how can one tell the KH that cheating is a strong possibility?

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    hello all! i am seeking advice on a thorny issue.

    how does one tell one's KH that its very possible to cheat in chastity by secretively stealing an orgasm or two but feeling very guilty about it and really don't want to cheat like that anyway? i'm not sure what to do... should i be open and honest, describe to my KH the different ways i could do it, or suggest one of the more severe chastities? i know that cheating cheapens the service to the KH and makes me feel my KH is not really in control of me.

    i will welcome any and all suggestions! thanks!!
     
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    hello sissy,

    i recommend NEVER withholding any thoughts, actions or unfortunate mistakes from one's KH . . . EVER. secretes lead to mistrust and disloyalty in a relationship sure to fail. sorry, being harsh i know.

    my mental make up may be odd, but i would never even attempt or consider trying to defeat my chastity i freely gift to my KH. to me it does not make sense. the guilt feelings i would have knowing i have burdened my KH with this tremendous responsibility and then go and disrespect Her like that would crush me and destroy what honesty W/we have.

    i apologize for rambling, but as it is said, honest will always be the best policy.

    best wishes,
     
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    I always tell my Lady what is happening, even if if I do wrong. It is the only way she will keep her respect for me. If she finds me weak she can help me overcome it. If she finds me weak and lying too, she may just give up on me.
     
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    carefully with respect and as soon as possible!

    From my own experience I'd say that guilt and secrets never strengthen any relationship. If you have found a way past your Chastity device, you need to tell your KH and so she can make it more secure. I'd also say that if you have "stolen" a few orgasm you should also confess this to your KH and be prepared to face any consequences she chooses.

    my own experience is that the longer you don't tell your domme about something like this the more damaging it is to your relationship when they find out.

    hope this helps

    dilliom
     
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    renee - I think you already know that sissys are not allowed secrets. It's not good for you to withhold information about yourself to your Mistress. How can She possibly exert total and utter control unless you are open with Her? You do want Her to be in control don't you? I have found that sissys are far more contented when they are like an open book to their Mistress. A Mistress needs to know all the buttons to push for Her gurl. And no button is more powerful than chastity. I do hope that you have not cheated with a unearned cummy.
     
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    sissy,

    ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS tell the truth!

    It's the best policy, who knows, if Mistress is feeling lenient you may get a reward for being a good gurl!

    michelle
    xo
     
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    renee....I think when Lady Carlie reads this post you wont have to worry about how to tell her.......silly girl, you know you have to tell her the truth.

    Mistress Michelle :sex020:
     
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