Just a short hello I’m pretty new to this world, I had a very short introduction to it 10 years ago during bondage play with a ex but it was never more than 30 minutes a couple of times and just part of a seemingly endless exposure to the bondage devices and play (part of me misses those days :0) I stumbled across Chasity again during one of my many sessions watching and masturbating to porn (I have a bit of an addiction to it). I was instantly aroused by the submission and control side of it, I get turned on knowing I’m turning on my partner, I must also admit I was surprised I was also aroused by sissy’s and their little caged cocks, got to be honest that bit surprised me as I love women and men’s body’s do nothing for me (but sissy had me getting a confused bonner (0: so I did what I always did and wanked over it letting my clock decide. I’m married but my wife isn’t as sexually open as I am so I haven’t really spoken to her other than the odd comment about liking the thought of it to see her reaction (afraid there wasn’t much of one). I want to get into chastity more to help me control my poem addiction but also to make me more submissive to her, by day I’m a manager and consultant so I’m the boss, so submission to me is very intimate and chastity embodies that submission by handing control of the thing that makes males what they are. At the moment I work away a lot so if my wife doesn’t actively take part I will try self chastity, well I’ll try as I may need to work on my will power (0: I’m used to pleasuring myself as I like to the inevitable release. Any advice for someone new to this world would be welcome, for a start what device is good for a starter? Jay PS, sorry if that wasn’t as short as planned PPS, there are some incredibly sexy pictures of both mistresses and their slaves Thanks for letting me into your world
Welcome to our community. There are a lot of informative threads on the site about issues that could relate to you. I self lock under a similar situation as you and it can be both useful to modifying behaviors and stimulating in new ways. Good luck finding what works for you.
Thank you for the encouragement, it’s nice to know there are people I can speak to and learn from, as well as enjoy looking at (0:
Hi and welcome to the Mansion, a good starter cage is in my opinion a CB6000 its the cage I started with and still use regularly and can be bought fairly cheaply, another good option is the holy trainer. Just remember the cage is only half the equation the other half being willpower. The cage is there to remind you not to touch or play with it, I would start with a couple of hours at a time to get used to it then work up to a couple of days, the first night is always the hardest in my opinion as you will be woken when you get a nocturnal erection. Then gradually up the time your in the cage.
Thank you, I have been looking at the CB6000 as I’m sure that’s what my ex had used on me before (over 10 years ago hence the think :0), I think the will power will be my problem, I like to cum and I know I struggle to not masturbate. I’m hoping the presence of the cage will help me control the need to masturbate (I hope :0) Thanks again
I started with the CB-6000S, as the number of rings and spacers allowed for customization. Unfortunately, the ring's square cross section, the crescent shaped gap between the ring and tube, and overall size wasn't comfortable for long term wear. So I view the CB-6000S most useful in helping to determine what size of cage and ring fits best. Once I knew this, the Holy Trainer V3 was the obvious choice. I have HTV3 standard and small; both are really comfortable, but the small is the most comfortable and more stealthy than the standard. Been wearing the HTV3 for about 9 weeks and absolutely love it!
I am so far, I’m finding it very helpful and surprisingly liberating to find out I’m not a weird freak etc.
