His Kink...Making it Ours

Btw, it helps if you limit fluid intake in the evening. Hydrate well earlier and only sips to wet your mouth in the evening.

 

This is huge. I sleep with a fairly tight ring for my size. I used to always drink a large cup of water at bedtime. Now I make myself drink water throughout the day and cut myself off after 7. I only take a small glass up and drink it if im really thirsty over night (usally due to CBD edibles). Speaking of edibles, I feel lile CBD helps me sleep as well.

On the other hand, is the hubby staying up and looking at chastity mansion or other adult-ish things on his phone when he should be rubbing your feet ? My wife will take away my phone if I don't sleep well for a few days, which seems to help greatly as well.

 

A quick update from my side..

As @Spades mentioned I went through a period of frustration, however I do not relate it at all to the amount of time I have been in my cage or since my last orgasm. Neither of those have been on my mind as I am enjoying providing the pleasure for my wife. Even before our journey with chastity started I have always gotten my pleasure through hers.

My frustrations the other day were related to lack of sleep and some other issue's with my device. Sleep has not gotten any better yet, outside of the 1 or 2 times that I have only had to get up twice. I also have some chaffing that I am working on healing now that has provided a mild, but constant pain.

I also have some frustrations related to feeling sort of like I am not doing my part here. We only currently have 2 rules that I must follow, both of which, are very easy rules. Two times though, during this lock up, my KH has subtly mentioned that I am not doing the things that she wants. She has also mentioned that she has more things that she wants out of this but refuses to talk about it now, as the time isn't right and she wants this entire process to come organically for us. While I understand that, it makes it difficult for me because we agreed, when we started this, that this must be as much about her as it is me. Anyway, we had a good conversation about all of this yesterday where I explained that the comments about me not doing the things that she wants (without knowing what that is) is kind of "taking the wind out of my sails". I believe she understood and hopefully we are moving past that.

I have ordered a custom base ring from MCN to hopefully alleviate some of the device issues. That should arrive in the next couple days.

Hope everyone is dealing with our current pandemic as well as you can and staying healthy. Will update again soon!

 

A sixteenth of an inch...

My custom sized base ring arrived. I had them make it a sixteenth of an inch larger then my last one, as I did not want it to end up too big. I am amazed at how much of a difference such a small change can make. The small constant pain is completely gone and night time erections are much better, not completely gone but better. I currently am only getting up one or two times a night, which is a huge improvement from the 4-6 with my last ring.

Also, as my wife mentioned, we ordered a strap on. She had asked on CM and did some research here on which one to get. I had done my research as well and ultimately we went with one that was never brought up in discussion, as to being good for a man to wear with a cage on. We chose a Doc Johnson harness that came with a vac u lock adapter and 3 dildo's. We chose this one because they are the ultraskyn line (she wanted realistic feel) and the variety of sizes.

I've never worn a strap on, nor has my wife been on the recieving end of one. The whole process of researching and ordering one was incredibly exciting for me. Everytime I thought about it my dick would immediately begin trying to break out of its cage. The kit came a few days ago and my excitement grew even more but began to mix with some worry. What if it doesn't work out well? What if she doesn't like it? The worry faded quickly.

Later that evening, after warming her up and giving her an O with my fingers and mouth she told me to get the strap on out and picked which of the three dildo's she wanted to use. I believe her first O came within the first 30 seconds with the second one shortly after. I lost count of how many she had that night, but at one point she stopped, looked at me in the eyes and "you can't feel anything" almost like she had forgotten. I think this turned her on more and made the rest of the night even more intense for her. Last night we used the strap on again, and even though I didn't think it possible, it was even better then the first night.

My thoughts on the strap on. Its amazing, simply put. I've always told my wife that I receive my pleasure through hers and her O's with the strap on are incredibly intense and plentiful. Its bigger then I am, it has more stamina then I do and the look on her face while she is riding it is something I can't even describe. If anyone else has considered one and is on the fence about it I highly recomend it.

Last night, after the strap on play, my wife released me and allowed PIV sex. I hadn't had a full orgasm, out of my cage, in about a month and a half. One orgasm in my cage and one ruined orgasm out. It felt great to be allowed in and I'm thankful for the opportunity as after the night we had already had I knew that my wife didn't need (or probably want) anymore. My O, after such a long time, was likely the best I have ever had.

