Hopefully now is the time.

Hello. Apologies if this is too long. I thought I would write about what I hope becomes a chastity journey with My amazing wife who I love very much. I can still look at her now and think wow. This first post I will give you some background info which may not be that far off from some of the other posts here that I've read. I'm not very good at saying outloud my inner feelings so it may be good to see it written down. We have been. happily married for nearly 15 years now and soon when I feel the time is right I will approach the subject of chastity with her. It will not come as a complete surprise to her. I have always been a kinky boy and in our earlier days she was happy to go along with lightbbondage play. It was then that I first showed her a chastity device as it intrigued me so I bought one back to play with but that's all it was then, just a toy.

Looking back I was guilty of topping from the bottom, pushing her too far too quickly and not giving her time to realy get into it, If I'm honest I wanted her to be my "Dominatrix wife". This was very selfish of me. After some time I decided to give up kink with her as I thought she didn't like it, I got rid of the toys and off we went full time happy vanilla family.

Over the years I maintained my inner kinks by watching femdom porn in private to visually satisfy myself and worked out regularly at the gym where I would exhaust myself which in turn satisfied my masochistic craving. And that's how I carried on over the years. I gave up the gym recently and went into masturbation overdrive along with heavily watching femdom porn. I reached a point where I had to do something so , I would face my demons head on. I made an appointment to go and see a pro domme. Thankfully I saw sense and politely cancelled. I have never cheated or previously had the urge to so I was deeply ashamed at myself and realised I had lost the ability to communicate.

More recently I started talking to her about how I missed the old kinky stuff we used to get up to and suggested I get some new toys. I was expecting a "Don't be stupid" kind of response but instead she suggested that I get some more. So I did. This time though I kept it mainly to dildos vibrators etc. Then a few weeks later a cane and a cb6000s.

Someone wrote a post on here on how not to introduce chastity. A pity I hadn't discovered CM sooner because typical bloke that I am did exactly that. I put it straight on smallest ring and asked her if she would mind putting the padlock on which she did. It was an amazing feeling lying next to her in bed whilst locked. Sadly I couldn't last the night as it was too tight and things didn't look healthy down there. I took it off and have decided to spend more time experimenting with a device before I re introduce it. I am now also focussing a lot of attention on her needs and pleasures.

 

The day after writing my first update I just came out with it and as casually as I could I said to my wife"Remember that chastity device I bought a while ago, well I'm wearing it now. In fact I have had it on all day as I have been unable to take it off as you had the keys."
I expected a total shock reaction from her but no, she asked where the keys were so I told her. I then went on to tell her how much of a turn on it would be if she were to keep me locked in it and that I wasn't allowed to ask for release. Her reply was
" Hmmm". It was left at that, she didn't ask for a look or anything. So I stayed locked in for 4 days straight. No interest from her and I didn't bring it up. I felt constantly horny, managed to get through the nights though and show her the kind of attention I have never shown before. On the fourth night though it was evident she was after PIV but she played along and said If you want to fuck me you've got 10 seconds to find the keys 10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3. I was tempted to see what would happen if I didn't but I new where they were and I do still wish for this to continue so I didn't dissapoint her, and knew it was important for her to see what she gets out of keeping me locked in. Thankfully I didn't disappoint her and we had a great night. The next morning I locked myself back in. Where I stayed. I have been a lot more considerate and helpful and all I have wanted to do is please her in any which way I can. I have always been naturally submissive to her but more so now. Hoping that this may continue I ordered her a magic wand, in order to extend and heighten her own pleasure and this may be a usefull tool to encourage more extended caging periods. I was released 2 days ago as we were off an a trip but I didn't touch myself. Last night was insane. I thought we should test out the magic wand and my word she loved it. In a 69 position she had two orgasms and gushed over me. Me on the other hand, I couldn't see what she was doing but she must have given me some kind of ruined orgasm and I shot the biggest load of cum I've ever shot but without the usual intense pleasure. As I was coming she started slapping my cock hard and flicking it with her finger telling me I had been a naughty boy. It was amazing. So today I am not locked in chastity. My mature metal rings have arrived so this week will start to measure up. Currently in 1 5/8 Base ring which is nice but I will have to see how it becomes overnight during errections. It was a struggle to get in this ring but it's surprisingly comfy at the moment. Hopefully I won't have to size up. I think the thing is so far is to not make a big deal of chastity and just go with it and see where it takes us.

