It is always interesting to read how it started with others, but somehow you notice the subtle differences, there are overlaps but it is just special for everyone. For us it started with chastity and not with femdom or FLR, when we first encountered the topic in the swinger environment. At that time about a post where about teasing and denial was the speech and about how to ensure that he would not masturbate afterwards simply. That was in the early 2000s. We both knew the "game" already, it prepared us both but fun that she makes me hot and we " conserved " the state of horniness one or more days. At this time we buy the first chastity cage. At that time there was not so much choice and a plastic cage had to suffice. We have used the game again and again and now and then also played with it, that one had spent a weekend with swingers club visit and cage on or also sometimes a week with teasing and denying. That one would make this permanent or even that a FLR relationship would grow out of it, neither of us thought. We then slid through the years. With high and low and all what just belongs to it. At some point, my wife wanted to have another tattoo and I had considered getting a PA piercing, actually because of the jewelry. When she had her appointment for the consultation because of the tattoo, I was immediately pierced. Cages we had acquired in the meantime some, not because of the fetish, but because these were often times here and there not suitable. We had played in the meantime times more with it and now and then also used the orgasm denial in role play, so that you get "her will". That healed and with the accompanying sex refusal, I had to solve a lot with toys and tongue with her. Then, two years ago, we once participated in the Locktober, November. At the same time also a little bit of Denial December. Not consistent, with some openings during it and also orgasm for me. Then over Christmas we had signed up for a swingers party. Second Christmas Day and off to the party and put on the cage before. Thanks to the PA piercing, the cages were now "safe", that is, the pull out was no longer possible and there were couples there that we all already knew and knew each other. Most women were already looking forward to the fact that I would be there, but they knew that I could satisfy them with Tyos, fisting and tongue. The evening went well and we came home. Since we were both tired we went immediately to bed and the cage stayed on just overnight. We had vacation between the years, so we could take our time the next morning with the removal and cleaning. The night before I had dripped like a gravel truck. The next day I had then asked in the evening if we would finally take off the cage, he stinks and I wanted to finally fuck my wife. This ended with the fact that my wife heated me again and I thought there would be sex. But that ended up with me tied up in our bed and you took off the cage, came back with a bowl of water, cleaned the cage in the water of the bowl and washed my penis. After that the cage was put back on and instead a dildo gag came into my mouth and my wife rode the gag until you came. After that came the magic words: "Why unlock, I had my orgasm". That was over 2 years ago, since then she has kept me in a cage. No, we did not agree on any rules in advance and we did not discuss whether it would be right for "me". We are married, she just took control and every time we talk about it she just says: "When I say no and put pressure on you, you start to get horny and drip, so you like it". She is right about that. That it became a FLR and she also became a little bit sadistic mistress, has now developed over the two years. Slowly and step by step. We experiment and try out. If something seems interesting it will be tried. If I do not like it, but her, I have to go through. If we both like it, it will be included in our "arsenal of friendliness" anyway. So it can go, that it without long talk and discuss, simply make and try out whether he is ready to accept that she sets the tone. Of course, this is only possible if you have been together for a long time, which is the case for us with over 22 years, and it is a balancing act, as it is a very hard entry into the subject. But she knows me so well that she guessed that it would go well before I even did it.
My wife reminded me, after reading this, that I should mention that we still have sex and that I am unlocked from time to time to fuck her "normally". Only that I no longer cheat on her, neither with other women nor with Willy, as she always says when she talks about masturbating Still, it was intriguing for both of us to read it again and think about how it all came about, since I could only write it from my perspective. My wife told me that she had tried it after reading a fantasy story about a guy who was forcibly locked up by his ex-girlfriend and found it hot that the ex now had complete control over his cock. And yes it's true, in the beginning my wife used it solely to control only the sex drive. That you took control more and more, came only later.
My wife has developed a new idea Note, we have taken the pictures from our order history! Years ago we had bought cages that had anti-off rings. These are small attachments that have spikes at the bottom or top and from experience I already know that excitement in these cages can really become a martyrdom. Yesterday, while sorting, my wife noticed that I had an orgasm again. Well no orgasm, it went once again a load of sperm in the underpants, when I was sleeping. I had not masturbated, I want to clarify again. "Grumbles" My wife then put my laundry in the washing machine and searched the old cages. Which one she found I didn't like, but discussing it was pointless as always. https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41z8R-kW4zL._AC_SY355_.jpg At least I didn't have to put on a urethra insertion anymore, but of course it could be checked right away that the cage also harmonizes excellently with the PA piercing. A few minutes later the cage was put on, with the spike of course and a PA lock installed. Resistance was useless anyway because she had tied me up before and she didn't let herself be softened by my talk. Our TV can display Internet, so also the well-known sites like Pornhub, Youporn, etc. so I was now "allowed" to see porn. So there was now porn for me, really a lot of porn and to all annoyance also a list of the videos I have provided with a like and thus more or less stimulating to me. The effect was not long in coming. Hands tied behind his back with this very effective part, even if it looks primitive, and the view to the TV. https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61U8yeEt1VS._AC_SL1334_.jpg In any case, the penis in the cage swelled as much as it could and the pain was sharp. At some point, the pulsing begins and the pain becomes more intense the longer the thorns bore into the flesh. But my wife had no desire to show mercy to me today, instead, the cage was moved in addition, which caused more waves of pain and forced me to bend over, which was immediately acknowledged with a firm slap on the butt. So it went, and because of the history list from the TV I know now, it was very exactly 2 hours and 31 minutes in which I really begged that she should stop. Now I'm sitting here, she said write it down so that the wimps hear how it can happen when a woman really wants you to get stiff when she says so and stay limp when she wants it. And cum without asking beforehand, whether wanted or not wanted is already once not justifiable. Yes the cage is still put on and while writing it stirs again and I feel the spikes cutting into the flesh again, but everything is written down and I hope that I get this part taken off today! Devilish device damn it!