Something I’ve noticed, seems like someone will post a question, stick around for a few days and respond to them, and then at some point people keep responding but the OP disappears. Then it’s just a lot of responses without any interaction. I know I get a notification when someone responds to one of my threads, seems almost rude to open discussion and ditch it. I know that if even if it’s not my thread and I’ve commented on it, I will get a notification of new activity. I check my alerts and find many are from old threads from wayward posters that have abandoned the original thread. There isn’t a question here, just chatting about it, I guess someone only wanted to interact for a few days and then disappear into internet oblivion lol
When I get messages from men asking me to hold their keys, I have learned to wait a week before I reply. After a week most will have disappeared or lost interest. Only the serious ones will remain, maybe 2 a year. The others will have just wanted to jerk off while asking questions about it.
I am not sure what the ratio is for experts versus daytrippers but I am sure there is a universal law of some sorts (like the Fibonacci sequence that describes the finite number of hardcore enthusiasts in contrast to the revolving door of visitors. The marina in front of our house is a great example of this. At any given point, I will be on my boat working on it and I will see the new arrivals. Gung ho, new boat, all the gear and trappings. Boisterous sailor talk gives way to a molding boat a month or two later. But the stalwarts are always down there rain or shine. Seems universal?
This is how health clubs make their money. After the New Year everyone signs up to "get in shape". Come back weeks later and most never show up again after a few workouts. But the regulars are still there.
I guess I can understand removing myself from all this if 1. My partner was adamant about not being into this. 2. I have been into this so long I felt I have shared and learned as much as I was going to. Or 3. I got sick of answering the same questions from different people. There are only so many times you can answer someone about their burning balls, and how to ask their wife to be their kh. Number three is more likely, no offense to anyone that has questions or is excited about chastity, but sharing the same advice and stories can be tiresome for both the one telling as well as those listening. That is different than just showing up, asking, and then disappearing though.
Keep in mind that some people are here for the community aspect, and some people are here just for information. I run a smaller group, and while we have something like 3500 registered users, my guesstimate is that only three or four dozen are "active" at any point (i.e., posting odd questions, answering questions, engaging in or derailing discussion, etc.). Some people are still intimidated by the internet, and find groups to be tiring. Those people will ask a few questions, and they're done. Others will hand around for a while, either to be helpful, or because (like me, for example) they have nothing better to do . ;-)
What's really weird is I've had multiple individuals express interest in a cage I'm selling then disappear for days if not weeks. If you've changed your mind, put on your big boy britches and say so. I won't be offended. If you send me a message saying I'm interested in X then ghost me, I get kind of annoyed.
You have to understand that men are very easily distracted. They will just drop what they’re doing at the drop of a hat. Sometimes they don’t even finish their