 

Well not much to report on since my last update. I've spent most of the time uncaged measuring and re measuring as I am going to order a custom steel device. Currently leaning more towards a steelworxx device. My current holytrainer Nano device gets top marks for comfort and descretion, not so for security and requires regular unlocks for washing. I'm looking for a lock and leave device where I am reliant on my wife to be let out. As its early days for both I don't wish to become annoying to her by regularly asking for a key for a daily wash after all I wish her to be on board with this in the long run as my permanent key holder so at present I let myself out for this task which doesn't quite feel Owned or under her complete control which is what I strive for. The magic doxy wand has been a hit and she gets off on it every time. She did report back to me that it's not a very pretty looking thing but she enjoys the results it gives her and she also said that she does still like the feeling of my little penis inside her. The next toy will be a penis mouth gag and a doxy attachment. Today is day 2 locked back in the Holy trainer, this morning we woke up and I was hard inside my cage. As we were close she must have felt it pressing on her, Anyway it didnt seem to bother her, I now get up with her in the mornings and make her a cup of tea and plan my chores for the day whilst she gets ready for work. On her return dinner is in hand.

 

I am currently on my 4th set of being locked in chastity now. Today is my 10th day though I also sleep in it. Does this count as 24/7? Personally I wouldn't say so but it's as near as because other than to wash and also I tried on a new device it has stayed locked onto me 99%of the time. Yes I got a new device which feels amazing but I'm conscious it may appear quite intimidating or full on to her so for now I will put it to one side given that we are still new and in training. The new device is a Looker 2 It's nice and snug and it realy was quite a sensation using the urethra insert. We will continue to use the holy trainer for now. I have no idea when I will be allowed out. Even though I have had access to my penis for reasons mentioned above I have remained committed. My last orgasm was ruined by her on 24th August and I have not had one since which will be a record for me. Despite this I have sexually satisfied her on two occasions whilst remaining locked in chastity. I think she liked it, I know I did.

I have noticed changes in me. I realy do enjoy doing the chores such as ironing, washing cooking, cleaning, washing her car, decorating, it doesn't realy matter anymore what the job is. She does still give me a daily list of jobs to do which is how it has always been but now I am going above and beyond rather than leave them all to the last minute and doing the bare minimum by rushing them.

I've started to get myself in shape so that I look good for her and have started jump roping as a means of cardio exercise. I do it in just my pants, device and trainers. she finds this hilarious. This would be even more funny dressed up as a maid butI l will keep that as just a thought for now. She took a photo of me to record my weight loss progress and commented on how she could see my training device through my underpants. I took this opportunity to remind her that it won't ever come of without her permission to which she replied "Well it won't be any time soon" This was a bit of a wow moment for me.

There hasaalso been some changes in mywwife that I have noticed such as the odd flash of verbal dominance and hand gestures. She is now accepting of seeing me naked but for the device. She doesn't mind being close in bed knowing my throbbing cock is locked in a cage and at times presses on her. A few days ago she slipped her hand between my legs from behind and held my heavy cum filled balls for a few seconds and slapped my bum a few times making me so horny and then she told me not to get any ideas. She told me to sit on the chair opposite whilst naked and she was fully clothed. She was just watching me but we were talking about normal daily things. This progressed two nights later to me being naked beneath her feet which she rested on my chest. And occasionally placed on my face whilst again we talked about everyday things.

So I think it's fair to say we are making steady progress. I am loving this journey and glad that finally I have done something about it.

 

I mentioned a PA a few weeks ago as we happened to walk past a studio on our trip. I didn't explain it's use in chastity but I asked her if she would have a problem if I ever got one. She told me she wouldn't but also that I wouldn't dare have one done. I missed an opportunity there to press on with the conversation. Truth is I would but as its early days its something I can bring up again. Idealy she will tell me to get one rather than me just going to get one

 

I am most definitely aware now of a change in my wife's dominance and power. The innitial shock of seeing me locked in the device Is gone and I think she understands that she is in charge of my orgasms and that so far I have remained committed.

