How did you discover chastity?

I was unfortunately scanning through porn when I stumbled across something chastity related. Then I came across keptforher.com and I read through their content and that helped me realize I needed to make changes in my life for the better (stop looking at porn and masturbating) and I wanted to be more attentive and committed to my amazing wife. We’ve always been best friends and very much in love with each other and I owed her more than what my behavior was eluding to. I had a hard time explaining why I thought chastity would be good for us and it ended up taking a fairly well written book about male chastity before my goddess was onboard with me.

Since she agreed to it almost 4 years ago there’s been no going back, there have been lots of ups and downs over that time for us but our overall journey has been wonderful and I have discovered so much about myself, Chastity was how I discovered I truly am a submissive. My wife hasn’t had as much time for the self discovery I have had. She’s been in graduates school our entire journey, she’s enjoyed the benefits chasity has brought her but has been far to occupied to really delve into our lifestyle. She’s done with school after this spring semester and she’ll fibally be free of school and will have more time for us which we’ve both been looking forward to for a long time.

 

Okay I’m not giving my Miss enough credit, she’s an amazing domme but we never have enough time together for her to show it. When she does act on her role she can really blow my mind

 

I saw it in porn and thought how much more amazing an orgasm would feel if there were weeks or even a month between them rather than days or hours. That proved true. I eventually realized that I didn't mind the denial and that I was so much more productive when I wasn't masturbating, so I decided "why bother with the orgasm and the uncomfortable first few days of a lockup?".

 

We started this when I was 30 and she was 29. I’m glad we started when we did because I don’t know if I would’ve been mature enough for chastity any younger than that. And thanks for the nice wishes

 

I’ve posted before but it’s been a long time.
So....
Many years ago I was invited to a CFnm tea party. One of the males there was wearing a CB2000k.

Now I’d seen pics of full belts and thought they were interesting, but seeing the
Is plastic thing that someone was actually wearing was someth8ng else. Seeing it all I could think was why?

I got to talk to him a little, and while I thought it was odd, so,etching about it hit me.

Anyway to make a long story short, a few months later I got one and started experimenting with it.
Now here it is sneaking up on 20 years later and I’m now locked in a MM Jailbird and loving/hating it!

 

My initial exposure was an episode of Californication. My initial reaction was why tf would any guy even think about doing this.

Now, several years later, I am that guy. Six months ago, I still would have been flabbergasted why anyone would do this. I have no idea what got into me to change my mind, but somehow here we are, with me trying to get my wife interested...

 

It started with me being frustrated that I masturbated so often and my wife never wanted anything to do with sex. I started searching for ways to prevent me from jacking off and stumbled upon chastity. It took a few months of mulling it over in my head but eventually talked with my wife and we bought our first device. Like many guys here I was fully on board as I even now, am trying to show the benefits of chastity for her as well as me. Its a slow road but one we are overall happy to be on.

 

I was very heavy into the BDSM community from late teens to mid 20s. Early on, I was doing some crafting/vending at conventions; at some point I saw some welded cages that other vendors were selling. I'm sure I had also read about them in some fiction or something; it was a long time ago. But then I ha my first experience with wrapping steel around my cock.

I was friends with a female vendor. I would go spend weekends with her and her Master. He got a kick out of having a Ken doll to compliment his Barbie . They were both older and obviously more experienced than me. Showed me "the ropes" if you catch my drift! Anyway, the Master had a good Domme friend who flew up for a weekend. Of course, I was happy to be handed over to a experienced dominant woman who I barely knew for the weekend!

On Saturday, we went out for the day; I, however, was given a very special accessory to wear. One big steel ring, strapped to a few smaller ring, and finally a slightly smaller ring on the end. I didn't really understand the gates of hell at that point. I thought it was some cbt thing and didnt see why the nice lady in black leather insisted that I wore it out in public under my tight girl jeans for the day (i was tall, skinny, long hair, and bending gender like it was going out of style!). I was a horny guy and loved new kinky things so I was all for it - but I bit off way more than I expected! I didnt really "get" that it was a controll tool; I thought it was more of an ouchie tool like nipple clamps.

