How did you discover chastity?

Discussion in 'Female led relationships' started by BKwife, Dec 21, 2018.

Random Thread
  1. Sissy_Denise
    Offline

    Sissy_Denise Active Sissylander

    Joined:
    Nov 10, 2018
    Messages:
    674
    Likes Received:
    2,123
    Trophy Points:
    123
    Local Time:
    11:54 AM
    WOW! That car is so "HOT!" LOL
    You never know what turns someone on. I'm an adrenaline junky myself. I actually had a vintage 1963 vette,
    my GF at the time, wife now, hated it. She doesn't like speed and considered it competition and a "chick magnet". So you never know. All other traits aside, it could have been the Panda!
     
    BKwife and Chaste J. like this.
  2. Chaste J.
    Offline

    Chaste J. Long term member

    Joined:
    Dec 14, 2017
    Messages:
    2,121
    Likes Received:
    2,998
    Trophy Points:
    143
    Gender:
    Male
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    To be honest when we first started chatting it was in a shop where she worked! I used to cycle to work then and on the propped my bike up against the window before going in for my packet of Marlboro cigarettes and a paper! She thought I didn't have a car at first! Didn't have the Panda for long though, it was a proper rust bucket (what a surprise!). Got a Dagenham Dustbin instead (Ford Escort). Not long after we met we both knocked the ciggys on the head but I still cycled to work until I was 52! Then I was starting to get a bit fed up of cycling up the hills to get home so I bought a 50cc Sym scooter! Now I really am "sex on a stick" with my bright yellow protective coat! Means I've got more energy to please my wonderful Mrs Chaste! Oh and car wise I buy a brand new Hyundai every 5 years! That's how long the warranty lasts!
     
    BKwife and Lockedmiller like this.
  3. filltee
    Offline

    filltee Junior Member

    Joined:
    May 21, 2010
    Messages:
    3,378
    Likes Received:
    2,502
    Trophy Points:
    143
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Sheffield. South Yorkshire UK
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    Whilst browsing the internet with my then wife.
     
    BKwife likes this.
  4. dave47630
    Offline

    dave47630 Active member

    Joined:
    Dec 29, 2015
    Messages:
    56
    Likes Received:
    26
    Trophy Points:
    18
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Southwest Indiana
    Local Time:
    10:54 AM
    I in the late 70s early 80s I was an avid reader of Penthouse Variations magazine. It was a monthly soft porn reader that often had stories of female domination. There was a story there that spoke of a chastity cage. From there I read all I could about them. There are even some rather old U. S. patents of file. Through the years I have had an almost continual interest.
     
    1mlockedup, BKwife and tiruh811 like this.
  5. Sissy_Denise
    Offline

    Sissy_Denise Active Sissylander

    Joined:
    Nov 10, 2018
    Messages:
    674
    Likes Received:
    2,123
    Trophy Points:
    123
    Local Time:
    11:54 AM
    Ah, yes! An excellent pocket sized magazine that you DID buy for the articles. Unlike some others that men would tell their wives, "but, I only buy them for the articles". :rolleyes:
     
  6. Alceste
    Offline

    Alceste Chaste Member

    Joined:
    Nov 26, 2008
    Messages:
    1,190
    Likes Received:
    1,190
    Trophy Points:
    133
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    United States
    Local Time:
    8:54 AM
    My first exposure was in the mid to late 1980's while reading internet newsgroups. I think that the foundation had already been laid, but something just clicked on in my head.
     
    BKwife and tiruh811 like this.
  7. Slave to Wife
    Offline

    Slave to Wife Nobody Important

    Joined:
    Aug 23, 2009
    Messages:
    387
    Likes Received:
    622
    Trophy Points:
    93
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    Her bitch
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Bloomington, Minnesota
    Local Time:
    10:54 AM
    I've always liked female domination. Since childhood and my earliest sexual thoughts, I dreamed of older girls tying me up and using me in various ways. When we first met, my wife liked femdom things, too, but then she grew away from it as we nurtured a family, seeing the stuff as merely sexual. Today, she embraces it and uses it like a tool to spice up our relationship. It's great. I first learned of chastity in 2004 or so, but our interested grew more around 2008 and 2010. Unfortunately, we used it off and on for years. We nearly split a few times over petty matters. Now, we are closer than ever. She rules, and things are clear.
     