She has noticed that my domestic work rate has increased dramatically allowing her more time to spend as she wishes. I am still learning though and she hasn't been shy about pointing out a few of my errors or chores that were not done to her satisfaction. She is starting to tell me rather than ask me. Not doing a good enough job of the bathroom was met with a threat of a longer period of time without an orgasm. For me in a short space of time this has developed quite quickly, I don't think she is familiar with the term FLR but hopefully this is where we are going.

I have learned that I do enjoy an orgasm and at the two week point I was at my most submissive to the point she came into her own. Teasing me and denying me. She has realised the power she has over me at this point.

She made put on a show for her the other night. This was a night I was sure she was going to be after PIV. With nice Music on and candles I poured her a glass of wine and stripped off under her instruction. Just my cage left on. I was told to seductively dance for her. She enjoyed this and laughed at my attempts to dance sesuctivley. Afterwards I massages her body and waited patiently for her to tell me that I can remove my cage but it didn't happen. I had been teased.

When the night finally came that I was going to be allowed out for PIV it went like this. She said "your going to fuck me tonight and if you don't do a very good job we will have to think about keeping you locked in that for an even longer time"Powerfull words I was blown away. Again she requested a massage before I was let out my cage, I couldn't resist but to touch her and kiss her pussy whilst I was supposed to be massaging her I was just so turned on and horny "That's not my legs is it" That's not my back is it " said whilst I cheekily strayed from task. She started adding time onto my next lock up and threatened it would be a very long time for an orgasm for me if I didn't do as I was told. she then attached her new heavy duty nipple clamps to me. And a firm tug of the chain was given. She unlocked me and pulled the chain guiding me closer to her and into her. It was an amazing feeling. She was so dominant and in charge of the situation. The clamps were extremely tight and painful nottthe cheap rubbish ones. I wasn't thinking about the pleasure in my Cock any more just totally focused on her and the pain biting into my nipples. Tight pulls of the nipple clamps were followed by some hard face slaps which I loved. I was totally submissive and dominated by her verbally physically and mentally which for me was more of a turn on than actually fucking her. I have never seen her like this before ever and I fucking loved it. I was allowed to come and as I had not had any release for some time prior I came like never before. Pounding her hard for what seemed like a long time emptying my balls into her and she came too, it was perfect. Afterwards feeling pleased with my sexual performance as I was nervous about PIV in the event I didn't last. I asked her if she enjoyed it to which she replied " It was good, but I think you could do better" just to reaffirm her dominance over me. I was told I could go back in my cage the following day where I am now.

 

So far an uneventful week. 5 days locked back in chastity and still I remain commited. She has this week given me a fitness regime to follow which I have been doing. Altogether I think this has been a 5 or 6 week chastity journey and I would like it to continue.
I find whilst locked in and particularly when I'm feeling horny through out the day I am like a machine at doing my chores as it helps me forget about cuming. My wife has commented now several times at how impressed she is and this morning she said it was like having a new husband. I do hope she links this behaviour to being locked in chastity and her having control over me. I have not yet tested her commitment to this by asking to be let out. I wonder if I should or should I stay quite and carry on, my hope is that if I asked and without very good reason she would say No.

We are actually closer now and embrace more when in bed together, these moments confuse me as I feel I am having to re learn her signals as at times I'm sure she wants to be fucked. Last night I was extremely horny whilst embraced with her. We are face to face lip to lip but not kissing and I can feel her fingernails running over my face cheek, from my breathing she must have known I was horny and she too was breathing in what I can only describe as erotically, I thought she was inviting me for more. I took it upon myself to try and go down on her and kissed her a few times down there. I clearly miss read the situation as she then rolled over away from me, Denied. I could feel some pre cum dribbling out my cage but I do wonder if this is her way of teasing me or if I am just being a pain but this kind of thing has happened a few times now. Kind of like you can touch me but that's it.

I do not yet know whether to discuss this more fully with her as there's lots of things racing in my mind like punishments FLR and lots more. I do believe so far she is into this but I don't want to be forcing the way ahead and rushing things so I will continue to take it slowly leave it and see where it goes on its own.

