My Goddess @n2toys was edging me intensely last Saturday Night to the point I was so desperate to cum when She stopped stroking me while I was laying tied to the bed; after a couple seconds ticked by of no stimulation I shot out briefly and felt a tinge of an orgasm. 10% real, 90% ruined; like getting a taste and then having it yanked away... I did not receive the same satisfaction of a full orgasm. How do you count this as opposed to a 100% Ruined-O? Count as receiving a real orgasm and thus a re-set? Other?
I wouldn't get too hung up on the statistics... The bottom line is: "Does it feel good for both of you?". If the answer is yes, then you're doing it right.
That's some really sensible advice. My husband also has some kind of fascination with numbers and counting things. I don't get it myself. One time he made me this really complicated looking spreadsheet to help me keep track of his orgasms. It was hilarious!
Handy people to have around to design CAT scanners, mobile phones, Satnav, ipads and all the other things we take for granted.
Easy way my KH judges them is ifbi loose my erection rather quickly. If it's not a complete I stay as hard as I was before...sometimes harder lol
@CZSteve I had a similar experience and posed a similar question several months ago in a thread that I think I titled was it real or was it ruined. I agree partially with the comments regarding "who cares as long as it's fun for you and your SO". Important not to lose sight of that, but I think anxiety on this issue is a real and genuine response from a submissive. I take pride in serving my mistress. It can be breakfast in bed, kneeling in front of her and massaging her feet while she watches a TV show or providing her with an orgasm followed by going to sleep holding her. I also take pride in obeying her and her number one rule is I am not allowed to cum unless she says so. Having an orgasm when you're not supposed to I find quite distressful. I've had 3 of these partial orgasms since July. Just as you've described. All stimulation stopped, just waiting to resume and all of a sudden spurt! They've been of different levels as well. One was a single spurt, followed by a bit of slow leakage. I would classify that one as you did with it being mostly ruined. The other two had 3 powerful spurts and I'd say that was more like 50/50. I was in the cage for the two powerful ones and out for the one smaller one. The last time this happened as I started spurting I shouted out Oh No! That was really confusing to process latter. I guess for your question about a reset or not, I'd leave it up to your KH. Our dynamic is that I orgasm when she decides she wants me to. We have no timeline or get out of jail free card, so it hasn't been an issue for us. I'm learning that sometimes our bodies surprise us. Chalk it up to that and move on.
That does sound hilarious, do you still have it? You should post it and start a thread "How complicated are your rules?"
We just count them as 1/2 an orgasm. My wife loves them because she doesn't notice any down time from me, and I think she likes it when I must do my clean up duty.
Agreed, we're all different and as long as we're enjoying the ride it's all good. Before chastity My Goddess loved to make me cum and a traditional orgasm was part of the equation as that was all we knew at the time. She has now discovered the thrill of ruining me and it puts a beautiful smile of satisfaction on Her face when She does - obviously ironic how my sexual orgasm denial is now such an intense turn on for both of us! I'm sitting here in a hotel room locked up while being away on a 3-day business trip and cannot wait to get home to my Wife and bury my head between Her legs...
Which you just successfully did! Is it crazy to tell the teenagers to go to bed before 7 on a Friday night?