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    Saturday morning woke to some sexy tease and denial with @BR_Saiph. The session ended with him in a great mood and a great head space. We picked things up this morning however sexy play ended in full piv orgasm. BR has spent the morning fighting a grumpy mood. No doubt I will spend the next day or two getting him back to that zen headspace. Regrets!!
     
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    I feel your pain girl!!! My hubby and i DO NOT do the “lock his ass up and deny him for a year” thing that’s so popular here. We enjoy giving each other pleasure but i definitely enjoy denying him and so does he. When it’s been a couple weeks and i let him have one i ALMOST ALWAYS regret it. The attention to details disappears, the disciplined good boy that enjoys serving me definitely disappears. What to do.....
     
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    Ah, the 'ol cum drop.

    As much as the good sub in me councels to embrace the cruel tortuous embrace of the cold steel yet again, and all it implies, I admit I have struggled today.
    There is a primal part of me that rails against the all too quickly lost abandon of the free for all thrust and subsequent reward.

    Nothing is free, and when I again reach that inner sanctum of denial, that place that can only be found through commitment to Her, I will be proud of myself and what We achieve together.

    That's what I'm hangin' onto boys, can't wait to get there!

    (P.S., and YES, it was worth it!)
     
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    Learn from your mistakes :)
     
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    I'm with you, I like intercourse both giving and receiving pleasure. Denial is certainly fun but I want more. For us it's more about the control. It sure is a delicate balancing act though maintaining that submission. I did however threaten to beat it back into him this evening. We will see...
     
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    That works!! But if yours loves it like mine then it’s not much of a punishment Lol!
     
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    I hate the orgasm blues after being given such a wonderful gift. It’s amazing how much of the submissive behavior we try to exhibit goes right out the window when that full O happens. Being aware that it’s going to happen and trying to fight it is the best thing but sometimes the chemistry in the brain wins out and I can be kind of a grump. You’d think us guys would be more proactive to try to combat this behavior, I’m sure many of us men have earned ourselves permanently longer lockup’s so our KH’s don’t have to deal with this sub drop as often.
     
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    And he does
     
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    This may be one of the best threads on CM

    Thanks ladies!
     
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    Anytime cowboy :)
     
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    Have the post orgasm blues. For some reason it's even worse after a longer lockup time. If it was ruined or a very fast one it's little different. Worse is the day after start to crave more orgasms
     
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    There is always something he doesn't like, or way too much of what he does. The sooner the better.
     
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    It is a paradox that we all struggle with. Just have to learn to focus on enjoying the journey, I guess.
     
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    This is why I am not permitted penile orgasms any more!
     
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    The great thing about numbing cream is that everyone gets the benefits of a great PIV session but he won’t be able to quite hit the peak for an orgasm.
     
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    An excursion like this serves as a good reminder why you prefer him caged, horny, and submissive. Take it and use it as a good teaching tool for him. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    Yes it certainly is a good reminder. They're more fun when they're hot and willing
     
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    For whatever it's worth, W/we went through the post orgasm weirdness. Over the last year or so it has changed for a few reasons. It takes a bit of work, but here's what W/we found as useful:

    1. My orgasm is not the end of play or being Mistress and sub. It is merely an activity in it and She routinely will have an orgasm afterwards / tease me back to arousal, because it's just a part of it (not the end of it!).

    2. My orgasm happened because She wanted it to, and by doing so, I pleased Her by doing so. There is no regret because it was what She wanted. Orgasms are something to be desired for me and Mistress enjoys the process of giving me one.

    3. Snugs afterwards. I am the little spoon :) That time is really important to just decompress and relax into each other.

    4. As a sub, it was up to me refocus my efforts immediately afterwards. I really wrapped my mind around that this was what She wanted, and my orgasm was just one activity that marked exactly nothing. That I could be the same sub afterwards and She could be the same Domme. This usually means a couple small things in my behalf (doing dishes, making dinner, crafting a cocktail) and a couple small things on Her behalf (bossing me around, making me get right back in the belt, wearing cute pjs to bed).

    I have no doubt that there are biological reasons for "sub drop," but they can be defeated with some conditioning and a mental reset.
     
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    Absolutely agree with this. We too have learned over time to work through the cum drop or sub drop as you put it. My BR is granted release because I want us to share that sometimes regardless of the potential negative effects afterward. Routine I find is important to condition his behaviour back to that perfect headspace. He is always recaged and often cleans his mess in a effort to regain that zen. My BR is usually able to deal with the drop while shielding me from his mood. I must say this weekend was particularly difficult for him for whatever reason. I did however get a giggle from his struggle. Love the struggle!
     
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    My Wife will usually edge me for an hour or so and then give me a totally ruined orgasm, and then stimulate me painfully for a while after. I’ll bring her to orgasm several times with my mouth and fingers over the next couple of hours until I can get hard enough for piv, the ruin’s purpose was so I don’t cum too soon. Also, I don’t get such a drop and I really don’t rail against being locked up again.... but that’s just us
     
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    My wife was also in the same regret mood after I was granted a release. We tried a few things and found that her requiring me consume my load right after I came has worked wonders. It's the very last thing I want to do and has helped snapped me back from a few days of sub drop to minutes.
    The other thing she does is to require me to put my belt back on right away. Again, the last thing I want to do.

    For us, those two acts have worked wonders. Any guy will tell you that eating his load or going back into his cage is at the very bottom of the list after his release.

    I now know IF I'm allowed a release from my wife what I'll be doing the second I have cum.
     
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    Both are very submissive things, so makes sense to get you to do them
     
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    my (vanilla) Goddess took ownership of my keys 2 weeks ago in an effort to curb my masturbation, we are trying to get pregnant and i’ve not been able to supply the required goods, i’m due for release in 16 days to fall on her ovulation date, it has taken quite some persuading for her to accept my chastity and even more to accept the keys, and i know i’m going to have to work hard to fight the drop. i hope to god i don’t screw things up.
     
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    Yeah, she's going to unlock you and use you a few times in a row then. You're going to have a rough drop! Just make sure there's plenty of lawn work or other things to keep you occupied afterwards! Lol
     
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    i’ll be heading back to work on the saturday morning after (the totally unheard of) 2nd round. i’m usually busy work wise and so we don’t get much chance to talk, i’ll just have to keep occupied and focused. it’ll be locked again until her next ovulation date, or if we hit the jackpot first time it will be indefinite.
     
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