This morning I got a text that read, something along the lines of, "denying you for so long and seeing how it made you react to being allowed inside of me is worth every ounce of me being unsure of what the heck we are actually doing. Last night made things much clearer for me". I am not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing for me, but I am up for the challenge.

We are still new to all of this being nearly at the 2 month mark. We have had a lot of ups, a couple downs. We have had a lot of discussions or conversations and made many advances already. We are having fun and our intimacy has improved dramatically. She is becoming increasingly active with teasing, and denying. She has said that she has no desire for this to end and doesn't want me to be uncaged, at least in the near future. We don't discuss much beyond the "near future" yet because we are so new to this and who really knows what the long term holds.

What started as my kink is now our kink.

 

Looks like it's going way better than both of you could of imagined.

 

My wife loves the attention and now wants me locked all the time. She said she wished she knew about chastity years ago. She enjoys wearing the key and planning her next session.

 

@Spades @Locked4Her215 : what a great experience and from what I've read so far; it has give your relation a whole new dimension. Have a fantastic time .

 

The sudden realization of these things can be an amazing thing! Mental chastity can be experience from both sides of a relationship. For him - being the one that can now pleasure her with (fake) PIV while being denied in this way, feeling nothing physically. From early on, this has been on my bucket list! And for her, being able to enjoy the PIV and realizing that she gets to enjoy this while he can't even feel it, also while she is being able to experience different, 'men', with the varieties of attachments possible. Some can see this, others can't. Almost like he's cucolding himself?
Hopefully you two will have a lot of fun with this new experience!

 

Spades, thanks very much for posting this.

This is exactly the same situation as with me and my wife/KH. I am currently in 24/7 lockup, no releases at all in over 6 weeks and counting. After the first couple of weeks my wife began missing penetration via PIV sex. So she bought a strap-on and now orders me to use it on her every night (usually several times a night). First experience with a strap-on for either of us. This has proven to be a real turn-on for both of us. The last couple of times she has even tied my hands behind my back while I use it on her so I can get no pleasure from touching her. She is totally in control and gets her orgasms while I am able to feel nothing.

Also, the dildo we are using in this strap-on is a lot bigger than my own cock both in length and girth. She now says she likes it much better and it gives her more satisfaction than the "real thing" ever did. Which means she is even less likely to release me from my cage anytime in the foreseeable future.

 

Good luck getting back in the groove. When he's locked, it needs to be all about you. When he tries to top, just tell him no and tell him what you want. You go girl.

 

Thanks for sharing this. Mistress and I are also classified as essential, we are somewhat older so there are no kids around yet all this crap has impacted mistress somewhat more than it has me.

She tried to make an effort and indeed when we do play and it makes us both feel better, but I can understand having kids at home while you try and work.

We will all be relieved to get our life back, and get back to the fun things in life.

So glad to hear the larger ring is working our for you, the looker 2 has a quite a fat ring and its bent ergonomically, and is far better than the mature metal devices that generally have a thinner ring (they may have resolved that by now)

Mistress is however keeping me locked lol for the most part anyway

 

Feeling seen! My wife knows that I enjoy being locked up, so it makes for a tricky line where, even though it's completely her prerogative, it can be easier to leave me locked, even when she really wants PIV (which isn't fair to her). She wants me to be happy, but shouldn't have to make herself unhappy in the process. Talking through it helps, but while it's easy for me to say 'unlock me whenever you want', that doesn't magically cut through everything going on in her headspace.

 

In my own experience with some holders, sometimes it's enough of a 'thrill' to be in chastity with the support of a partner. The difficult part of having this in your situation is determining what to do with that key... Perhaps settling on being the holder of his key and not the rest of the stuff may be an option? Perhaps just holding on to it and having him ask for it whenever he feels like he wants to use it? IDK... He obviously is enjoying his chastity but would most likely feel a bit of a thrill if you were still possessive over the key, even if you let him borrow it freely? I can understand how even this can be too much for some, but maybe it's something worth playing with....

 

There is more than one option for enjoying intercourse without unlocking him!

 

Mrs Chaste much prefers my tongue and her strap on! Never would have believed it possible. I think it may be the fact that she has 3 or 4 orgasms at a time! Something that didn't happen before! . When she does "let me in" I don't last very long, so she makes sure that she is satisfied first! Fast approaching a year of "no entry" now!