Hi everyone, I'm new to chastity and to the Mansion

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    Hi everyone, I am new to the Mansion and new to chastity. My wife (and key holder) & I decided that male chastity is what was needed to end my overactive masturbation habit. I was ignoring the needs of my wife and putting myself first, I admit that. Everything changed just a few days ago, May 1st 2017 was my first day in chastity. At this point I am in forced chastity, so its 24/7. I am learning that my key holders needs come first, I am her sub. We are also working on our relationship becoming female led. I will be posting a question I have about my chastity device over in "The Mall" CB Range, if interested please head over there and see if you can help me.
     
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    heloo @Her sub Don and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well.
     
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    Thank you @jemima !
     
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    Vinny Locked up again. Starting year 6.

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    Welcome. A word of advice from someone who has successfully done this for years, take baby steps. First off get used to wearing your device gradually over a period of weeks and months. If you try to go 24/7 without letting your skin get used to wearing a device, you will have pain and have to take it off for days to heal.

    Do not try to do too much at one time. Chastity with FLR is a lot of stuff to try to do at one time. Best to do one first and then the other. I failed the first three times by overwhelming my wife with too much at once. Only when we stuck to just chastity first and then our other fetishes later, did it work for us.

    There is a big difference between fantasy chastity and real life chastity. I am sure that you are smart enough to tell the difference when you read it, so do not be lead down a path that leads to failure.

    P.S. - There is no such thing as forced chastity in the real world. We choose to be locked up. No one forces us since that would be illegal. If you do not consent to chastity, it is not going to work in the long time, at least not in real life. You need to work with your wife to accomplish mutual goals. If your wife has to force you to do anything, being a Keyholder will become a job for her. Few women outside of porn want to become a warden for their husbands. Make it easy for her and decide together what your goals at and you have a good shot at making it work. Have fun with it and do not treat it as being forced into it. I am sure that you asked for this because only in porn does the women force the guy into chastity. :)

    Do it your way and you will both enjoy it. Welcome and keep us posted as to your progress. There are no rule books so make chastity your own to ensure success. I started out because of excessive masturbation. My wife and I work together at it and as a result we have been doing this for a long time. We all know that we can masturbate while locked up in several different ways so do not count on your KH to prevent that. A chastity device is easily overcome by a vibrator held to it or a stick stuck through an opening. You need to want to be chaste because in reality, you can orgasm whenever you want, locked or not. Hope you make it and hope my experience can help a little bit. Many more fail at chastity than make it, at least outside of fantasyland. Make it fun and easy for your KH and cooperate with her and things should work out great for you. A FLR is one of the larger fetishes that use chastity and if you are not an alpha male, think women are superior and want your wife to dominate you, a FLR is a good way to go in a marriage. A few here are doing just that. I think we also have a few cuckolds, something I did when I was 19 and then never again. :)
     
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    Hello and a very warm welcome ,
    As others have said , don't try to do too much at once ,take your time to build things up .
    Looking forward to seeing your journey
     
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    Thank you @manintyres ! I feel welcome already from the great support I have gotten here at the Mansion!
     
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    Thank you again @Vinny ! You offer excellent advice. You are so right about this being mutual in regards to goals and you other points as well. We have both done some reading about the FLR. We are both type "A" personalties which could have spelled disaster, but after being together for 27 years we have been working together in concert for years. She has always been a bit more bossy then me, she has always taken care of the household finances, our schedules, and even chooses where and we go out to eat. When she wants my opinion about something she will ask me, I rarely offer my opinion. So she is now adding in the sexual aspects of a FLR, which I have agreed to. We are still in our infant stages of this, but we are taking it slow and so far she is accepting and willing. In just a few short days I have already been "put in my place" both around the home and in the bed. Exciting times for us!! I will keep you all posted. Thank you again for all of your advice!
     
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