  8. kcuck5280
    Offline

    kcuck5280 Active member

    Joined:
    Jul 6, 2017
    Messages:
    146
    Likes Received:
    476
    Trophy Points:
    73
    Gender:
    Male
    Local Time:
    9:54 AM
    I'm not sure if this is a common pathway or not but we started out in hotwifing where I pretty much arranged everything. My, The Queen, was game enough and didn't seem to mind the meetups with, mainly, BBC dates. For some reason there is always and ample supply of men willing to fuck your beautiful, blonde wife :)
    Hotwifing moved into her finding her own dates, and eventually her own boyfriends. Once she was more in control, I think we both realized we liked that dynamic. At some point I was not allowed to have PIV w/ her until after a date with a boyfriend. We started moving into more of a cuckolding dynamic as well. This evolved into not being allowed to masturbate before her dates... and eventually not being able to masturbate at all unless given permission. As a habitual masturbator, this really wasn't possible without chastity. We both came to the conclusion chastity was necessary. In fact, she had been researching cages at the same time as I. The chastity discussions naturally led us to the FLR relationship. And here we are. It's definitely an up and down thing where we take a break for a month or two but I always end up locked up in the end.
     
    Slave to Wife, Penney, BKwife and 4 others like this.
  9. mlcf
    Offline

    mlcf Obedient

    Joined:
    Nov 30, 2009
    Messages:
    51
    Likes Received:
    114
    Trophy Points:
    33
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    CEO of the company
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Brazil
    Local Time:
    12:54 PM
    After 2 years of marriage, my wife jealousy started to increase... So one day I have bumped to chastity device on the internet and I started to look more and more for it... Then I went home and told her about it... She immediately got turned on on the idea... We bought a couple of cheap devices, made sex that day and we both cum... But with time we lerned that was not as simple as it sounds and for secure devices, you have to buy more expensive stuff. Until we get to a point what I really cannot remove or touch it. After we got these point we move to more and more to FLR relationship and one day we had some sex and she felt some crams, but she had her gracious cum and I went straight to chastity. That day my life changed because the next day we did sex again and she liked me hard rock... She cum more the once and keeps saying me to hold on. Then she finished and ask me to put chastity... Things started to repeat... and repeat... And she developed a taste for me not to cum for 20 to 50 days... Last year she counted my cum... Was only 19. This year she already told that she will low it to at least 12 and is better for me to get to close to 10 or less. That is going to be a hard year...
     
  10. KatlynAshe
    Offline

    KatlynAshe Busy busy busy

    Joined:
    May 3, 2009
    Messages:
    204
    Likes Received:
    476
    Trophy Points:
    63
    Local Time:
    10:54 AM
    #60 KatlynAshe, Jan 18, 2019
    Last edited: Jan 18, 2019
    I think the first chastity belt I saw was in Robin Hood men in tights... I had heard of them from Victorian writings as I ADORE corsets and read all about them. Later on the internet I saw pictures of women in chastity belts as fetish porn, and not long after discovered pictures and notes from Sylvana Chastity on the other side and realized how wonderfully hot and sexy it was.

    I subscribed to this website to lurk years ago. But at the time it all seemed unreachable fetish to me (and EXPENSIVE). It wasn't until recently with global markets that belts and cages came down in price enough for me to feel like I could try the experience without going all in.

    At this point though I'm all in and delightfully belted <3 I absolutely love it!
     
    BKwife likes this.
  11. soapyone
    Offline

    soapyone New member

    Joined:
    Jun 18, 2017
    Messages:
    6
    Likes Received:
    14
    Trophy Points:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    IT Director
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Iowa
    Home Page:
    Local Time:
    10:54 AM
    This is an interesting question. I have always been submissive and when I was younger, I experimented with different items. I found that I could fit my penis, when almost fully erect into a toilet paper tube. Once erect, I couldn't remove the empty tube without either ripping the cardboard tube or masturbation. Although average in length the 5" girth has only been complained about if my partner at the time isn't properly lubricated.

