energy watching porn, neglecting my wife.

 

I was doing the same thing. Porn on the computer, a work and at home . Was caught on the computer at work and Witten up. Was caught by my wife at home on the computer and jerking off. Then the first chastity device was introduced by my wife , which stopped the porn and jerkingboff. Well the first cb3000 was not comfortable and was noticeable. Then we went to the curve. Less noticeable but still uncomfortable. Then the cb6000s that did the trick.

 

3 years in a few days!!! (Young 30’s here)

 

Known 23 years, together 21, at first on and off, married 17, kinky games for about 18 years, getting kinkier through time, and now chastity fir almost 4 years

 

Just over 5 years and in a couple of months time she’ll become not just my Queen but my wife too…

 

Married for 30 years. My wife does not participate at all sexually. I do this to amuse myself and to enrich my fantasy life. We used to be pretty adventurous and I brought up chastity many years ago. She acted like I was asking to wear a live monkey on my head ha ha...so I dropped that idea. I recently decided to try chastity again just for fun. I'm also experimenting with plugging. I'll say one thing...it makes short shopping trips MUCH more interesting.

 

We've been happily married for 26 years and have raised 2 kids, and just started chastity in December 2021. Our sex lives had dried up, so I was wanking and watching porn and this seemed like a good alternative, and I was SO right. Now we're closer than ever and our sex life has come back to life. We're not doing the D/s or FLR thing, we're just a vanilla couple having some fun. There's more in my journal if you're interested.

 

Well, that's the first time that I've heard of the wearing-a-live-monkey-on-the-head fetish, but if it works for you, why did you drop it?

In all seriousness, I hope you find some of the joy with your wife this time around ... it's tough to not have your wife on board sexually.

 

Dude, have you never been to monkeyontopofmyhead.com ???

 

We for dated 6 weeks and have been happily married for 34 years. I introduced her to chastity about a ago and it has been a learning curve but lately she has requested that I loose weight and has been using the chastity device for the past 4 months and orgasm denial to achieve our goal.
So far I hav lost 23 and have 30 or so to go.

Also she is admitting she likes to spank me while I am " chained to the excersise rack

 

I am in a similar situation- have been together for 15 years and struggled bug time and always on the verge of separating. No intercourse for a long time. Last month when she brought separation after a lengthy argument I decided to stop masturbating and after 2 weeks I bought a cage. Since she saw the change in behaviour after I stopped masturbating (I used to masturbate daily) she appreciated change in behaviour and agreed to be my key holder. Have been in chastity for nearly 3 weeks (and have not cum for nearly a month) but I became so attentive, caring and romantic towards her and contributing to the cleaning too. She likes it although she is plain but naturally leading the relationship. Early days but the cage made a massive change on myself (mind blowing) and our relationship. Still changing devices to find the right one… but i would not like to go back!

 

I am in a similar situation- have been together for 15 years and struggled bug time and always on the verge of separating. No intercourse for a long time. Last month when she brought separation after a lengthy argument I decided to stop masturbating and after 2 weeks I bought a cage. Since she saw the change in behaviour after I stopped masturbating (I used to masturbate daily) she appreciated change in behaviour and agreed to be my key holder. Have been in chastity for nearly 3 weeks (and have not cum for nearly a month) but I became so attentive, caring and romantic towards her and contributing to the cleaning too. She likes it although she is plain but naturally leading the relationship. Early days but the cage made a massive change on myself (mind blowing) and our relationship. Still changing devices to find the right one… but i would not like to go back!

 

I am in a similar situation- have been together for 15 years and struggled bug time and always on the verge of separating. No intercourse for a long time. Last month when she brought separation after a lengthy argument I decided to stop masturbating and after 2 weeks I bought a cage. Since she saw the change in behaviour after I stopped masturbating (I used to masturbate daily) she appreciated change in behaviour and agreed to be my key holder. Have been in chastity for nearly 3 weeks (and have not cum for nearly a month) but I became so attentive, caring and romantic towards her and contributing to the cleaning too. She likes it although she is plain but naturally leading the relationship. Early days but the cage made a massive change on myself (mind blowing) and our relationship. Still changing devices to find the right one… but i would not like to go back!

 

Married 15 years, into Chastity 10... and locked 24/7 the last 2 years.... except to fly and medical exams.

 

Almost 20 years as a M/s M/f relationship, meet as M/s and still enjoying everything, started playing with chastity devices about 5 or 6 years ago and pretty much into them full time now

 

Pierced PA in 2012, 6ga stretched to 0ga in 2016 or so. Locked pretty consistently from 2013. Aiming at 24/7/365 since about 2015; though always falling a bit short of that for one reason or another, travel, illness, Keyholder's whim... I told her I was into chastity devices on that fateful night, about a week after we'd met, when we were essentially trying to talk one another out of going forward with the relationship. We figured we'd both been around the block and needed to be upfront about our kinks (in my case) and her hangups and bad experiences.

Worked out fine. She holds the key, pulls me out when she's in the mood, and I happily lock up when she's done, until next time. It will be 10 years in the summer.

 

I'd be interested to know what lead you to chastity, like how did you discover it and what gave you the clue that it might be the magic cure to your situation? I do wish you good luck and hope it does save your marriage.

 

thanks - I have always had fantasies about submission to women, cuckolding, humiliation and worshipping for over 15. Never practiced. Last December i broke the ice and I was enticed by an online dominatrix who start controlling my orgasm (online..never met) and made me beg for everything. Lasted 10 days without cumming and wanted to introduce me to Bdsm… she described the journey slave, chastity, sissyfication etc. Chatted for 3 weeks but was getting addicted so following the bug argument with my wife I asked myself why I could not submit to her etc. And from there since I had not cum for more then 10 days my behaviour was very caring and submissive. Started picturing she was my goodness and a week after I was very open about what I like and bought a cage etc. Without the online experience I would not have made that step. So now she holds the key, very new to it but likes my attention etc. Fingers crossed

 

Together 13 years married 6 years.
Kinkystuff (light bondage and pegging) 12years and chastity Almost 1 year...

 

34 years with all ups and downs that live throws at you, still going strong and healthy.

 

Wishing you the best of luck @Wifeownedsuboy, and of course I hope you post updates along the way, maybe start a journal.

 

We’ve been together 31 years, married 28 years Feb 13!! About 2 months ago, I suggested a chastity cage, hoping it would curb a compulsive masturbation habit. She agreed and things were working great- we decided on uncaging once a week for sex- unfortunately, I developed a sore under my testicals- I thought I just needed to toughen that area up so tried to soldier through it but it kept getting worse until I started bleeding. There’s a crescent scar now and wearing a cage for more than an hour causes severe pain.

ANYWAYS, I’m still hopeful I find a cage that works for me but since I’ve already bought 3, I’m a little scared of wasting more money.

 

Try hydocolliod bandag if wound has not scabbed over mine healed in 5 days with them on iwas stupid enough to use some numbing cream with a new cage my wife put on me never again

 

In a relationship since 16 years, my gf thinks i spend too much time by warching porn and masturbating and she wants all the cum for herself. She got curious about cages and how to control my cock in 2021.