How can I have balance between married and FLR life?

It is actually $1.85 for a medium Tim Horton's regular, he can save his 15 cents to buy whatever he likes.

 

Your good to me baby.
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I think I could get slaughtered. I imagine the mere concept might insight panic as I know very well how you feel my love. I also know the rollercoaster of emotions as you bend and submit to the extent of my control. Some like you will also be turned on by the idea.
I imagine you calling me and sheepishly asking for a little more money so you can go out to lunch with friends from work. I make the transfer but not giving you too much. I expect you will be hoping your friends go somewhere inexpensive for lunch so you have enough money and your intense embarrassment when you find yourself short. So fun better save those 15 cents a day!!

 

of course far more fun to transfer not quite enough for a full lunch making the need to order from the child menu the only option.

 

Perhaps, you could restate this as; “what can he do for me on days I lack energy?”

Finding balance in a FLR takes time. You might be at a point where you both need to decide what it is you want out of the relationship. Catering exclusively to his fantasies may not be your vision. You being truly in charge, and him doing chores, may not be his vision. Time to find some quiet time, have a glass of wine, and talk it over. Set it up ahead so you both can think it through. This is a good time to get used to communicating about your relationship and sex. You will be talking a lot as your relationship progresses. And, be stronger for it.

There are one or two good books if you are interested. A FLR can be very beneficial for a relationship. You are a special woman that will research and seek out information. Enjoy!

 

Oh yes the possibilities are endless

 

Book names/sources?

 

Start with “Uniquely Rika”. It does the best job of all the books I have read showing how a FLR layers upon an existing relationship. She has written follow up books as well. This not porn pretending to be a guide. I’ve read it four times and pick up something new each time.

The author moderates several discussions on FetLife and is always interesting, if not challenging to follow. She responds to respectful private messages.

 

I will check these out. Thanks

 

Two hardworking people in a loving relationship trying to navigate today's pressures. Yes, you make perfect sense. My thoughts are, you must talk it out, find a happy medium that works for you. In any relationship, it is normal that one person's libido is stronger than the others. My wife and I have swapped over in this regard several times over the years. So it is highly unlikely that partners have identical sex drives for their whole relationship. So therefore it is usual for one person in any given relationship to be slightly frustrated. Couples fight over this, others simply use the self-release method. Self-release can take over and the other partner can feel threatened. Chastity can restore balance, even if the male is frustrated for awhile.

Mornings, you will more likely to have more energy. Going to bed early, making the effort to go upstairs a good hour early, can help. Maybe he can be unlocked and given 20 minutes of freedom.... Maybe the lady can supervise, or even just be the object of his desires in that 20 minutes. You would be surprised how sexy she can be even doing nothing.

Good luck, I am sure you will find what works for you. One final word if I may, work feeds the soul and the belly but life is for living not working; Nobody on their deathbed said "Dang, I wish I spent more time in the office".

 

Yes!!! Work to live don't live to work. Words to live by.

 

I have transitioned from working for large company to private consulting work. It allows me more flexibility in work and more downtime. I do travel when working and that lead as one of our discussion points about chastity and airports. We had a couple of options and this week from input on CM I think I have something better to offer for her review. Igloo lockbox she can give me PIN number random generated for control out of and back locked at airport remotely. Her GPS tracking of my phone can even verify my location. Think she will be pleased.

Your 100% right about work balance.

Thanks

 

Krystine Kellogg make a podcast about my cock cage guide. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/krystines-flr-podcast/id1529833492?i=1000571210960

The guide is posted here:
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It sounds a lot like how my relationship used to be… we’d go through stages of having an amazing time to others when she just wasn’t bothered. I’d try instigate things, complain, push for more. It would make the whole experience very pressured.

I did see that someone asked, however I didn’t see a response. So firstly, get his cock locked up. Even when you’ve done nothing you’re still doing something. If he isn’t, buying one without him knowing would be an excellent way to put him in his place.

But things changed for us when she genuinely took control. And she did it by keeping things very simple. She gave me her rules:
- you don’t ask for anything
- you don’t talk about it
- you do as your told
- you accept immediate rule changes when I say.
That’s basically what we go on these days. Can’t remember exactly what they were initially.

There’s no need for a list of chores. Imagine when he thinks something is going to happen but instead you turn around and say “I’m a bit tired for play tonight, I had all the hoovering and dishes to do tonight” - you’ll never lift a vacuum cleaner or put your hands in dirty dish water again.

