How does your mistress decide period of lockup

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    How long I am locked for is always ultimately mistress decision and discretion.

    Mistress and I have talked about using a wheel of misfortune to decide a minimum lock up time, and we have played with emlalock, dice games and such but this morning I was thinking of something quite devious to suggest to mistress.

    Sometimes mistress uses the reverse milking method to milk her cock (thats when she sits behind me and pulls her cock back between my legs and strokes it)

    I am usually face down bum up, and it would be after at least a week of lock up so I am really horny

    Mistress could place a timer in front of my face and start it once I am hard, or once mistress has decides I am super wound up.

    I am given permission to cum if I can

    For each minute she strokes her cock equals one week locked with no chance of release, 30 sec is 3.5 days. I can ask her to stop at any time and the cage is to go straight on for the amount in weeks for the minutes Mistress has stroked her cock without being allowed to cum, or I can wait till mistress makes her cock squirt then that time is converted to weeks.

    Things would get real interesting in about 2 minutes and the length of lock up is literally in the palm of her hand.

    There could be variations like if I do cum then its the time Plus a penalty for cumming or something random that mistress has written on a piece of paper that either subtracts or adds to the time if I do.... I only find out after I have begged her to stop or not.

    Curious if anyone else plays games like this and of so what they are.
     
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    My wife despises "being in charge" of how long the lock ups are. Let me be clear; she also hate the idea of "until she wants". Se says it puts too much pressure on her.

    She was thrilled when we found sites like emlalock, chastikey, and now chaster.app. Sometimes she will create a lock with a wide ranging but random minimum and maximum so we won't know how long it will be until the key is locked up; but lately she has been asking people online to create locks for her; always making clear that *she* (my wife) is my keyholder, and at the end of the day she is the one in authority, but that they will be the lock decider. Last year, she had someone make a chastikey lock with a hidden timer, asked them to not even tell her how long it ran (she would not tell me if she set any maximums or whatnot); not even a clue (it ran 48 days). She loves it, says it means there is no reason for me to ask for an early release; she can't give it to me even if she wanted to.

    So ya, she decides by letting other people decide for her.
     
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    Release is always an interesting topic but quite simply release should be just about requirement.

    When your cock is required to satisfy your wife or partner then the cage comes off. Once used it goes back on.

    It may briefly come off to shave or in some cases clean but the logic of chastity is about remaining chaste and therefore it should only come off when required.
     
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    My partner feels the same way at times...I told her about this last night...and she said it may well be in my future but she said Ill start to sook too much if it went more than a few weeks...

    She is probably right lol.

    Avoiding that feeling of pressure is a tough one, its all fun and games till your actually locked up lol.
     
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    My wife makes all those decisions she has not said anything but I think her kink is keeping me denied
     
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    My Domme decides when or if I can cum. She often requires me to complete a task to earn the release. But there are no guarantees. Even if i complete her requirement she may decide to extend the time. She has also, rarely, just asked, out of the blue, if i want to cum. That kind of unpredictability adds to her control.
     
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    I am not sure how she decides, I guess it is whenever she feels like it... which is pretty frequent compared to many situations on this forum.
     
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    I am uncaged more than caged as this is not a lifestyle for us, but something we both enjoy periodically. But when I am caged (at her request not mine) she has both keys and the duration is until she is ready for PIV. It could be a few days or a few weeks. I am pretty sure she does not plan a duration in advance. Our agreement is that once locked I do not ask for sex or release, and she has both keys.
     
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    She just tells me, you’re in the cage for a reason - she will let me out when SHE wants and it’s not usually up for discussion.
    Quite simple really! :)
     
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    She doesn't. I'm let out when she wants cock.
     
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    My wife no longer enjoys PIV and only needs orgasms occasionally. She says she gets turned on by my being locked up while she masturbates. My release dates are solely at her discretion. I am not to ask or beg.
     
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    Sometimes we roll a dice a simple 6 sided none of those dungeons and dragons crazy dice. Then each time each number has a set amount of days or perhaps random/ chance makes it fun when we do that or with cards draw a certain color red black or queen king etc that all mean different things. or simply just randomly we just go for awhile then poof unlocked or teased etc.
     
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    My wife enjoys this lifestyle to much at times as she basicly says no your staying locked or laughs when I ask to be released.we are in our 50s and it has become a lifestyle now and we both love it ...the strict part is the best...chastity is not chastity until the say strictly no lol
     
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    Mistress Sue likes to have other Mistress put me in a session on emlalock. Then she tells me it is out of her control and I will have to please her with her wand and my mouth
     
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    Women who have time for those complicated emlalock, dice games and such seem to be the exception, not the rule. My KH is like many of the above quoted: release is entirely based on her needs and whims. The only time she gave me some release date, I ended up serving double the time.
     
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    My wife doesn't care.
     
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    I travel for work, so when I'm gone I'm locked. We generally have sex when I'm home but only when she wants to.
     
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    We do the same thing, when I am locked, I am not to ask or beg to get let out. I actually enjoy it.
     
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    I am on the honor system full time, but completely locked for the same amount of time each month, 10 days straight.
     
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    Unless she feels like I deserve something I am locked always. There is no time set
     
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    My wife and her boyfriend have a discussion while I'm kneeling in my corner. They will discuss if I've earned the right of release.
    I'm kept sealed in my cage for a year at a time. Last month they decided that my attitude in serving over the previous year wasn't 100 percent. So they decided another year would help me with it. Also they decided that I would only have a prostate massage every other month this year.
     

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    The lockup period will depend on several factors :

    1- The most important ----> the whims of the Mistress,
    2- My attitude and obedience.
    3- To have fulfilled the tasks and orders indicated by the Mistress on time and perfectly.

    For my Owner / KH the minimum and maximum limits in chastity do not exist, she only decides them according to her whims and the evaluation of my behavior.
     
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    We have a wheel of fortune app which gives time and conditions of the Lockup,
    It's a waste of time really as C says she will take it out anytime she decides to use it. Who am I to argue?
    I'm usually locked for about two months but C likes to play often.
    She does like the wheel of punishment for naughty points though.
    Bit of advice. If you're up for a ball slap or four. Never tell your keyholder she hits like she throws. A lot of pain will follow.
     
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    The must not ask or beg or hint in any way. Mistress sometimes gets pissed at me just because she THINKS I am sulking but keeping it to myself...lol..I have told her that if she feels like that then she should use the paddle. When she does it does hurt....and it does relieve tension strangely

    Usually not more than 2 week...I could go longer if Mistres liked to orgasm more often i think
     
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