We went to a leather friendly bar for lunch and drinks as well as stripper shoe store with my cock jammed into those rings, possibly harder and more engorged than it had EVER been for the entire trip!

The bar was a leather bar in the early afternoon so it was just the four of us and the bartender opening the place up. Domme had quite fun telling the bartender about my "predicament" as well as showing him the obvious bulge (with ribbing from the rings) in my american eagle size zeros. I was intoxicated with the way she could just point at it and say, "that's mine." My head was swimming from the never-ending erection and the chemicals that it wrought on my brain. I do distinctly remember that the bar had lots of sync'd up TVs that played raunchy clips and music videos, especially when Armand Van Helden's Know My Name video came on and all four of us watched this video where folks queue'd up to get their spankings. None of us had seen the video before; of course Domme was inspired by the video and I knew i had some OTK spanking in my near future. I was really getting to feel the hyper-horny state by the middle of the bar trip.

After the bar, we went to a stripper shoe store. I was a total hot mess by this time due to the gates of hell. We went in and Domme bought some nice heels, of course I wanted some as well. We picked some 7 inch matte black size 13 heels for me. Domme made me walk around a bit in them before buying. I vividly remember the massive tortured bulge in my pants as I strutted around with the girls running the store seeing *everything* that was going on. I mean its a stripper shoe store so they had probably seen it all before but I think the girls all at least mentally high fived the Domme when they saw her controlling a young 20 year old boy toy like that. Now that I think about it, I'm really surprised I was able to walk in those heels given my mental state. I guess the endorphins from the exhibitionism gave me enough focus to not kill myself walking in those heels before buying them.

So we had a bit of a ling ride back to Master's place and I was a total blathering mess due to the overstimulation from the gates and all of the goings on. Domme asturely picked up on this and cradled my head in her crotch and played with my hair durring the ride home. I must say I've had some amazing connections but the whole day flooded with emotions exacerbated by the gates and the, i guess, aftercare i recieved on the way home really stuck with me.

I was *fried* till much later that evening. The gates did to me in a few hours what a cage does to me in a week. Very exciting intro to the world of genital control!

So I've been really into those things that control sex since then. Gates, dildo panties, chastity belts and devices, etc. I cant think of any cleaner power exchange dynamic than these types of toys. It's like playing sexual chess but your parter gets to move your pieces too

 

As a person I've always had a submissive behaviour towards women. And I've always been attracted to all types of restriction. From early youth I already tied myself up, nothing sexual, I just like the feeling of restriction. For sure later on it also added arousal and around the same time we got access to the Internet.
I discovered IRC groups, Fora etc. and started talking about bondage, bdsm etc with others. Experimented and so on. Then there was a online contact that I've chatted with a lot (dominant girl) who told me about chastity devices. How much she loved them, the powerful feeing it gave her.
Until that moment, chastity for me was... full belts for women... I never thought about males wearing a full belt... and didn't know about all the other ball trapping devices. Well commercially it were the CBxxxx series that were the most easy to get your hands on.

From that moment chastity started to intrigue me, but it still took me years to buy a CB6000. Since that moment I've been experimenting with the CB6000, Bon4 silicone, Bon4M small and the Bon4Micro. When being single experimented with online Key Holding etc.

At this moment I do wear it daily, but not during the night, unless I'm alone I do wear it during nights.

My wife isn't into chastity play, although she knows all about my submissive side and bondage gear. We all need to keep the faith ;-) ... in the end I'm convinced she will find out / can be convinced about all the positives side effects of being a Key Holder.

 

I am pretty sure my entry into chastity is pretty unique. I have written about it before so the short version is...

I asked for and got permission to modify my penis. I wanted a split glans with an ampallang piercing with a ball in the middle holding the halves of my glans apart. I had seen modified penises on Tumblr and it really appealed to me. The problem was my Wife reacted really bad to the split glans. For three days I thought she was going to divorce me it was so bad.