 

An unexpected release:

Last night whilst at work I received a text message from my wife. It said that I had been a very good boy this week and had completed all my tasks to a high standard. Tonight is reward night for you so don't be late. A selfie photo was attached of her lay on our bed wearing extremely sexy lingerie with the key to her penis on show. I was straining in my device on seeing this and couldn't wait to get home.

So there she was sitting in her lingerie, some candles had been lit and a heavy scent of her perfume in the air sipping a glass of wine and in her other hand playing, twisting, spinning the chastity key. I asked her if she was letting me out, "possibly" she said. I was to get naked and kneel down in front of her and lick her pussy. Whilst doing so she told me that she likes her new husband and that his behaviour is to continue so we will be continuing with our chastity journey if this is the results she can expect. She confirmed that she would be keeping hold of the key and her penis will only come out when she wants it. And it was made clear tonight she wanted to be fucked yet this was also a special treat for me. For now I was to continue licking her pussy until she had an orgasm to which I delivered.

She stood up and instructed me to sit down. She poured me a glass of wine and straddled me rubbing her pussy gently over the cage pleasuring herself with small slow gluides over it. She said "Take your time with that and when you have finished I'm going to let you out so you can fuck me" she was getting off on rubbing herself over the cage and I was frustrated and numb locked tightly inside. She takes the glass off me and then proceeds to unlock me herself. I twist the ring around so the pins are out the way of her. I had a slow start. Her dominance had made me nervous and I felt pressured to perform and for a breif period I didn't think I was going to get it up and was panicked. After some sensual touching and foreplay rolling a around on the fluffy rug eventually I was super stiff. I entered her and she instructed me as to how she wanted it and I followed. She had two further orgasms and surprisingly I felt that I could have just kept going and going. It crossed my mind that I may not cum tonight. I was instructed to up my pace and fuck her harder. I was maintaining this strong hard erection and sure enough eventually I exploded inside her with a prolonged intense orgasm and with impeccable timing ensuring she that she was also satisfied. She told me she was glad that I hadn't disappointed her.

Afterwards we talked some more of our chastity journey and a few ideas. I was to stay unlocked overnight and put myself back in the following day and return the key to her purse.

 

Pleasure in denial:

Mrs.......was in the shower last night just before bedtime. I was waiting on my knees outside the door hoping she would allow me to kiss her pussy. All day I had been thinking about how much I enjoy going down on her and how much I love her pussy. She opened the door and looked down at me I looked up and politely asked permission to kiss her pussy. She walked past me, sat on the bed and opened her legs. She smirked as she saw me struggling to hide my discomfort from the erection inside my cage. "Well seeing as you have been a good boy this week yes you have permission". She leaned forward and pulled my head into her and I started my duty to pleasure her. As I did so she wes telling me how pleased she is with the changes she has seen in me but pointed out there is always room for improvement mentioning a few examples to me. At that point I had to tell her that I had been quite naughty. She took control of my head and made me look up at her and explain myself.
I told her that I had tried on a pair of her knickers earlier in the week.
She looked at me and gave me a firm face slap. She wasn't shocked like I thought she would be, instead she insisted that I should have asked permission followed by another face slap. "Do you understand" she repeated and another slap. I thanked her for the slaps, it was overwhelming to be under her authority and the flood gates had opened now as she was finding other extremely little reasons to carry on. Another slap and I was flustered and couldn't think to answer her questioning. It was made clear that was the end of me kissing her pussy and I was to get out the Doxy wand and attach the G spot attachment. I was told to make her orgasm with the wand and as further punishment I was not to touch her. It was one of the most amazing experiences to take a step back and watch her entire naked body move as she orgasms. Whilst incredibly frustrating to have my hard cock caged and so close. Afterwards I thanked her and appologised for my misdemeanors. "Good now turn the light off" was her reply. I told her I loved her and she she told me the same back. That was it.