    I used to tie my penis up with shoe strings, or rope, etc. Sometimes separating my balls. The confinement created by wrapping it away was very erotic for me. This was back in the 70's and early 80's. In high school, my girlfriend found she liked my submissive side and would wash my mouth out wish soap if I was not nice to her, and she liked bondage from the Dominant side of it. We experimented with different rings and sheaths, etc.

    Moving forward to the Mid-to-late 80's. Now married to another woman from California, whom I met in Germany (Military, we both were.) My wife, was married for 8 years previously, and whose husband had cheated on her. (You want to get someone to jump on-board with chastity, find out if they have ever been cheated on. Odds are, they have been. No cheating when you, male or female, are in chastity and they hold the key!) That was one of the easiest sales pitches I ever had. :)

    So, we tried, rings, sheaths, homemade PVC designs, Gates of Hell, Stallion Guard, and about 15 to 20 different chastity devices. Most of the plastic ones split, caused a zipper affect along the penis or the rings scratched the underside of the sac. The same with the steel ones, only they didn't split. We tried full chastity belts as well. The best fitting we had found was a steel ring and posts from a metal Chinese knock off and the CB6000s pink plastic cage. Funny thing is, I am submissive, my wife's slave, but we are not into cross-dressing or feminization. The cage just worked properly.

    So, last year, in March, we went with the Prince Albert penis piercing. Second most painful thing I have ever felt, but only for a few seconds. MM tried to pierce me herself, but found She didn't like the blood. So, I had the piercing finished professionally. We had purchased the Lori's Tube #5b and after I healed we put it in.

    As someone mentioned, life gets in the way. With a major medical issue and surgery in June, the chastity device came off, but after surgery, I was allowed to put the ring back in to keep the piercing from closing. Now, we are healed again. So, we have slowly been going between the Pink CB6000s and steel rings/posts and the Lori's Tube again.

    After the follow-up doctor appointments in April of this year, I will be ready for longer periods of chastity again.

    The longest I have gone without an orgasm due to a chastity device is 111 days, although with the Piercing, the surgery and aftercare, last years I made about 280 days.

    We have a friend whom I have written about many times, on the mouth soaping forums and in my stories who was our Maid. I think MM would be good with Her holding one of the security keys to the Lori's Tube in the event anything ever happened to MM. But I don't think our friend would ever release me. Wouldn't that be fun? :)
     
    BKwife and tiruh811 like this.
  12. Guest 0931
    Offline

    Guest 0931 Member

    Joined:
    Feb 3, 2019
    Messages:
    11
    Likes Received:
    14
    Trophy Points:
    3
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    For me, I know I was stumbling around random Femdom 'porn' sites as a young man circa 2000/2001. I must have stumbled onto something that mentioned the words 'orgasm denial. A quick Google search later and I found Orgasmdenial.com which was such a monumental site. It had an incredible community, webteases, forums.. I found it hugely valuable to just be on there and read. The CB2000 was new around then and the concept of locking a man's penis away until he learned to obey just thrilled and fried my brain. Just the absolutely sexiest discovery.

    Powerful stuff!
     
    BKwife and tiruh811 like this.
  13. chronicM
    Offline

    chronicM boy

    Joined:
    Jan 31, 2009
    Messages:
    65
    Likes Received:
    77
    Trophy Points:
    28
    Gender:
    Male
    Local Time:
    11:54 AM
    Having only one computer in the house growing up, I naturally discovered edging. If you edge long enough to internet porn, it's inevitable that you'll come across femdom and chastity. I don't remember when I first discovered it but there is one event that stands out.

    It was my freshman year at college and a bunch of people were in our dorm room playing video games on the TV. My computer was situated opposite from the TV, so that I was behind everyone else and they couldn't see me unless they turned around. Even if they did turn around, it was dark enough that they wouldn't see my hand down my pants. I was reading a story on Altair Boy's site that involved a chastity belt and a demo on milking. I came so, so hard. I could feel the jets of come hit my leg. Everyone in the room was so engrossed in the TV they had no idea. Ever since then, I've needed to be in chastity.
     
