Now that we've been practicing chastity, tease and denial for so long, the amount of physical intimacy we are having has been off the charts. But we both have a tough time answering the question, "Did we just have sex?" The textbook definition implies intercourse or PIV, but we aren't able to do that because of my lack of size and her flexibility issues. Occasionally, but rarely these days, we both have orgasms. 2-3x per week, sometines more, sonnetimes less, I get teased and my wife gets an orgasm. 2-3x per week, we cuddle, I get teased and then we're done. Sometimes we cuddle, scratch each other's back, maybe get a minor massage and we're done. Somehow, sex has lost it's meaning. It baffles me but I'm okay with that. What's your definition?