 

Humiliation of sorts:

My wife and I attended a major sporting event. At half time I was desperate to use the toilet. Now the majority of public toilets at our sporting arenas are fairly cesspit like and these were no different so I off I trott to the toilet along with half the stadium who have the same idea. Unfortunately for me I'm still locked in chastity so I have to use the cubicle for a sitdown pee. When I eventually get to the cubicle it is the most disgusting shitty pissy loo you have ever seen, furthermore the locks on the door had been smashed off. I had no choice, down I squat trying to make no skin contact with the seat, concentrate on peeing in the bowl and not over onto my jeans whilst trying to lean forward and hold the door shut. I must have been quite a site and I could here the stampede around me and all the while dreading that someone is going to barge there way in and see me like this. Fortunately I survived and made my way back to my seat. My wife smiling at me as she saw me making my way back. "What took you so long" she said with a knowing smirk.

 

Control, Authority and discipline:

At the two week point without climax but I'm feeling so horny again. I noticed this last time around and I do find it hard to concentrate at times. So anyway.

Control, Authority, Discipline. These three things are what I crave in my relationship with my wife. I guess tha fact that she is engaging with chastity and has the key and is happy to unlock me shows the Control is always there and that feels amazing. The authority is certainly there during our moments of passion as described in posts above but not so much in the day to day life when mixed in with vanilla life. Or even non passionate evenings although I do sometimes sit under her on the floor and she puts her feet on me and we can spend the evening talking with her looking down at me.

I'm not quite sure how to approach discipline. You would think that having navigated the innitial part of putting a cage on your cock the rest would be easy.

I wrote her an email 3 days ago. I thought it would be a good idea to write a type of FLR contract to try and get out my feelings on where I would like us to go with this and open her mind on what it's all about. She doesn't even know what FLR is to my knowledge but I hoped it might prompt her to research and find out. I kept it simple and made sure that I mentioned the discipline aspect. She hasn't spoken about the email to me yet and I'm not quite sure if I should bring it up again in case it was too much. She has received it as I couldn't help myself but ask but she said she was very busy when she received it and didn't get the chance to read it properly.

We've come pretty far the past nearly 8 weeks now, It's still all relatively new to us but I know this has changed me for the better. And she is happy to continue with the chastity or control aspect.

 

Am I being over eager to rush things as I realy do long for physical punishment. I've made two less than subtle attempts to try and bring this up. The second attempt went a bit like this:

I waited in the bedroom outside the shower door naked, chaste and on my kness with a cane presented in my outstretched hands. She looks down at me sharply . I look up and stumble my words.

"I've made a few errors" unfortunately I didn't get the chance to finish.

"What are you doing" said quite firmly and with a look of disgust. Followed by quite a strict
"Get in bed" So I did as I was told and that was it.

I'm wondering is she just not interested in punishment? but then that can't possibly be because she does dish it out during PIV with face slapping, nipple clamps and verbals etc, she has whipped me whilst I am fucking her and has wrapped a belt around my neck like a leash. All my experiences of punishment have been during PIV which since starting chastity 8 weeks ago has happened 4 times.

Or is this her showing her dominance in another way?

 

Hi yes that would be accurate.

 

I think sometimes I just need it spelling out to me or to get another's perspective. Could this be her way of training me?

 

Thanks for pointing this out. I shouldn't have done it. Your right so I will chill my beans and let it go at her pace.

 

It has to be on her terms.

 

Strange, Since the cane episode I've pretty much been left caged yet everything seemed to be more vanilla, I've certainly felt more ignored. I know she didn't like this incident along with another whereby I have tried to force a situation and after some advice on CM I can totally understand why.

Last night after 3 weeks caged and no orgasm we had PIV which was initiated by her, mostly she used the doxy and pleasured herself until I was told to go downstairs and get the key and unlock myself so I could enter for a short period at the end. I could hear her getting off whilst I was out the room and it felt quite strange to hear her enjoyment without me being in there with her. I suspect she probably got more pleasure from this than my short entry at the end.

Since Chastity she has become extremely dominant during PIV but not last night and something else I've realised which maybe sound strange to some but I have noticed we communicate better when she is dominant. Previously during this PIV dominance she has told me or it is discussed when I will lock back up, usually the next morning. Last night was more intimate PIV and I was of course happy to go along yet we did not discuss the next lock up or anything else for that matter.

So today Loktober I am uncaged and was wondering if I should Self lock or wait. In the end I have decided to wait.