At the same time I had been researching genital mods on Tumblr I had also seen chastity devices. I offered to wear one for her. Not to be chaste, but to control my urges to complete the mod and to hide what I had done from her. She agreed, though at the time she did think it was a bit weird.

It took her six months to truly take control but then everything clicked into place. We have been doing this for a little over three years. I am now fully chaste, the last denial period was exactly six months, my average is a minimum of two months, I have had two orgasms this year. We discovered and transitioned into a full FLR, she is becoming more Dominant and I am becoming more submissive.

Like others I wish I had discovered this earlier, at least ten years. This is despite my belief if I had done so by now my chastity would be permanent, as that is the way she is taking me.

 

I'm gonna say most people could probably guess how I first saw it: stumbled across it in furry porn years back. At first I had mixed feelings but the more I saw it the more I got interested until I did lots of research on it and it slowly became the kink I was most interested in. While I certainly did not have "gotta find someone to hold my key" in mind when I was looking for a relationship, mine did start with chastity.

 

I think I posted this many moons ago.

I was on a business trip to Philadelphia. I visited a adult book/sex store. I was looking at all their bondage toys, as both the wife and I were into mild bondage, and she much preferred leather over rope. I spotted this steel and leather cage with a padlock that looked like it might be fun for us to play with. anyway i purchased it.

At this point in our relationship I was the dominant partner. On this same trip I visited another store where you got to play with some girls in the back for about 20 minutes or so. I chose the bondage themed room, and thinking I was going to be able to tie the girl up, she quickly informed me it worked the other way around. Being that I already paid for it, i went along with it. Anyway I thoroughly enjoyed the experience and had a very strong orgasm.

After taking my new toy home and playing with it, I found out that I enjoyed being locked up in it. It was at this point that our roles began to switch. Also at this point I did not know that this was a "chastity" device.

Doing some searching on the internet I discovered some interesting forums that have long since gone extinct.
I also discovered Altairboys's site. Found out there was a name for this kink.

I tried a somewhat successful attempt at making a chastity device. Then finally got a CB-2000! That device was somewhat successful in that I could stay locked up for fairly long periods. Once lasting 6 months.

I eventually got a Neosteel Sport Belt (used) that somewhat fit. Unfortunately I gained some weight and could no longer fit in to it.

I then tried a CB-6000, and found that device was a bit big on me, so I got a 6000s cage. This device worked well for me until the cage started splitting and I was breaking the ball trap ring.

I then found Custom Chastity, where I purchased their Leopard device. I found this device, once I got used to it's texture, to be a great device, and one that could be used for long term use as well.

Last year I had some health issues, gall bladder, and after having it removed, something changed in my body chemistry, and I find it difficult to wear for more than a few days.

Anyway, this brings me to the present, and like many others, still seeking that perfect device!

 

I saw a picture of a cage on Instagram. It intrigued me so I started looking for more of them. They were the typical CB plastic cages but clearly all were too big for my ‘turtle’. Then one day I saw a metal microcage. The one that has the full cover faucet style cage. My heart did a flip at the thought of finding something that would actually fit. Then when the thought of handing they key over to someone else hit I was hooked. I have been experimenting with various cages to find the right fit. I don’t have a significant other in my life right now but know that when I do, chastity will be brought up as I want that to be a part of the relationship.

 

I was married at the time and did a search on sexless marriage. I was desperate to find a cure for what ailed us. I found male chastity stuff with that search and looked into it.

Although I didn’t introduce male chastity to her, and she became my ex wife, I kept exploring the idea. I read blogs, cage advice, even joined here (under a different name in 09).

When I started dating again I knew how much I needed that part of my life in someone else’s hands, and knew I needed a partner that was ok with that. I told my new partner after a few months. She thought it was weird but was willing to try because she really liked me. Soon she was into me wearing the cage more than I was lol!

