Hey. I am still not locked, used to cum every day at least once. I have introduced chastity to my wife and now started honor chastity which is very hard to keep my hands off my dick... So far record is 3 days. My wife raised a concern, she agreed to put me in chastity, but she has a fair question which I have no answer to... She doesn't want to practice my fantasy everyday all day. She wants to be able to say, not today... If she is not feeling well or just tired. She can ignore the situation whenever she wants, but i will still be denied and horny while becoming more and more frustrated every day. How do you handle it? Do I just not bring up the subject when she wants a break? And what if you have to cum already?? Sorry for the weird questions, we are just starting and want to have proper expectations. Thank you all...
The need to cum will come in waves, that much is nice to remember, but they get bigger and harder, at times unbearable. Remind yourself that's it's what you wanted and respect your spouse if they don't want sex. 8P That much is just common human decency. Don't focus on your dick so much, which will be hard. Maybe buy a dildo, I don't know. Also remember that this is your fantasy, not hers, so she may not be into it.
How do you handle it? You do what she wants. Or doesn't want. It's disingenuous to say "control me" and then presume to dictate what you want. If you want to be controlled, then fact the fact: you're giving up control. Whether you want a sexual release or not is irrelevant because you're getting what you want. What you want is to not get what you want, and you got it. You gave up control. Be happy. If you want to presume to dictate how she should control you, then you haven't given up control; you're taking control. You don't "have to cum." Science supports this. The body has its own release mechanism. You want to cum. If you're sincere about giving her control, then what you want is irrelevant.
Her role is to hold the key. If she wants to play with you, if she wants to tease, that makes it more fun. But it's not necessary. You can let your mind do the rest. It doesn't work to force the issue. If you take the pressure off, she's also more likely to want to play. If she feels like she doesn't have to. We all (I think... at least I do) worry about just being locked up and forgotten about. In my experience so far, that hasn't been the case. When I'm not locked my wife is way more likely to forget my cock exists. That said, a few days wouldn't give me much concern. Find other outlets for your energy. Want to beat off? Do some push ups. Channel it.
Erm.. you can always start by wearing a chastity device first.. unless she is really put off by such a toy… honour system is by trust.. ok, good.. by just to ensure it is being complied tell her.. if she says not today, not now.. ok, maybe so be it… just tell her too it will be as long as she wants.. and of course do not pester her every hour.. can i cum dear.. lets play dom/s now dear… a good start will be to be locked and unlock at her flimsiest whims…
She doesnt really have to do much if shes tired or stressed, all she has to do is say, "get your cage on", surely she can manage that !
It takes time, but you need to learn that it's not about you. So when you feel horny and ignored, that's a good time to analyze what you're feeling, and why. Somehow, when it happens to me now, I have learned to introspect, and I always come to the conclusion that the time and energy that I'm spending feeling sorry for myself would be better spent doing something that would make my wife's life better, and I then go do that. My suggestion is to slow down with your excitement. You're probably like an irritating little puppy right now, yapping away at your new owner. Most of us went through that same stage. You need to begin by realizing that is what you are doing.