    Rectrix, BKwife and tiruh811 like this.
  14. HerLittleBitch
    Offline

    HerLittleBitch Under the spell of my loving @Mistress-M

    Joined:
    May 24, 2019
    Messages:
    156
    Likes Received:
    351
    Trophy Points:
    73
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    South West, United Kingdom
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    We did the whole tease and denial thing for a while before my fiancée suggested it would be really hot to lock away my cock at the end of a session. I could not believe it when she said that - it’s something I’d fantasised about for a long time. So we jumped right on it and ordered a cage there and then.

    A couple of different models later, I’m locked in a vice pretty much 24/7 apart from cleaning, edging and teasing, and some occasional PIV, which is something I have to work hard to earn, rather than a given. I couldn’t be happier and neither could she. She loves to tease me, loves to say no, and loves all the constant affection and attention.

    She gets everything she wants, I get nothing apart from relentless teasing, which of course is everything I want, and we both couldn’t be happier. I’m so glad she suggested this way!
     
  15. Miss Amandas boy
    Offline

    Miss Amandas boy Submissive to Mistress Amanda

    Joined:
    Dec 11, 2018
    Messages:
    435
    Likes Received:
    1,087
    Trophy Points:
    113
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Shropshire
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    Very early in our FLR journey, Miss Amanda came across chastity devices as part of her research into the lifestyle. Although she was initially aprehensive about it, as at that time PIV sex was her primary aim, we bought an HTv2. I think as soon as she had locked me the very first time, she had that feeling of power and control, and she knew that this was going to be a part of our relationship forever.

    Unlike some on here, I am usually released once or twice a week, I never get bored.
     
    BKwife likes this.
  16. Ms. Joanne
    Offline

    Ms. Joanne Long term member

    Joined:
    Apr 9, 2019
    Messages:
    448
    Likes Received:
    1,921
    Trophy Points:
    123
    Gender:
    Female
    Occupation:
    Writer
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    UK
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    My discovery of chastity was a combination of some of the feminising hypnosis I was listening to at the time and also the advice of a Transgender girl who I knew on another forum. She was very insightful and explained how it had helped her with her gender dysphoria.
     
    Penney and BKwife like this.
  17. sylvana chastity
    Offline

    sylvana chastity just Syl

    Joined:
    Sep 15, 2009
    Messages:
    617
    Likes Received:
    2,093
    Trophy Points:
    123
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Deutschland
    Home Page:
    Local Time:
    4:54 PM
    looked down between my thighs - and there it was! :D
     
  18. Xileh
    Offline

    Xileh Happily Serving

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2018
    Messages:
    1,379
    Likes Received:
    2,656
    Trophy Points:
    143
    Gender:
    Male
    Local Time:
    8:54 AM
    We were struggling sexually. The rest of our relationship was all we could ask for.

    During a heart to heart conversation about sex, she asked if we could stop when she was ready to be done, even if I wasn’t. I didn’t think this was optimal, but I was willing to try. After a few times, where she said she was done and I stopped without complaint, it resonated with her. We had more sex than ever.

    In the past, she had not been in favor of toys or much foreplay, but that changed too. I helped her become acquainted with her g-spot. Wow. A typical night might include ten to twelve major O’s for her. None for me.

    During some research into T&D, I found chastity cages for sale. I showed her a photo of a chastity cage and suggested it could be an extension of the full blown T&D we had evolved to. At first, she was hesitant. After a bit she agreed. We tried a cheap device first. We learned enough to order a custom MCN Contender. That was a year and a half ago. I’ve been locked ever since.

    She loves the control. We have more sex than ever. She admitted that she needs to work harder on the denial. She’s got the teasing down pat.

    Chastity has enhanced the best parts of our marriage. It has made possible a major improvement in the areas that were lacking - for both of us.

    The best outcome, is the increase in her confidence. What a wonder it is to experience first-hand.

    We are now evolving to an FLR. I have discovered that I am service oriented. I understand what that means and I embrace it.

    We are on a new adventure. Everything we have experienced so far has been so positive, I will do anything to make sure I can help it to progress naturally and at her pace.
     