A week doesn’t seem a long time but already I find my attitude changing (I hope for the better) Having spoken to @MistressS I’ve decided (well told) to update my introduction and be more honest about myself (here goes). I’ll start with MistressS, when I first joined I made a couple of crass comments on a couple of her pictures, in short I was boasting about not being locked up and being able to please myself over her pictures (I know very Alpha male crap). Thankfully for me MistressS decided to talk to me and tell me how I should behave in here etc., this conversation became more in-depth with her telling me about what a FLR is really about and I found myself becoming more interested and also shocked, I was more Vanilla than I thought (thank you MistressS for opening my eyes and also encouraging me to be honest with myself). MistressS has agreed to guide me on my chastity (and now more) journey and be my key holder while I try to bring my wife around, this isn’t going well at the moment, I’ve brought it up a couple of times and she still dismissive, again MistressS is helping me try to bring her on but take my time, when I get something in my head I’m like a bull in a china shop (this would certainly push my wife away). Before joining CM I felt like I was a dirty little pervert who had secrets to hide, when I joined here I felt a little more secure, now having spoken to MistressS and reading some of your posts I realise I’m not half as Kinky as I thought I was. you lot are some dam kinky buggers, I LIKE IT, please keep it up (pun intended ;o). I originally joined to curb my masturbating as I knew it was taking my attentions away from my wife and her needs, what I didn’t say was that I was also ashamed of myself because the porn I was watching made me feel guilty about my sexuality etc. I was masturbating to Femdom, Sissy, cuckold, CBT and shemale porn (a lot). I’d often wonder what it was like to have my Boi pussy stretched by a big strappon (there are some really REALLY big ones out there), what it would be like for a shemale/ tranny to fuck me against my will and cum deep inside me, be made to walk through the streets in lingerie with my mistress leading me, what it would be like to fuck as ssisy (yes this one I wanted to be the dominant role ), id often find myself whispering “good girl” under my breath as I wanked over them being bred by a bull. All these thoughts and more made me worry I was gay, this confused me as I don’t find men slightly attractive especially compared to a woman’s curves etc. Certainly no man compares to @MistressS (tough I’ll be honest that mindset has changed a little having looked at some of the sissy's here). I figured chastity and denial was the cure (so to speak) Now I’m here I realise that’s just me suppressing my kinks and in reality they are normal (well normal for most in here ;o) and I should say the very least be open and honest about them and where safe explore them further. There is nothing wrong in wanting to wear sexy lingerie, as I’ve now found out, even as I write this I’m wearing stocking and panties under my work clothes as I know MistressS will like it and approve but also I like the feel of soft panties on my skin and socking’s clinging to my legs, especially the lace part of the holdups that grips my legs and lets me know constantly they are there, though I do still get a little worried if this is normal etc. so still a way to go, as for chastity it is starting to look like an emotional release and not the physical cage I saw it for. As for the femdom, sissys etc I realise it has nothing to do we being gay for me, it’s about the dominance and submission, I’m drawn to more than anything but I’m now more open about finding a sissy attractive or when I see a nice caged or plugged shot I now think can I do that, not I shouldn’t do that. I want to explore that side of me, also that wants to experience denial, humiliation but also the physical side of being plugged, pegged, caged and possibly even taken by another man at my mistresses pleasure (though I’ll be honest I still have a way to go to get to that point I think), up until speaking to MistressS the most submissive thing I could think of was being pegged by a mistress, till she asked what about sucking another man’s cock with no restraint other than being told to suck it. My first thoughts were NO WAY, but as the week goes on I find myself wondering could I suck another man’s cock or even let a man take me and breed me as a sissy boi, I’m still yet to answer than without a whole list of proviso’s to date ;o) Again these thoughts alarm me but excite me all the same, will this be an unfulfilled desire, I guess time will tell (or my wife mistress will tell me ;O) I’m not sure how much my wife will accept all parts of me as she’s very Vanilla and since the birth of our son almost Asexual, which is why to an extent I’m experimenting without touching another person (so I’m guessing dressing up, dildos etc. will be my choice till my wife takes control from MistressS), even if my wife takes half of my kinks forward I think I’d be a very happy man. If you have any questions, comments or suggestions feel free to comment or ask me. PS myCB6000 should be here this week, I can’t wait as I’m not good at pure self-control, 1 week is my maximum to date, I really am a pathetic sub. Note – I mean no offence to anyone by any other the above, if I caused offence I apologies, I don’t know how to address all the different types of person and terminology in here and also there is nothing wrong with being gay, I was merely stating it worried me as it caused me confusion and alarm as I’m a happily married man who loves and worships his wife.