Hi all, I am new here, trying deviceless chastity

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    Hi all,

    I just created an account to share experiences with you guys. I am from Spain (sorry for my English), happily married with one kid, and I've been fantasizing about being locked since I saw the first chastity picture 13 years ago.

    I had my first experience about chastity in 2010 when my wife was away for a few days and I went to a sexshop in my city to by a CB3000. I put it on right away and stayed locked for 4 days until my wife came back from her trip. I told her about the device, I remember she was a bit disappointed but agreed on keep me locked for a few hours more if I gave her a body massage. After that, she gave me the key back and I masturbated, but a really intense pain started on my right nut. It was really tight, numb, and hurt like a bitch. Two days later, the pain continued and it spread down to my right leg and back to my kidney. I visited a doctor and they said it could be epididymitis, which is a swelling of the testicular cords. My wife at that time was really angry with me for playing with the device and hurting myself, you can imagine. The pain eventually went away around 6 months later and had my first kid, so I guess I did not harm it too much.

    Nevertheless, my wife was so piss off with me and with all the bad experience, I left my chastity fetish aside for a few years. Then I thought that maybe the device was too tight or a bad design or something and gave it another try with the advent of so many chinese cheap devices. I tried many of them, but I always was getting the same pain in the nut and leg and cannot wear them for more than 1-2. I am really sad about it, I want it, my wife understand my fetish and wanted to play from time to time, buy I can't for health issues. Now things are even worse, since I have some kind of autoimmune vasculitis, that somehow is triggered when I wear a device.

    In the last few years she has been loosing her interest for sex (now she is 45) and we only have it very occasionally, like 3-4 times/year. And I am back to my porn/masturbation habit, having later negative feelings for her, for not doing with me the things I see in the porn videos and negative feelings about masturbation because it makes the emotional connection with her between us weaker and weaker. We tried honor-based chastity, which does not work for us, because after a couple of days she looses any interest and does not care if I jerk off or not and I go back to porn.

    So I've been thinking a lot about a deviceless chastity mechanism, but that gave more control to my wife than the standard honor system. At first we tried with temporary tattoos applied at the sensitive parts of my penis so that if I masturbate, it wears off very quickly. Temporary tattoos are not bad, they can last up to 5 days, with showers, swimming etc, but my wife is concerned about long-term side effects of having something glued to my penis.

    One day, watching the movie "The Mummy", when the mistress of the Pharaoh appears naked but with ink stripes along her body, so that if anyone dares to touch her, it will be noticed. We (I) thought a bit and decided to try with a black waterproof eyeliner and permanent liquid red lipstick. So now I am writing you with a nice black and red ladybug painted by my wife in the head of my cock, that if I dare to touch will be noticed. I've been kept chaste for the last week, where I've been giving one hour massage to my wife everyday and taking care as much as I can of all chores. She is delighted, and even she told me that one of this days I will give her oral while staying chaste for her, which is like a dream come true. But I don't know how much is this going to last, it is a lot of effort on her side to draw me things everyday.

    And the reason I joined CM is precisely that, comment with you my deviceless chastity experience and know if you guys have also dreamed with this idea.

    Cheers!
     
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    Welcome to our community and hope you enjoy being part of it
     
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    Hi, welcome to CM
     
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    Hello and welcome. I wish you luck on your journey. Have you considered options other than ball trap devices? If you are pierced, there are some shaft only options or maybe a belt would be a possibility. While I use a HTv3 nub, there are others here who use non-ball trap devices and prefer them.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    Hello and welcome
     
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    Greetings Traveler! Welcome to The Mansion!!!
     
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    There are hundreds of different designs for devices nowadays (just have a browse on AliExpress) so you might be able to find something that she'll think is harmless fun, perhaps for use as a punishment for not putting your plate in the dishwasher or leaving the toilet lid up, and work up from there.

    That said, I've gone over two years on the honour system but it did require here to be fully involved, which worked because she found (or maybe to some extent I let her to believe that I was bigger and harder if I'd gone without for a few days to a couple of weeks instead of my usual several times a day routine, and the orgasms were better for me too. What it came down to was that I was able to leave myself alone if I had the promise of relief in a known timescale.

    The arrangement went through phases when we'd just have fairly straight sex a couple of times a week, to periods when she'd deny me - using bondage and delay spray to prevent me having an orgasm while she took full advantage, only untying me once I'd promised not to touch myself for until some future time. Ultimately we went for several months where I was guaranteed five minutes attention every day. I'd be tied spreadeagled, she'd stroke my penis for five minutes in time with a metronome, at a speed that either gave me a chance to come or would just drive me crazy, and if I hadn't for a day or more I'd be that much more sensitive so she'd be that much slower. Sometimes if I'd gone without for a few days she'd do it quickly to give me an orgasm but keep going for the full five minutes so I was still frustrated when she stopped. Then when the time was up she might use delay spray or kneel over my mouth to get her own satisfaction. But I wouldn't be released until I'd promised clearly not to masturbate for the next 48 hours, renewed 24 hours later of course. What we found was that knowing I had the chance (even if less than 50% or even 25%) of an orgasm the next night helped my self-control and allowed me to cope with the frustration.
     
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    hello @despita2 and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well. i did work in Spain.
     
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    Thanks a lot for the comments. Indeed we (she) are planning to go for the honor system in a couple of weeks, but I agree that I would need more attention from her side to know that she cares and that it is totally worth it to remain chaste for her.

    I've been already seen some advancements in her, asking me to do many things for her like 1 hour foot rubs, cook for her, etc.

    Today I am writing this with a nice tiger drawn in my cock...
     
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    I've used honor system quite a bit myself, and in many ways it's easier to accomplish than finding a good fitting cage device. Plus, sounds like you have a nice excuse for your SO to hold your cock while she draws. :)
     
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    My wife and I have just recently started with chastity, so we too are on the honor system. Your post regarding your pain and physical difficulties sounds similar to my experience although I am seeing a clearing through the woods.

    Even so, I know I can pull out of my device, so it's still really the honor system anyway. (maybe some day she will upgrade me to something more secure, shrug).

    I actually find a great deal of excitement and satisfaction in knowing that my wife has such utter and complete psychological grasp over me that I wouldn't dare please myself even though physically I am able. In a way, the control seems even more intense this way.

    I have learned through this (admittedly short) process to adapt my thoughts, wants, and desires based on my wife's direction. Chastity is not following the path I had laid out in my mind. And now I feel excited and satisfied knowing my wife is getting the enjoyment she wants out of it.

    I know every man has different motivations for wanting this lifestyle, so maybe my words, situation, and experience are not applicable to you.
     
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    ooh that nice. i wud love a cat draw on mine but it not really big enoug for to draw on.
     
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    Such a valuable lesson! I love seeing posts from men who have realized that trying to completely map out and control their own chastity often tends to detract from the KH's pleasure. :)
     
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    Thank you for sharing this! This is an interesting idea, since it provides a sort of "deviceless chastity" as you mentioned, but also gives her a specific way to mark you as her own every day.
     
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