  19. Kylara
    Offline

    Kylara Happy feminized sub owned by Mistress PHEBUSA

    Joined:
    Mar 21, 2017
    Messages:
    1,003
    Likes Received:
    2,626
    Trophy Points:
    143
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    Office work
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    Belgium, Brussels
    Local Time:
    4:54 PM
    My wife and I where virgin and ignorant of most of the sex things when we tried the first time, none of us has lovers before.
    We tried in our youth ages plenty of sexual things, bi sex, trio, cuck and so but nothings lasts. After 28 years of living she finally told me that she never has joy with me and penetration and she has no pleasure in sex but he has plenty of desire for anyway.
    A cold shower, I though I was a good lover and she told me that I was not and all the men/women she encounter where not either.
    everything collapsed around me.

    So serious research on how to please a women send me to chores. I discover that if a women has time for her she is more likely to have sex, so cleaning was my new hobby. this lead to some feminist posts about marriage organisation and sharing of chores. I became to read feminist things and agreeing with as I do the cleaning I understood more and more how she was feeling about home.

    her mood improved a lot. I found a site about female empowerment and how it helps for improving life, we did many stuff of the FLR before but in bulk order.

    I write her a letter on how I will change and follow the rules of a femdom site, she was septic and disillusioned.
    I also tried the cage suggested with and she did not go for it on her side.

    After a year she found a lot of progress and agree to have a look on the method. She also get her first orgasm and was then insatiable for sex.
    After 2 years she find that the control is a needed things and she decide when I cum or not. Still a lot progress to do but now she loves the method.

    She still struggling with her problem to be affirmative but she progress a lot. And sex now is better for me, a lot of, longer too, no so much rarest but she finds it very satisfying on her side.

    I finally join the forum, she is around too but still not too implied in.

    its a win/win for us too
     
  20. bondinchas
    Offline

    bondinchas Long term member

    Joined:
    Feb 15, 2016
    Messages:
    2,149
    Likes Received:
    3,120
    Trophy Points:
    143
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    UK
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    That was how I learnt about modern chastity devices.
    Did anyone else suffer a great feeling of sadness when all the photos suddenly disappeared from that site?
     
    boisub likes this.
  21. madams-sissysub
    Offline

    Joined:
    Apr 30, 2009
    Messages:
    12,253
    Likes Received:
    6,636
    Trophy Points:
    143
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    nurse
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    uk (west mids)
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    My madam, discovers it first, we were into Bdsm any way and she came across it on a website, showed me as soon as I got home and told me I was ordering one!
     
  22. TWDL
    Offline

    TWDL Active member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2018
    Messages:
    65
    Likes Received:
    130
    Trophy Points:
    33
    Gender:
    Male
    Local Time:
    3:54 PM
    My introduction came initially through my discovery of different fetishes.

    Pantyhose, Stockings & heels > cross dressing > sissy > chastity.
     
    NylonAddictTv likes this.
  23. amareine
    Offline

    amareine Long term member

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2019
    Messages:
    241
    Likes Received:
    202
    Trophy Points:
    53
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    france
    Local Time:
    4:54 PM
    sex was always an additional thing with a woman
    and as my Queen was afraid by my lonelyness at work (married, it was one of the causes i met Her....)
    i bought a CB for it
    and since, i wear it as soon as we are not near together (even at home) : as soon as one of us is out of bed until we'll be together in
    and as She was not a sex girl (to much men attracted by her "forms and beauty" to make it)
    chastity is evident : sex as she wants and when she wants
    and i like it
    and i love Her
     
    NylonAddictTv likes this.
  24. NylonAddictTv
    Offline

    NylonAddictTv Member

    Joined:
    Jun 29, 2019
    Messages:
    13
    Likes Received:
    126
    Trophy Points:
    28
    Gender:
    Male
    Location: (Country, Region - and perhaps even City?):
    France
    Local Time:
    4:54 PM
    Almost the same story for me,
    I've been fascinated by pantyhose, stockings and transgender (thanks to my dad who was bad at hiding his magazines in the toilets) since I was young and growing up with internet brought me to the sissy world and hypno videos.
    Starting then I wanted to achieve an anal orgasm and wearing a chastity seamed to be normal for me.
     
  25. John
    Offline

    John Member

    Joined:
    May 15, 2008
    Messages:
    706
    Likes Received:
    516
    Trophy Points:
    93
    Local Time:
    4:54 PM
    I started with an interest in bondage. Discovered female domination in the process didn't know it existed. While investigating the topic I found it and got hooked since it's a combo of both.
     
  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice