So I’ve been locked in and off for about a year now, for a week or so at a time, and last month she came up with something different. We were looking for a way to get her to feel more invested in the situation, rather than it sometimes being “lock and ignore”. So I suggested maybe there’s a forfeit that she has to pay for locking me up, so that she has to consider that when making choices, but I couldn’t think of what that might be. A few days later she came back with the suggestion that she has to wear a uniform if she wants to keep me locked up. She has a huge uniform fetish, so this is a turn on for her, and also for me! She doesn’t have a specific uniform, but what we agreed is that she has to wear a formal shirt and tie if she wants to keep me locked. She has free reign over whatever else she wears, skirt, pants, whatever, but she has to wear the shirt and tie, to work, around the house, wherever she is. She’s free to not wear it whenever she wants, but then she has to let me out, but the choice is entirely hers. Basically, if she puts on a tie in the morning, I’m not coming that day. This has added a whole new element to our lives, where I’ll be wondering what she’s going to wear, and then she’ll come downstairs wearing a tie and go straight out to work, and we both know I’m not getting out that day. She wore it for six days last week, I got out at the weekend. On Sunday she went shopping and bought four new fitted shirts and a bunch of ties. I think she’s really getting into this...
looks for me that asking her to pay a forfeit for you being locked is kind of topping from the bottom, but if it works in your relationship, good job!
Sounds like a fun game, Whatever works for you as a couple is right. I believe that chastity can be anything from extended foreplay to a significant part of a FLR to a way of imposing submission in a full time BDSM relationship. Enjoy;
Really hot to see her get into the mix! Regarding challenges having the keyholder manage, update and apprise you of your circumstances, I found it hard for my wife to stay on that. It would really take the wind out of my sales when on a release night she fell asleep or something. Also, I didn't want annoy her by talking to her or remind her. My solution was to verbally set a date and conditions regardless of how you come up with it (use dice, games or whatever to come up with a date). Then use a personal email / calendar account (like gmail) and send her an appointment to her personal account - just called "Release." I have a reminder set for 3 days before and it is right there on her calendar so as normal life stuff that goes on (on our family calendar; kids schedule etc), she just sees it and is something natural to come up. So regardless if your wife / partner is super engaged and part of the process or has a hard time remembering, this would seem to be a simple solution to keep things going. Actually, here is a screenshot of my appointment that I updated yesterday ... first it just said "Release" ... now it says: After I updated the appointment, she called a few minutes later laughing ; ) For me, this is subtle way to say things to my wife that may be otherwise difficult when we're in "normal life" mode etc. Thanks for sharing your story!
That screenshot fills me with horror. I'll be blunt to how I see this from her point of view. It's all about "I", and "me", and you're referring to her in the third person, objectifying her. No wonder she's laughing. In her place all I see is a loner living in a fantasy world, not a partner focusing on what you're doing for her. Until you change your attitude, I suspect that she'll just leave you to dream in your little imaginary world and those 20 days overdue are going to increase rather a lot. If you enjoy it then that's fine for you, but it seems to me that she's getting very little from your game. I'm not surprised that she falls asleep on release night!