If your busy for 10 days etc. Or there’s something else going on in life… he’ll just have to wait. But waiting will make the act far more exciting when it happens.

Plus, he’ll break those rules so many times you’ll have just cause for severe punishments which won’t be routine as he’s earned them.
The severest punishment of anyone seeking this life is indifference. If he continuously breaks the rules “if you want to be in charge. Here’s the key”. He’ll soon apologise.

 

My Wife and I have a vibrant FLR but it's not static. Some months or weeks she's just not 'into it' and she's a tired mom and wife. One that has the final say, all the money, and makes all the rules, but still not 'kinky' or a 'dominatrix'. Other times she is as Dominant as they come, spanking me, pegging me, cucking me, etc. It's all about how She wants to live and I follow her lead.

She has a couple constants that never change- her decisions are Final, and no argument will be tolerated (under pain of physical punishment); she has all control over finances; chastity is perpetual (and I can not expect or ask for release); and she has complete sexual freedom. On the last point I do have veto power, if I'm uncomfortable or have reservations about a situation or person. She looks at that as a couples adventure, where I validate my submission and she demonstrates her Dominance over me. A scene, if you will.

In the end, a FLR isn't complicated or even kinky. It's just a Female in charge.

 

Miss thick, if you are still around to read this, i think you are getting the flr concept wrong. Ok, im not trying to be a smart alect, but it is never burdensome for a woman (if you are one) to practise flr.. he is doing all the work: cooking, washing, cleaning, massaging, oralling… unless your husband is expecting you to do penis inspection, cleaning, washing, being watched over constantly for self indulgence/porn, ass milking and pegging..as being part of flr chores.. i would say give him some slaps across the balls, wake up, take it or leave it.

 

I would take this a step further. He is doing...what you want him to do. It doesn't need to be cooking, washing, etc, if you enjoy that. It doesn't have to be slapping his balls if that doesn't make you comfortable.

It can be asking him to do whatever you like him to do. Spend time, be loving, receive your love, give his, back rubs, snuggle, sit and talk. What brings you joy? What makes you feel connected? It isn't a prescriptive list of activities from a website.

Free your mind that, in this dynamic, you want to fuel his sexual energy by being the sexual goddess you can be to him, and that will have him adoring you and wanting to do whatever you want. Maybe you just want to feel relaxed and loved by him. Go for it. It's yours to have, your way!

 

As others have said it takes a lot of experimenting and it's often surprising what works best for two unique people.

In years of chastity games, I often wanted "sexual teasing" and "emotional teasing" in exchange for being locked in chastity, and my wife wanted more utilitarian chores involved, which I was ok with for only part of it.

I read one book about "make your husband your maid" which didn't resonate with either of us maybe 4 years ago, but recently it came up and she was interested.

OK- So trying different things can be interesting, and the timing and each persons feelings must fit the idea.

So we tried some version of "Sissy maid hard work in chastity, collar and feminine maid uniform", and it somehow motivated me to keep being a super helpful servant for days after, not even in chastity, and she liked teasing me in this work focused role.

So we are playing with daily, weekly, and other household chores, and some are in pretty humiliating uniforms which she helps pick from various clothes. I'm surprised that "sissy maid" turns out to be an entire subculture, but most of that subculture we don't exactly line up with.

Like a "core kink" of mine was bondage and female domination, but then spanking started to make sense to support that, and chastity!, and D/S role play, and after years I finally saw how cuckold role play could even be fun, and finally I saw why SPH clicks for some guys, and finally, now I have experienced how "husband maid" can really play into a lot of the ideas that were always most exciting to me.

But most of these I would have checked a box "not interested in" years ago, (when we played with rope bondage)

We watched a new Netflix show last night where this woman helps people design their perfect "sex rooms", mostly involving BDSM.

Chastity and even maid work don't require a sex room! It's all in the excitement, power exchange, control, headspace, etc.

You won't always know what clicks for your partner or even yourself.

Experiment, communicate, ponder what is fun, and experiment more.
Good luck.

 

To me and madam married is FLR, there is no difference. I do as I am told when I am told and madam has the say in everything we do, every day.
Others may not agree or enjoy this way of life, but I do and all I want is to please and satisfy my madam in every way I can! Making my Madam happy makes me happy! And that’s all I want to do!
Sure if we’re out shopping madam will let me call in Mac Donald’s first and grab a double cheese burger and fries, nothing for her as she is a strict vegan.
But then it’s all about her, and we will go to every shop she wants to go to and get whatever she wants or needs, and I wouldn’t change a thing about it!!