 

35 years ago I walked into a porn shop (still a virgin) and saw the forced womanhood magazine of my avatar

I felt nothing about the forced woman thing, but the PERMANENT CHASTITY they touted seemed to go instantly to my very core.
Some how, right then, I knew that I must one day become permanently locked away
Now, now I think I can say I am.
Yesterday I had my birthday. For the first time in 10 months the cage came of. I was bound arms behind, and given 1 minute to use a wall mounted fleshlight. If I lasted the minute, 3 months lock up, if not, ........well my beloved says it will be 6 months , at least.

I lasted 30 seconds.

So here we are. I am happy, she is deeply pleased, some times life long dreams do come true.

I have given her complete control of "her cock". She has accepted it.
No regrets, even with at least 6 months ahead.........

 

i had a session with some mistresses at the residenz avalon in berlin, a bdsm dungeon where i was constantly kept restrained with chains,handcuffs,legcuffs, sometime gagged and locked into a real prison cell.
since during the night i managed to masturbate even though my hands were cuffed behind my back i was then locked into a metal chastity device, that was my first time.

 

I am old enough to remember what life was like before the internet.....and Before the internet most of this was either taboo or there was little or not information about it. Needless to say .....through the internet we have learned that there are a lot of people who enjoy not only chastity but other life styles.

 

I'd guess I saw the first images of a male wearing a chastiry cage around 2005, maybe? It def sparked my interest. Then the hunt was on! Back then there was 99% less content on almost anything to do with such subject matter. Is it safe? Will it damage my goods? Is it painful?

Not long after I started looking at my local adult shops. Calling the ones across town, popping into the closer ones. Guess it took a few years, but finally! A fetsih shop I called had a variety! I choose the CB 6000s....but that's a different story

 

It was in college.
Regular sex just never 'clicked' - it was fun, and felt good, but lacked purpose.
I linked up with a Mistress who insisted the relationship be on her terms - I was game.
Honor system chastity was much more fun - and felt even better - but it gained purpose.
I started to see the purpose to her efforts - conditioning me to be a better male.
Eventually the kink became a way of life & I took it to my other relationships.
My first wife (7 years total) embraced the power (in part because I dont really think she liked men in general) and found some satisfaction in denying me (as well as some pain points). Its complicated.
My second wife (25 years now) wasn't into the power. She was more supportive because I liked it - but she certainly enjoys my servitude and focus on Her. She has a few basic rules that I must follow. I'll PM you on some of those details.
Ultimately, for me, chasity has become a way to focus my energies towards a non selfish way.

 

So true

I remember seeing pictures of Bette Paige every now and then when I was little.

I thought she was so beautiful I guess it’s why I love women who have long dark hair like she had.

Crush on Bette aside, I used to see ads for the local BDSm group in the free weekly when I worked in DC. That was in the days when you called a number, left a message and someone would call you back. You’d then be given the location of an event.

In my case I was fortunate to be able to go to an event where I met some great welcoming people. I got flogged and made friends.

Personally I have a love hate relationship with Fetlife and to a smaller degree this site although I think CM is going in the right direction and Lucy is making a great effort to run a good site and make it great.

So we have good and bad
Sadly lots of wank fodder that we have to sift through to get to reality.

 

Looking for love in all the wrong places. Lol

 

We just stumbled on it online. At the time, my wife and I had been married for 36 years. We still loved each other very much, but sex had become infrequent and unsatisfying for both of us. We were looking for something new to spice things up, when I came upon another website that discussed male chastity. (now I can't remember which). I showed it to her and she agreed to try it. I got a couple of cheap devices, and we started to realize how much fun it could be. After some trial and error, I am now in an Evolution Bijou, using a frenum piercing and she holds the key. I pleasure her with my mouth/hands/vibrator most nights, and I get unlocked for erection/orgasm every 6-8 weeks. We both love it and have no intention of going back. I'll be locked up for as long as we both live.