hoping to pluck up the courage to give my wife the key today

All the best!
Following are some suggestions to increase her interest in chastity lifestyle
1. Introduce her to read various relevant posts from this forum
2. Let her read various blogs, experiences and scientific articles
3. Let visit many websites of the cage / belt manufacturers so that she realizes the popularity of this lifestyle
4. Have open and frank discussions with her on this subject
Believe me, once she develops interest, she won't let you free!!

 

I would strongly recommend doing none of the above. For now this needs to be something very private between you and her.
Be totally honest with her about your feelings. Tell her how much it would mean to you if she was to give it a chance and tell her that she may even learn to really like it when she experiences the benefits. Then if she is willing to give it a go...DO NOT pester her or try to manipulate her into to doing any teasing or edging or milking or anything that relates to your own satisfaction. I was most unimpressed when I was first introduced and I think if he had tried to push me down any seedy internet backstreet in the beginning I would never have given it a chance.
That's my honest opinion.

 

Danny, I do agree with sunny that you have a frank discussion with her. It worked for me. I started the discussion by asking if she noticed the difference in me before and after my having an orgasm. She admitted the the pre orgasm husband was much more enjoyable than the post orgasm husband. I then brought up the subject of male chastity and confessed to my almost daily masturbation. I told her that pleasing and adoring her was more important to me than an orgasm and that I would like to be prevented from masturbating with the use of a chastity device. I told her that my love for her never changed whether horny or not but that my ability and willingness to please her with house hold chores, foot rubs, etc diminished after orgasm. She agreed to give it a try and locked me in a cb6000s on Nov 10. She let me out briefly last Friday night and gave me a hand job after which I was immediately was put back in the device. To our amazement, once put back into the device I still felt as willing to please as before the orgasm. Karen (my wife) liked that.
I think a frank and open discussion is the way to go.
One major point....... if she agrees..... do not pester her for sex or attention.... just be a good and obedient husband
Best of luck to you and your lovely wife.

 

I decided to show the CB to my dear Lady on the 3rd day after i got it and abandoned the plans to test around. And i was lucky because She was amazed!

 

I think the fact that she is already aware, and has gone along, is a good start. In my case, my wife knew I'd had an interest in a device for years. After finding one priced reasonably that looked like a good place to start, we ordered one for my last birthday along with probably the mildest book on the topic. The book arrived right away and I gave it to her as we went to bed one night. By dumb luck, the cage itself arrived weeks early, on the date night at a hotel we had planned for my birthday. I put it on, and had her feel it through my pants. Later we went to dinner, and eventually I was undressing in the hotel, with her watching to see it for the first time. I crawled into bed, and she was about as wet as I had ever felt her. We had an amazing evening of sex with me caged the entire time. I presented her with a key on a gold chain at the same time. I was unlocked in the morning, and we went at it in bed again, with amazing results.

Anyway, I went on to experiment with wearing the cage, much as you have. I set up a system where the spare keys are locked in a suitcase with a combination lock. If I need out of the cage in an emergency, I can just text her for the combination. If something bad happened, and my wife could not help me, I could just destroy the suitcase and get the keys. We played around more, and eventually I asked her to lock me in and take her key to work with her. We had some amazing sex again that night - and over the weekend. After that, I gave her the cage, and told her she could lock me away as a precursor to possible sex, or just a desire to keep me thinking of her all day, etc. My lucky day today?! She set the cage out for me to put on after my shower, and checked that I was locked in before going off to work.

So, I guess you could say that we've approached it playfully. I've never pushed for anything, and I'm just enjoying the game as it progresses. We've turned a corner where she is now setting a few expectations, and that is pretty cool by me.

 

Hello Danny,
I took the liberty of deleting your second post since it was a duplicate, I hope that's ok with you.
The honest and frank approach is exactly what I would recommend rather than directing her to the internet for chastity surfing.
As yet there is no Ladies section, however I have already approached Admin in the hope that he might see sense in having one.

 

Hello Danny...
Good luck.... and i would follow Ms Amanda's advice if i were you! The first few days/weeks are most important and you don't want to scare her off! Gently gently.... and with patience...
All i can say is, that having initially self-locked myself for a few weeks...the first discussion with my wife offering her the keys, when she initially thought i was bonkers, was very intense, honest and almost toe-curling....but led to an amazing journey....that is now into its' second year! Go gently..and listen to the likes of Ms Amanda...who led me through my initial excursion into the maze! You will not regret it...i don't!...and want more...
cj

 

i like most of the recommendations so far. I would simply add that during the conversation you might suggest how pleasant and focused you have been on HER lately with your self locking. Because lets face it, your either going to be pleasant and focused on her or selfishly masturbating by yourself. I can't imagine any women who would want the latter.

 

well congratulations for going through with it. Talking about it can be the hardest part but you survived.

 

Good to hear @Danny15 For what it's worth. My wife is a very new key holder, going on three weeks now. I sense she does not want the subject brought up every time I speak to her. She seems to understand that, for me, a little teasing or just plain acknowledging I'm locked now and then is a big help to my desire to be in chastity for her. For example, she sent me a text Monday morning that read "good morning honey, hope you're enjoying your captivity, I am." I texted back that her, "your last two words make the whole experience enjoyable for me." When we spoke on the phone later that day the subject was hardly brought up. She just asked if I was doing OK and didn't want a long conversation about chastity. It's hard for me, as a man, because I'm constantly reminded that i'm chaste by the device I'm wearing but my wife does not want this to consume our entire relationship. I think if I can accept that and not become a chastised pest, she will be my key holder for a long time and enjoy her husband's "new attitude."
I'm by no means an experienced expert on male chastity. Like you and your wife, I'm new at this and for that reason I want to pass along what is or is not working for us. Best of luck to.... Enjoy

 

Sorry to hear that Danny. Your post yesterday seemed so positive. Probably best not to push it. Once again, Good luck.

 

If nothing else it might be best to continue on like you have been. Keep focused on her and being pleasant. If you can't talk about chastity then show her.

 

@Danny15 She is probably experiencing what many vanilla wives think when their hubby springs chastity on them. I have heard one or two ask, "doesn't he find me attractive anymore". you must explain to her and show her that the opposite is the case. Tell her that your member is not being locked away from her, but from you. It is hers, to do with, however she wishes.
Don't expect it to be locked away for long in the early stages.

If you hone up your skills at erotic massages and practise your oral techniques then of course it may stay in it's little prison for much longer.
Who knows, as the weeks and months pass by, you may even hear those immortal words echoing around your head...........
Be care what you wish for.

 

I totally agree with with @ineverknew. Words can kill the act! Quite the opposite with the art of pleasing her. Master her every need to perfection. That is the game changer... - but it might take some time;-)

 

I hate to say it but you seem to have a very selfish attitude right now. Chastity isn't about your device being recognized or even you being teased. Its about your wife and pleasing her. I think this is where alot of us guys get the chastity thing wrong. We kinda go into this hoping to improve our marriage but then dive into selfish wants all about us. Its not about you per say. Its about you as a couple and what you need to do to improve that situation by making her happy. And when she is happy then good things can come back to us in the form of being teased or denied. But first you need to focus on her happiness. At least thats how I think it should work, because I had your attitude when me and my wife started and that didnt work. After some time I realized why it didnt work.